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Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Fri December 3, 2021 1:50pmReport post

I have found out the full charges in detail today before I have to face sitting in the court for my sons sentancing I have no idea how I am going to get through it! Truly broke me xx

Judith

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June 2021

195 posts

Posted Fri December 3, 2021 3:28pmReport post

Upset Mum

This must have been horrific for you. You have done nothing wrong yet you are being traumatised because you are a loving Mum trying to be alongside your son in his darkest times. I am not a Mum but just want to reach out and send my love.

I have thought long and hard about having the details about images my husband accessed and decided that, as the pictures would remain in my head for always, I didn't want to know. My husband himself has advised I don't attend Court as it would be too upsetting for me ( pity he didn't think about that earlier). As it is, due to ongoing covid restrictions, no supporters or public are allowed to attend.

There is something unique about a Mother's unconditional love, but it comes at great cost sometimes. I don't know if your son appreciated the strength of your love, but he should.

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Fri December 3, 2021 3:49pmReport post

Judith thank you

This has been a living nightmare for the last 16+ months while he deserves to be punished for the crimes he has committed and I do not in anyway condne what he has done he is my son and as you say its unconditional I wasnt sure if I would be going to the sentancing its not until the new year but I will and I know the prosecution will go in to the full details in great length :-( but I at least know what the charges are even though it's just heartbreaking xx

Smile through tears

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September 2021

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Posted Fri December 3, 2021 4:08pmReport post

You are very brave. I couldn't face going to court, in some ways I feel I let my son down to face the music on his own. One of many things I feel great sadness about.... he's my baby, my boy, my teenager, eventually so tall i looked up to him - and when he needed me most I couldn't do it.

But he knows I was and will be there for him (albeit at the end of a phone for now) that gives me comfort.

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Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Fri December 3, 2021 4:49pmReport post

Smile through tears

You could never let your son down you are there for him just because you didn't go to court dosent mean you failed him so dont think that of yourself

As mums I guess the guilt will always be there and I question myself all the time if only this if only that but we are here on this horrendous journey because of there actions

I like many mums will walk with our sons on this life changing journey

Some people will turn away from us once it goes in the media but for as long as I live I will never walk away I brought him in to the world its unconditional xx

Smile through tears

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September 2021

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Posted Fri December 3, 2021 5:01pmReport post

Thanks for that Upset x means a lot x

SoTired

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March 2021

387 posts

Posted Fri December 3, 2021 10:29pmReport post

Hi,

I am so sorry you're in this position and sending you so much care. I am 2 weeks ahead of you. Utterly traumatising is a massive understatement.

Xx

Maij

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December 2020

287 posts

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Maij

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