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Mumof3girls

Member since
November 2021

201 posts

Posted Sat December 4, 2021 12:52amReport post

I'm really struggling with my emotions tonight. I'm missing my husband so much and things have finally got on top of me. I'm fed up of being lonely and fed up of going through all of this without doing anything wrong to deserve it. I just want this nightmare to be over.

Dawn14

Member since
June 2021

472 posts

Posted Sat December 4, 2021 1:26amReport post

Hi mumof3girls,



I no how u feel I went to the doctors this week to tell her how I am feeling for her to say lets not tell them yet how u r feeling as we don't want to rock the boat, its like no one cares about the trauma we r put through, we r supposed to just take the shit that ss and anyone else who is involved with us. But y y should we when we r the innocent party why should we accept the shit, just because we want to support our family members xx things will get better, it just seems just a long way away x

Len

Member since
May 2021

27 posts

Posted Sat December 4, 2021 7:49amReport post

Are you having therapy mum of 3? I'm also a mum of 3 and therapy has really been the thing that has pulled me through. Helped me realise that my decisions needs to be made for me (and in turn the kids because what they need is what I need often) and that it is ok to walk the middle path and feel your way through. I'm also wondering if you have told many trusted friends? I really do know how hard it is, i wonder if you would journal. Sending so much love. Keep going, be gentle with yourself. No one knows your family and the path you need to take better than yourself. Xx

Mumof3girls

Member since
November 2021

201 posts

Posted Sat December 4, 2021 11:13amReport post

Hi, no I'm not having therapy. I haven't really been offered any support through this and not really in the financial situation to pay for these things myself. I haven't told close friends only my mum and sister but everytime I vent all I hear is that it all my husbands fault (stating the obvious) or they know how I feel (but they will never understand how this feels). I'm trying so hard to hold everything together but with everyday it feels like I'm breaking that little bit more. Yesterday was the day we was suppose to be told the extent of the case as devices would've been checked. This goalpost has now been moved for the 3rd time and now to June. I hate that strangers are able to mess around with my life like this and not give any care to the damage they're causing to me and my children everytime they move the goalposts. My kids are now finding this so difficult and everyday I have to watch them breakdown as well. Sorry I'm rambling a bit. X

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2396 posts

Posted Sat December 4, 2021 11:39amReport post

Mumof3

It's such a horrendous time for everyone I just wanted to send you hugs xx

Mumof3girls

Member since
November 2021

201 posts

Posted Sat December 4, 2021 1:39pmReport post

I will look them up thanks Lee. I've never fealt so lonely and isolated than I do right now. Never did I ever think my family would be going through this journey. I'm so glad i found this forum though as it allows me to vent to people who really do know what it is like. I have no idea where I'd be without you all x

Mumof3girls

Member since
November 2021

201 posts

Posted Sat December 4, 2021 1:39pmReport post

Thank you upset mum x