Help needed - grooming allegation
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Hi,
I need some help/advice from anyone who's been in a similar position. I'm stepmum to two beautiful children - 5 and 9. On Wednesday last week, I got a call from my partner to say he'd been arrested on suspicion of attempting to meet a child under 16 following grooming. He's been speaking to the sister of one of his daughter's friends (aged 15) on facebook - nothing sexual (and the girl's statement even says nothing sexual was discussed and he never tried to meet her), but they've seized all of his digital devices and he's on bail. He's unable to have unsupervised contact with any children under the age of 16, which is destroying all of us. The solicitor has advised that, because the allegation is classed as pretty low down as far as risk goes, this is likely to go on for 6-8 months. CPS have made contact with the children's mother, but only to say they'll set up a meeting. I don't know how to carry on like this, or how we try to get any sense of normality while this is ongoing? I'm terrified he'll be charged, as we'll lose everything.
Any advice much appreciated.
I need some help/advice from anyone who's been in a similar position. I'm stepmum to two beautiful children - 5 and 9. On Wednesday last week, I got a call from my partner to say he'd been arrested on suspicion of attempting to meet a child under 16 following grooming. He's been speaking to the sister of one of his daughter's friends (aged 15) on facebook - nothing sexual (and the girl's statement even says nothing sexual was discussed and he never tried to meet her), but they've seized all of his digital devices and he's on bail. He's unable to have unsupervised contact with any children under the age of 16, which is destroying all of us. The solicitor has advised that, because the allegation is classed as pretty low down as far as risk goes, this is likely to go on for 6-8 months. CPS have made contact with the children's mother, but only to say they'll set up a meeting. I don't know how to carry on like this, or how we try to get any sense of normality while this is ongoing? I'm terrified he'll be charged, as we'll lose everything.
Any advice much appreciated.
Hi Jayne G
I haven't had experience with my own or step children but I would imagine they won't keep him from his own kids but they may insist on supervised visits and maybe not over night. The trouble is different areas do different things, there is no hard rule that we can all follow.
My experience of my husband downloading has taken very nearly a year from start until sentencing but again I've known of people moving really quickly and others taking much longer.
You are obviously still in shock mode and that will fade as time goes by. You must make sure that you take some self care and make sure you look after yourself.
Keep coming in here for advise and help, you will find no matter what our experience we are all non judgemental and supportive
Much love xx
I haven't had experience with my own or step children but I would imagine they won't keep him from his own kids but they may insist on supervised visits and maybe not over night. The trouble is different areas do different things, there is no hard rule that we can all follow.
My experience of my husband downloading has taken very nearly a year from start until sentencing but again I've known of people moving really quickly and others taking much longer.
You are obviously still in shock mode and that will fade as time goes by. You must make sure that you take some self care and make sure you look after yourself.
Keep coming in here for advise and help, you will find no matter what our experience we are all non judgemental and supportive
Much love xx