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Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

878 posts

Posted Wed December 1, 2021 10:55pmReport post

Hiya.

So sorry.

I have been crying most of the day. I cannot stop worrying about the future and what it holds.

I am worried about him not working and providing for us again. I cannot work full time due to health issues.

I am worried about media etc and what goes with that.

Yes we have sold our house and awaiting for paperwork and moving away to my old mum's house in the north of the country. Will we settle there.

God I hate my hubby for what he has done but sticking with him because I dearly love him.

I have a doctor's appointment on Friday to see if they can help etc.

So sorry it's been my worse day since the knock 7 months.

Xx

Grace Hush

Member since
August 2021

145 posts

Posted Thu December 2, 2021 6:55amReport post

I'm sorry you're having a tough time at the moment Chelsea.

Hopefully your GP can offer some support.

Be patient with yourself, allow yourself to feel how you feel. This is so hard and you need time to heal.

Things will get better x

Lola53

Member since
May 2021

267 posts

Posted Thu December 2, 2021 8:29amReport post

Sending you big hugs Chelsea. There are good days and bad days - allow yourself to feel the pain and to cry, then do something nice and try to escape for a bit. Go for a winter walk, or a run if you can, take yourself out for tea and cake, get your nails done - whatever works for you. Also, I highly recommend some good high energy music; I have to avoid Christmas music or anything sad, but look on Spotify at the motivational running music, it works wonders, honestly! xx

Blackhound

Member since
October 2020

479 posts

Posted Thu December 2, 2021 10:44amReport post

Just know you're allowed to feel these feelings Chelsea... They're all normal...

Have you approached StopSo to see if you can see a special therapist ?

Sounds like you might need someone to lean on and get these emotions out ..

Cloud

Member since
May 2021

153 posts

Posted Thu December 2, 2021 2:08pmReport post

Sorry to hear this Chelsea. I had some really low moments after around 7 months. It is relentless and gets on top of us at times. You can do this. Let yourself grieve if you can. When you feel a bit stronger put things into categories of 'worries I can do something about' and 'worries I can't do anything about' and try to put aside those things in the second column xx thinking of you

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

878 posts

Posted Thu December 2, 2021 7:08pmReport post

Hello.

Thank you for everybodies kind comments.

Today not so bad.

Meet with my girlie friend she hasn't a clue what's going on but was ok.

Doctors appointment tomorrow at 10.30 so hopefully better news then.

Once again thank you xx

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

878 posts

Posted Fri December 3, 2021 7:31pmReport post

Hello.

Well today is a better day today. Thank you for some the people in here with advice etc.

Been to the doctors she was great and I mean great. She just reassured me everything would be ok and it wasn't my fault.

She gave me some concelling numbers to ring.

Xx

Len

Member since
May 2021

27 posts

Posted Sat December 4, 2021 8:34amReport post

There is something invaluable in knowing that you will have very low days but they are often followed up by ok days. I think we need to feel difficult emotions like grief but they are really big so our brains usually only let us do it in chunks because its too overwhelming!

I hope you have a few days of ease and are able to be gentle with yourself. Much love xx

Jayjay

Member since
December 2021

695 posts

Posted Sat December 4, 2021 1:31pmReport post

Hi Chelsea

sorry you're feeling so low. Chin up and remember you've done nothing wrong. Has your partner been charged and if so what for if you don't mind me asking?
have you been given any timescales for case to be dealt with