Family and Friends Forum

Dear Charlene1993,

Thank you for reaching out for support on the Family and Friends forum. I am very sorry to hear about your situation and I cannot imagine what you are feeling at this moment. I hope, as well as the support we can provide, that other forum members can provide further support to you at this time.

Our helpline is always available to you and those who are affected by situations such as this, for ongoing support or someone to talk to during this difficult time. You can contact us on our Stop It Now! helpline on 0808 1000 900. I would like to assure you that the helpline is anonymous, confidential and free to phone from a landline. We are here to offer a listening ear during this difficult time.

I would also like to provide the details of Survivors of Bereavement, they are a charity that provide support to those impacted by bereavement by suicide, you can contact them on 0300 111 5065. They are available Monday to Sunday, 9am-9pm. There are options to get support by email or access their forum. You can also find more details on their website here: https://uksobs.org/.

I would like to also give you details of the Samaritans, you can contact them on 116 123 if you experience suicidal thoughts or would like someone to listen to you.

We are here to support you.

Take care,

The Forum Team

Charlene1993

There are no words I can say to ease the pain you are feeling but I just wanted to to say how sorry I am to read this it is just heartbreaking sending you huge virtual hug I am so so sorry xx

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I'm so so sorry for your loss Charlene.

I know there is nothing I can say to ease the pain but take care of yourself as much as you can. Reach out for support if you need it. Lots of love xx

So sorry Charlene

My heart goes out to you.

Sending a virtual hug

Anne x

I'm in tears reading your update. Such sadness for a life cut short. All of us on this forum know that mental health plays a huge part in online offending and support post knock is almost non existent. I'm so sorry your husband felt he had no other option.

I hope you have some support. I'd love to give you a big hug. The best I can do is a virtual hug and sending you lots of love.

Xxx

Charlene, in tears reading this, there are no words adequate - just know that we're all here for you xx

I have no words, only how utterly tragic. Devastating. Sending my love, as a stranger who has feared this may happen to them on a few occassions.

I am so sorry for your loss, Charlene.

Thinking of you and sending you a virtual big hug.

Charlene

I will be thinking of you and send you virtual hugs

You are not alone.

Please seek out and accept as much support as you can.

So sorry, no words x

I am so sorry for ur loss sending u loving hugs to u xx

I am so sorry for your loss Charlene. I can't imagine what you are going through but we are hear to listen to anything you need to share. Your year has been so full of tragedy I feel for you so much. Thinking of you xxxx

Oh my gosh. I'm so sorry for your loss. In tears for you. Virtual hug not that it's really going to help you xxxx

I am so so sorry for your loss. I am sending love your way And I hope you have someone to lean on at this time. Reach out on here whenever you need, there's always someone to answer and hopefully help you feel a little less alone. Xx

I'm in tears reading your comment, my heart breaks for you. The whole situation we find ourselves in is so misunderstood and so taboo - help is so desperately needed to get the unknowing public to understand this problem so much more so people don't feel like this is the only way out.

Sending you a massive hug x

I am truly shocked to hear your sad sad news, sending big hugs to you with heartfelt love too. Remember you are not alone, we are all here for you. Take care lovely xx

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Charlene

Just to add my sincere sympathy for your loss. Please ensure you get yourself some support to deal with your bereavement process as it will be conflicted.

Charlene,

I am beyond devastated reading your news, the timing of your knock and circumstances were very similar to mine so I have often thought of you and wondered how things were. The heartache you've experienced is beyond cruel and I am so sorry for your loss. Please reach out, you are not alone.

Sending lots of hugs and love. Please take care of yourself. x

Charlene

I am so sorry to be reading your post there is no words I can say, just heartbreaking xxx

Oh Charlene. I am so sorry. I'm sure there is nothing to say that would make this easier. I am just so sorry. I'm sending all my love and hopes. I'm holding you and your partner in the light and hoping so much you find ease and love in these coming days. Xx

So sorry for your loss, I can't imagine the pain you are going through. Please get all the bereavement support you can get, cruise bereavement support were amazing for me after a loss of a loved one xxxx

Hello

firstly I'm so sorry and there really are no words.
just wanted to say my husband took his own life, we got the first knock August 2019 I had been with him 19 years and didn't Susoect a thing - total shock I found him in October 2019.
if you need to chat please feel freee to contact me I can't solve anything but I have walked in your shoes just a different size xxx

Jdx

I am so.sorry to read this it is just heartbreaking

Sending you virtual hugs xx

I'm so sorry, I can't imagine how you feel. Sending love, hugs and strength <3 xx

I am so sorry, so heartbreaking. I read your post earlier and it's stayed with me all day. I am sure it brings you no comfort but know we are thinking of you at this terribly sad time.
I guess it's struck such a cord with me as this could have been us 2 months ago. I dread the future and if he is strong enough to deal with it - time will tell. I hope you able to get any support you need xx

Jdx

So very sorry and shocked to hear that. The type of crime we discuss here is so stigmatising and taboo and resources so limited that it is hard for many to get the help and support they need. That applies to offenders and their families. I think it is very kind and courageous for you to reach out to another person as you have done.

Wow that must bring you great comfort. I don't k ow if it's the right thing to say, but congrats? I can't imagine the emotions you must be going through. being a midwife myself, I know how these things can go and your baby stuck for a reason x I'm so so sorry for your loss too xx

Dear Rosie

I have just read your post and just had to say I am so pleased that you are expecting a baby. After reading all your posts you are an amazing and very strong young woman. .

From the bottom of my heart I wish you and your baby all the very best for both of your futures.

With much love and best wishes

Charleen1993 Rosie

I wish you and your baby all the very best for the future be kind to yourself and take care

Sending love and hugs xxx

I cried when I read your post Charlene, what a horrendous experience, firstly to deal with the situation then it all ending so unfairly.
I hope you can look forward to making lots of new and happy memories with your precious little baby and I wish you lots of love and luck for the future. What a brave lady you are. X??

Charlene I am so sorry for you loss, I have no words but every sympathy. I wish you and your baby all the best for the future.

Hi Charlene,



I want to send you so much love and empathy.

My husband also ended his life. He did so in June, the night before he was due to appear in court to be charged.


It is an especially difficult grief - the double trauma of arrest and then of death.

Due to extent of his charges, he wasn't allowed to return home after his arrest. So, I had no chance to speak to or talk with him between the arrest and his death.

Thank you for sharing what happened. I've felt really, really alone the last few months, because I just didn't know of anyone else who had gone through this.

I've found Survivors of Bereavment by Suicide to be an understanding space & supportive service. I've been honest in my support group about the circumstances of my husband's death and they've been welcoming and non-judgmental.

It's so hard, though. When you tried to offer all the support & care you could and it still turns out this way.

Anyway. Thank you for sharing. I'm wishing you any and all comfort you can seek.

I've gotten through seven months now. It's often been really difficult. But it's not impossible. For me, I've found the grief doesn't shrink, but the space I have to breathe and live around it does keep growing.

Love and strength to you.

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