Who else knows in the family.
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Hello all.
My hubby is six months in since the knock and awaiting a volunterer interview on 16/December.
Just wondering who else in the family set up knows.
His brother has disowned him. We have no children but I am standing by him. Yes he knows what he has done wrong and will live with him forever.
Thank you. X
My hubby is six months in since the knock and awaiting a volunterer interview on 16/December.
Just wondering who else in the family set up knows.
His brother has disowned him. We have no children but I am standing by him. Yes he knows what he has done wrong and will live with him forever.
Thank you. X
Hiya Lee.
I haven't told my side of the family. Cannot bring myself to it.
Hopefully when we have moved and it won't go into the press so won't have to say anything.
Like I said hubby's brother isn't talking to us now and disowned him.
Xx
I haven't told my side of the family. Cannot bring myself to it.
Hopefully when we have moved and it won't go into the press so won't have to say anything.
Like I said hubby's brother isn't talking to us now and disowned him.
Xx
Yes they live in the town where the court is. They don't read the local press.
I am moving with hubby so won't appear in that press thank God.
Take each day as it comes.
Xx
I am moving with hubby so won't appear in that press thank God.
Take each day as it comes.
Xx
Does anyone in either family have children? I didn't tell anyone in my family until after sentencing. Because my sister has kids under 16, even though my husband has seen them 3/4 times in 8 years I was forced by his police offender manager to disclose to them. It was either I did it, or SS would be informed and they would do it. As we all agreed my husband would not have any contact with her kids, I don't believe SS were ever contacted.
While I totally understand not wanting to tell family, there can be situations completely out of your control where others are forcing that disclosure. My sister was extremely upset that I hadn't told her sooner and that I'd been dealing with it all with no support network. I also no longer have to lie to the immediate family as to why my husband isn't coming etc, which does make life easier.
While I totally understand not wanting to tell family, there can be situations completely out of your control where others are forcing that disclosure. My sister was extremely upset that I hadn't told her sooner and that I'd been dealing with it all with no support network. I also no longer have to lie to the immediate family as to why my husband isn't coming etc, which does make life easier.
As said above if they get a sentence with a SHPO and there kids in the family then disclosure is liekito be required.
My partner got in trouble for not disclosing to my aunt and uncle for my cousin. We thought it would be ok since we only see my cousin at family events and I supervise. But we were wrong, thankfully the police have my partner another chance.
Same goes for friends with kids. Your partner would need to avoid any gathering where children will or might be present. E.g. my partner can't come to weddings as kids are likely to be there.
My aunt and uncle were good about the disclosure thankfully. I also was encouraged to tell my mum and step dad by police, legally didn't need to but with the stress of disclosing to my aunt and uncle I needed the support from my mum. I find that some people will listen where an offender shows remorse, proof they are working on rehabilitation, and to explain my partner is managed by the police
My partner got in trouble for not disclosing to my aunt and uncle for my cousin. We thought it would be ok since we only see my cousin at family events and I supervise. But we were wrong, thankfully the police have my partner another chance.
Same goes for friends with kids. Your partner would need to avoid any gathering where children will or might be present. E.g. my partner can't come to weddings as kids are likely to be there.
My aunt and uncle were good about the disclosure thankfully. I also was encouraged to tell my mum and step dad by police, legally didn't need to but with the stress of disclosing to my aunt and uncle I needed the support from my mum. I find that some people will listen where an offender shows remorse, proof they are working on rehabilitation, and to explain my partner is managed by the police
It's such a difficult situation to be in only 4 people know at the moment and I just want to get through each day without the stress and worry of the media etc but I know we wont be spared and it will be reported (like we havent been through enough already) but when the gossip starts my only concern will be for my son those that matter will show support (hopefully) and everyone else can think what they like I wont have to explain as they are not walking our journey xx
Hiya all.
First of all thank you for your replies.
We have no kids on either side of the families , all the kids are grown up and left home.
We have both stopped using all kinds of social media from the day of the knock.
We know once he has been for the volunteered interview its still gonna be a bit if a wait for CPS but hopefully will be quick.
Thank you xx
First of all thank you for your replies.
We have no kids on either side of the families , all the kids are grown up and left home.
We have both stopped using all kinds of social media from the day of the knock.
We know once he has been for the volunteered interview its still gonna be a bit if a wait for CPS but hopefully will be quick.
Thank you xx
My mum knew,
Se loved my husband, but as soon as she heard she said nope get out.
Yet over the next few weeks she came around and said she didn't like what he'd done but she still liked him... I haven't told anyone in my family. I would never ever because I know that my family wouldn't except it... For them everyone who does this kinda thing is a peado...
His parents know but I think they try and block it out... Which is fair because I do...
If this wasn't such a shameful crime it would be a lot easier to open up and talk about it...
Se loved my husband, but as soon as she heard she said nope get out.
Yet over the next few weeks she came around and said she didn't like what he'd done but she still liked him... I haven't told anyone in my family. I would never ever because I know that my family wouldn't except it... For them everyone who does this kinda thing is a peado...
His parents know but I think they try and block it out... Which is fair because I do...
If this wasn't such a shameful crime it would be a lot easier to open up and talk about it...