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It's so hard at the moment. My kids are sick all the time (who isn't after the last couple of lockdown years) and I'm just trying to keep everything together. I just want to go to work. I love my job - I work part time and I've had to take so many days off because my kids are too poorly to attend childcare. Suddenly doing all this without a partner is so challenging. He chose his selfish appalling addiction over his family, putting himself in a position where he is of no use as he can only have supervised contact And now I'm trying to keep things going as a single parent and I spend so much time getting cryed at/ whined at/ shouted at by poorly infants who don't sleep properly. I feel like I'm being a bad mum when I leave them in childcare when really could do with being at home, or on days I have to call in sick because they are really to poorly I feel like a bad employee. Just feeling upset and overwhelmed this morning.
I'm so sorry you're having a tough time cloud. I was a single parent when my children were young and it's so difficult when you have work but they're ill and that's without all the trauma you've been through and are going through.
I just wanted to say I know how hard it is and it sounds like you're doing an amazing job!
It's a crap situation but it can't be helped and everyone who is affected will understand that.
Try take half an hour once the kids are in bed to just sit and breathe. Perhaps you could ask your husband to go for a walk or something out of the house at that time just to give you that tiny bit of respite from the many drains on your emotional resources at the moment.
Sending love x
I just wanted to say I know how hard it is and it sounds like you're doing an amazing job!
It's a crap situation but it can't be helped and everyone who is affected will understand that.
Try take half an hour once the kids are in bed to just sit and breathe. Perhaps you could ask your husband to go for a walk or something out of the house at that time just to give you that tiny bit of respite from the many drains on your emotional resources at the moment.
Sending love x
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I just wanted to send a big virtual hug. My bus band is Rui so is allowed at home while devices are being checked. He is here purely to help with the children as I can't do it on my own as I work too.
I know too well
once devices are checked I will be in your situation with supervised visits etc......
I admire you and you're doing so well.
no matter what you are there for your children and will always be their number 1
xx
I know too well
once devices are checked I will be in your situation with supervised visits etc......
I admire you and you're doing so well.
no matter what you are there for your children and will always be their number 1
xx
Thank you xx I know it can't be helped it just gets on top of me at times. It's been hard building new life and routines without him and just when I think "I've got this" they get ill again or some other unknown comes along to make it all tricky again. But such is life.
We seperated the day of the knock and he lives an hour away now. He lost his job and therefore we get no child maintenance now so mine is my only income which raises the guilt and pressure a lot. Aside from the fact I genuinely love my job and just want the chance to be there and be good at it.
But anyway the children are brighter than they were this morning so that's good.
Thank you for your kind words xx
We seperated the day of the knock and he lives an hour away now. He lost his job and therefore we get no child maintenance now so mine is my only income which raises the guilt and pressure a lot. Aside from the fact I genuinely love my job and just want the chance to be there and be good at it.
But anyway the children are brighter than they were this morning so that's good.
Thank you for your kind words xx
Sending big love from a fellow single parent.
These are the hardest times. I hope you see all the amazing things you are managing to do for your children. My kids are 7+ so a little older now and I often think about how difficult it would have been looking after them all on my own when they were younger. It is hard not to feel resentful as it was never my choice to raise my kids this way.
So sending love and hopes that things get easier for you this week. I hope you are able to be gentle with yourself and find some moments of quiet. Xx
These are the hardest times. I hope you see all the amazing things you are managing to do for your children. My kids are 7+ so a little older now and I often think about how difficult it would have been looking after them all on my own when they were younger. It is hard not to feel resentful as it was never my choice to raise my kids this way.
So sending love and hopes that things get easier for you this week. I hope you are able to be gentle with yourself and find some moments of quiet. Xx
Thank you Len xx