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Judith

Member since
June 2021

195 posts

Posted Wed December 1, 2021 9:47amReport post

Good morning ladies

One year on from the day that changed our world. I know many of you have been waiting so much longer than that for a resolution to the legal process and have had to deal with so many more challenges, but I had been silently hoping we could move forward by now. As it is we are stuck in this strange hinterland which feels like a punishment in itself. So much has been lost that we have had to come to terms with, and whilst some groundwork has been completed ( Inform, some psychotherapy, finance adjustments etc) we increasingly seem to be putting our efforts into just waiting.

Tomorrow I'll pick myself up again I'm sure, get my things to do list back on track, stop feeling so damn sorry for myself. Just for today I might hang out with my friend Self Pity.

Grace Hush

Member since
August 2021

145 posts

Posted Wed December 1, 2021 9:59amReport post

I'm sorry you're stuck in limbo Judith. I feel much the same, it's a punishment in itself, but not one the courts take into account!

It's a tough journey and it's entirely understandable and normal to feel this way, or any way!

Sometimes self pity and allowing yourself to wallow can be very therapeutic. Bizarrely I find a couple of days of weeping in misery often helps me bounce back. For me it's healthier than locking away those negative feelings as they then threaten to overwhelm me when I do let them out!

I hope you can spend the day putting yourself first, doing the things you wish whilst you let yourself feel whatever you feel.

Sending love x

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2396 posts

Posted Wed December 1, 2021 8:03pmReport post

It's a horrendous journey we are all on I have never felt so sad in my entire life

Just wanted to send hugs your way xx

SoTired

Member since
March 2021

387 posts

Posted Wed December 1, 2021 8:08pmReport post

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Judith

Member since
June 2021

195 posts

Posted Wed December 1, 2021 8:47pmReport post

Thank you all. Decided to make an effort and have lunch out and did some Christmas shopping. A bit lower key than usual but altogether a better day than I originally anticipated. And, in the immortal words of the very un-pc character Scarlett O'Hara "Tomorrow is another day".

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2546 posts

Posted Wed December 1, 2021 8:57pmReport post

I often have a secret sob in my pillow!

SoTired

Member since
March 2021

387 posts

Posted Wed December 1, 2021 9:18pmReport post

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