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Cannot get into Xmas stuff with all this going on.

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Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Tue November 16, 2021 8:28pmReport post

Hiya.

I am seeing Xmas stuff everywhere in shops , houses etc.

With my hubby on RUI and nearly 6 months in I just cannot get into the Xmas swing of things.

I know with timeframes it's gonna be after Xmas but cannot get into it.

Xx

Mumof3girls

Member since
November 2021

201 posts

Posted Tue November 16, 2021 10:10pmReport post

I feel the same Hun although hasn't been as long for me. Husbands bail extension runs out 2nd December. Just thinking of Christmas makes me sad as it won't be the same for my kids if dads not there to wake them up in the morning. X

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Tue November 16, 2021 11:18pmReport post

Hiya hun.

That's sad to think about your kids nothing being with there dad on Xmas.

We havnt got any kids just us 2.

And we worked out timeframes so should be over Xmas now.

Take care xx

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2546 posts

Posted Wed November 17, 2021 4:41amReport post

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Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Wed November 17, 2021 2:09pmReport post

Blimey Smile.

That must be horrendous just having a phone call at Christmas.

X

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2546 posts

Posted Wed November 17, 2021 2:11pmReport post

Unfortunately we have a few more to go through, yes not easy!

Mw

Member since
March 2021

150 posts

Posted Wed November 17, 2021 4:14pmReport post

I feel exactly the same, this will be the first Xmas without my hubbie and I really don't want to think about it. I could quite easily just stay in bed all day and not open the door to anyone, but I have my 2 grown up daughters to think about. Next year will be different though because he's due to be released the week before Xmas.

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Wed November 17, 2021 4:42pmReport post

Omg girls that's shocking.

Cannot stop crying thinking about you both x

Mw

Member since
March 2021

150 posts

Posted Wed November 17, 2021 6:53pmReport post

Chelsea 1 - my only advice would be to make it a good Christmas. We expected a suspended sentence and he got custodial........ Make some flippin good memories while you can my love xxx I'm thinking of you and hope you get a good result xxx

Starry

Member since
June 2021

85 posts

Posted Wed November 17, 2021 8:38pmReport post

I am dreading Christmas too ladies. I am trying to get into the Christmas and have bought lots of our children's presents. Hubby is at home only for the sake of the children. My heart is broken and our relationship is over. He is released under investigation, 10months in.
I am petrified that in the weeks leading up to Christmas the police will be finished with his phone and charges brought and social services brought in to ruin Christmas.
I have no idea how I will explain to family and the children where he is.
I just want to get Christmas with my children ????but I feel like the justice system won't care that it's Christmas

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Thu November 18, 2021 5:19pmReport post

Thabk you ladies.

If it wasn't for the lovely people in this group would have thrown Xmas out the window.

Gonna try and make it a good Xmas.

Thank you xx

Jayjay

Member since
December 2021

695 posts

Posted Wed December 8, 2021 6:41pmReport post

I feel the same. Only 1 week since the knock, still unknown if/what charges. Usually love Xmas, Primary aged son trying to be positive for him and will have brave face on, but he will be devastated if no Dad there Xmas eve/morning not allowed to stop over

ScaredLamb

Member since
May 2021

203 posts

Posted Thu December 9, 2021 9:37pmReport post

We are making this Christmas count. It's my daughters first Christmas and at only 3 months old is really doesn't care abaout anything other than the pretty lights. But we are here. We are healthy. My husband is so much happier than ever and fighting his issues.
And frankly - we don't know if he will be at home with us next year or in prison. So we will make it count this year.
We are doing it all. Santa visits. Matching pjs. Big Christmas tree and all the decorations.