Christmas
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I wish we could go into more detail on here but understand we cant always.
do you have anyone feeling the same as you? From what I've read a few family members don't want anything to do with your son, is there any that don't feel like that?
It's like grief but you can't talk about and share happy memories of your loved one which is so hard.
im so pleased your son is making good progress in prison and he has a second chance when he gets out.
xxx
do you have anyone feeling the same as you? From what I've read a few family members don't want anything to do with your son, is there any that don't feel like that?
It's like grief but you can't talk about and share happy memories of your loved one which is so hard.
im so pleased your son is making good progress in prison and he has a second chance when he gets out.
xxx
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Utterly heartbreaking. I can't listen to Christmas music and when people comment on the stress of organising Christmas, quite frankly I'd like to punch them! Wouldn't it be lovely if all we had to worry about was buying a few presents (insert eye roll here). It's also the heartbreak of the happy memories, which feel now as if they were based on lies. So yep, totally understand :-( xx
I too am finding Christmas incredibly distressing. I'm facing my first Christmas without my son. I'm fortunate to have supportive family though, is there a friend you can talk to smile? It must be so hard for you having to choose between people you love dearly. X
I know what you mean about people moaning about every day occurrences Lola, oh what we would give to go back to those days! X
I've always felt Christmas should be less commercial with less pressure as it's so painful for those going through tough time. Now I'm living it and it hurts more than I ever could have imagined!
We will all get through it in whatever way we need to. Sending strength to you all x
I know what you mean about people moaning about every day occurrences Lola, oh what we would give to go back to those days! X
I've always felt Christmas should be less commercial with less pressure as it's so painful for those going through tough time. Now I'm living it and it hurts more than I ever could have imagined!
We will all get through it in whatever way we need to. Sending strength to you all x
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This will be 2nd christmas wihout my son. we are not doing nanything have been invited for christmas lunch but we will not go as feel so gulity thinking about him being where he is and us having a good time. Thankfully our friend undertand.
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I feel for you in your situation. My Christmas is tainted again this year. The knock came this time last year so last Christmas was hard. Although he's just been convicted, sentencing isn't till the end of January. My saving grace is that he, my son, is home with me but still have this hanging over us again.
Absolutely. My partner is being sentenced tmw. Me and my kids dont know if he will be around or not. We dont know if it will be in the media or not. I'm feeling pretty worried and upset and Xmas on top of that feels like a bit of a joke. Struggling to keep my shit together really.
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Sending love Len, an incredibly stressful time but at least it signals the end of limbo.
I hope the judge is fair and everything works out as well as it can do.
Whatever the outcome you will get through this difficult time x
I hope the judge is fair and everything works out as well as it can do.
Whatever the outcome you will get through this difficult time x
Hi Len
Good luck for tomorrow and if it does go in the papers ( hopefully not ) it doesn't last long they soon move, I certainly no that doesn't help or make it any better but if u can just ride 1 more wave then as people say u can slowly move on x
Good luck for tomorrow and if it does go in the papers ( hopefully not ) it doesn't last long they soon move, I certainly no that doesn't help or make it any better but if u can just ride 1 more wave then as people say u can slowly move on x
Good luck for tomorrow Len I hope it goes as well as it can sending hugs xx
Christmas this year I cant face it to be honest but I still have my other adult children to think of so as much as I would just like to stay in bed for the festive period I cant we are all struggling with it this year! x
Christmas this year I cant face it to be honest but I still have my other adult children to think of so as much as I would just like to stay in bed for the festive period I cant we are all struggling with it this year! x
Really appreciate your love and well wishes thank you. Constantly amazed by all the strength, resilience and support shown on this forum. X
Good luck for today Len - you know that everyone on here will be thinking of you and feeling your pain. Could you let us know how you get on? xx
Thinking of you today Len xx sending strength x
Just an update. My partner (currently seperated)got 10yrs suspended for 2yrs and 10yrs shpo and sor. No media reporting allowed as my children may be identifiable. So certainly a relief for my kids and me. Hopefully we now have no more in limbo and it is now about rebuilding what we can.
Holding in the light all the women and men whose partners have had custodial or been in the media particularly. It is so tough and I wish I could be there for you all in person.
Holding in the light all the women and men whose partners have had custodial or been in the media particularly. It is so tough and I wish I could be there for you all in person.
Len I bet you're so relieved that the limbo is over and you can start to rebuild your lives.
I think my biggest fear is if anything goes in the media - please I hope you don't mind me asking, you say your husband's case had no media reporting allowed as your children may be identifiable? I understand if you don't want to say anymore than that, but if you do feel able to, how did that come about? Did you request it with the solicitor? I thought it was unusual to have a media ban allowed so am curious to see if we could apply the same to my husband's case if needed.
I think my biggest fear is if anything goes in the media - please I hope you don't mind me asking, you say your husband's case had no media reporting allowed as your children may be identifiable? I understand if you don't want to say anymore than that, but if you do feel able to, how did that come about? Did you request it with the solicitor? I thought it was unusual to have a media ban allowed so am curious to see if we could apply the same to my husband's case if needed.
Len
It must be a relief for you all
I wish you all the very best on rebuilding and for the future
Hugs sent xx
It must be a relief for you all
I wish you all the very best on rebuilding and for the future
Hugs sent xx
Hiya Len.
Thats fantastic news. Now you can sort of get on with your life.
If you don't mind. What did he get the sentence for.
Sorry for asking.
Big ((hugs)) xx
Thats fantastic news. Now you can sort of get on with your life.
If you don't mind. What did he get the sentence for.
Sorry for asking.
Big ((hugs)) xx
I just wrote it wrong its 10mths.
His sentence was for voyeurism and indecent images of a minor.
I'm so so grateful for all the support and the space you all provide. I think my partner has been very lucky. His crimes were a little different to most I hear on here and although I love him dearly it will take me a long time to work out how I feel properly.
However, I'm really relieved and I can start rebuild our lives again after the horrendous in limbo waiting bit. I hope everyone waiting gets their resolutions soon. Sending love.
However, I'm really relieved and I can start rebuild our lives again after the horrendous in limbo waiting bit. I hope everyone waiting gets their resolutions soon. Sending love.