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Social services? Help, please.

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Brokendreams

Member since
February 2020

48 posts

Posted Thu November 25, 2021 10:22amReport post

If the father of your children is convicted, do social services automatically get involved if they're not already?

Back story is that my sons father pleaded guilty to extreme pornography - animals. About 100 photos.



Unsure how this is seen regarding social as there's no children.

Or they only involved if he mentions the children during court?

We don't live together and there is no SS involvement at the moment. (the knock was July 2019).



Any advice welcome please, and please don't delete comments if you reply - as I like to come back and read and reread when I'm feeling anxious.



Thank you.

Xx

Dawn14

Member since
June 2021

472 posts

Posted Fri November 26, 2021 2:02amReport post

Hi,

Has he been sentenced? Maybe if he has ask his po, sorry I can't really help. If he has been charged does he have a shop ( he might not as as u have said there were no iiocs ) can the police nor help?

Nemesis

Member since
July 2021

125 posts

Posted Sun November 28, 2021 2:12pmReport post

If you are not together I don't they will get involved

With us. We split the day of the knock. Social services involved as we had lived together. I am following their advice to the letter and I agree with the supervised contact. For us that can only be a contact centre



social services no longer involved

Brokendreams

Member since
February 2020

48 posts

Posted Mon November 29, 2021 7:21pmReport post

He hasn't been sentenced yet.



Unsure what will happen.



Feeling very alone tbh. Animals isn't his thing. He was in a WhatsApp group with guys from work (building site) and it was a mix of porn and gross videos. And that. And he download some to send to them and we ended up in this situation.



And I feel social services paint these people as monsters.



Makes me wonder if I'll ever be able to get on with my life.

SadAndWorried

Member since
October 2019

154 posts

Posted Tue December 7, 2021 9:26amReport post

Hi Brokendreams,

I'm not sure but my guess would be that at most SS might want a chat and maybe an assessment and that would be it, then close your case. As you've said he's not living with you and it's nothing to do with children. I can't see why the children would need safeguarding from him. You could call the oic and ask them directly if you have been referred to socail services as that's how they get involved. Also call the Family Rights Group, you'll find them online. I've called them many times and used their forum, they know it all when it comes to SS and are very much on your side and going from there forum they have a lot to do with sexual offences. xx