Starting a new relationship
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I don't plan to or want to but I'm looking for peoples experiences of starting a new relationship during or after the investigation is over. It's been over a year since we had the knock with no charges yet (police have told me for the last 6months it will be any day now) or devices back. I can't see me ever trusting or being in a relationship again I don't think I'd ever feel 100% I could trust someone and definitely never have anyone live with me again or stop over when the children are here.
so for those that trusted and found someone new did you tell them everything from the start? Did social services need to meet/speak to them?
sorry it's just something I've been wondering lately and I suppose getting ready to celebrate Christmas alone I miss having male company someone to have a laugh with and walk me home on the dark nights from work.
personally I don't want to be living this shit storm of a life I've been dealt with so wouldn't dream of dumping it on someone else.
thanks for letting me clear these thoughts out of my head.
so for those that trusted and found someone new did you tell them everything from the start? Did social services need to meet/speak to them?
sorry it's just something I've been wondering lately and I suppose getting ready to celebrate Christmas alone I miss having male company someone to have a laugh with and walk me home on the dark nights from work.
personally I don't want to be living this shit storm of a life I've been dealt with so wouldn't dream of dumping it on someone else.
thanks for letting me clear these thoughts out of my head.
Dear Rusty123,
Thank you for posting on the Family and Friends forum, we understand that it is not easy to post on a forum about these difficult situations. I can see that you have not yet had a reply on your post, hopefully someone else in a similar situation can reply soon with some support.
It is evident that you are finding the current situation hard, with this in mind I suggest that, you take some time to look after yourself. This could be simple self-care activities such as going on a walk alone or engaging in a hobby you enjoy. It is important that you take care of yourself at this difficult time. I would also encourage you to contact our Stop it Now! helpline. The helpline is anonymous, confidential and free to phone on 0808 1000 900. One of our trained advisors will then be able to explore your situation in detail and provide some support. Our trained advisors deal with similar concerns to yours every day, and will be able to talk these through with you and offer you the best advice we can.
I hope this has been helpful.
Take care,
Lucy
Thank you for posting on the Family and Friends forum, we understand that it is not easy to post on a forum about these difficult situations. I can see that you have not yet had a reply on your post, hopefully someone else in a similar situation can reply soon with some support.
It is evident that you are finding the current situation hard, with this in mind I suggest that, you take some time to look after yourself. This could be simple self-care activities such as going on a walk alone or engaging in a hobby you enjoy. It is important that you take care of yourself at this difficult time. I would also encourage you to contact our Stop it Now! helpline. The helpline is anonymous, confidential and free to phone on 0808 1000 900. One of our trained advisors will then be able to explore your situation in detail and provide some support. Our trained advisors deal with similar concerns to yours every day, and will be able to talk these through with you and offer you the best advice we can.
I hope this has been helpful.
Take care,
Lucy
Hi Rusty123
Its been over 4 years for me. Personally I could never be with another man ever again, I would not trust them. I thought I was a good judge of character, how wrong was I, he pulled the wool right over my eyes. I will not put myself or daughter at risk again, which is very sad and also lonely. I'm actually bi sexual and would have a relationship with a women where I know I would be safe, but my parents are homophobic, so looks like I'll just have to be very lonely :(
I think you would have to really tell any new partner about what has happened because he would probably want to know why your children can't see their dad. Such a hard situation.
Its been over 4 years for me. Personally I could never be with another man ever again, I would not trust them. I thought I was a good judge of character, how wrong was I, he pulled the wool right over my eyes. I will not put myself or daughter at risk again, which is very sad and also lonely. I'm actually bi sexual and would have a relationship with a women where I know I would be safe, but my parents are homophobic, so looks like I'll just have to be very lonely :(
I think you would have to really tell any new partner about what has happened because he would probably want to know why your children can't see their dad. Such a hard situation.