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Ever since the charges were posted I feel like I can't breathe, the worry is immense. I know there is a chance that things can be disproved but I also know there is a chance that it could go the opposite way and he could end up inside, on the SoR and in the media. His solicitor seems good but said you can't get their evidence until 5 days before, 10 if you're lucky so still kind of in the dark. I've been looking through these posts trying to find some comfort but there isn't much because the context within each case is so different and as we all know it depends on the judge on the day. I am so proud of my partner for the man he has become and he really leveled up when he got with me and has a fantastic new job, all of which could be thrown away. I'm still so angry at the police for all of the gaslighting they did making out there was more to this than there was because all of this time I was living with the tiny possibility there would be millions of images which is what they hinted at and about him being a "predator" but there wasn't any so I feel guilty for even laying space for that possibility. I'm trying not to let it eat away at me and ruin Christmas but the truth is I'm not interested in it, I don't want gifts or to give gifts because if he goes away I'll need every penny I can to keep the house and cars running.
I'm sorry, I'm just getting it all off my chest because I'm walking around with constant worry and feel like I could throw up. I'm trying to be strong and positive but it's so hard. I honestly can't imagine how how hard this journey is for those with children. The worst part of this is people have no idea what's going on, we're basically waiting for what could potentially change our whole lives for the worse and we have to pretend like we're ok and nothings happened.
I'm sorry, I'm just getting it all off my chest because I'm walking around with constant worry and feel like I could throw up. I'm trying to be strong and positive but it's so hard. I honestly can't imagine how how hard this journey is for those with children. The worst part of this is people have no idea what's going on, we're basically waiting for what could potentially change our whole lives for the worse and we have to pretend like we're ok and nothings happened.
Hi BaffeldB,
Just want to let you know you aren't alone in this feeling like this. My family and friends are so excited for me and my partner and life plans we had made for the New Year, knowing we can't make the big changes we'd planned. I'm having to put on a smile and fake excitement, everytime I see someone and they talk to me about our plans.
I'm trying to just take one day at a time, which is hard when there is so much planning happening this time of year. I've given myself space to worry and feel sad when I need it and trying to embrace the times I'm able to put what's happening aside and take sometime to enjoy and appreciate the things and people I have around me that I know love and care for me. I'm trying hard to separate this specific thing that's happening to me right now that may impact my life in such a big way in the future, to what is happening in there here and now, what is in my control and what isn't.
All these coping mechanisms could all change tomorrow, its a roller-coaster...
Sending you a virtual hug
Just want to let you know you aren't alone in this feeling like this. My family and friends are so excited for me and my partner and life plans we had made for the New Year, knowing we can't make the big changes we'd planned. I'm having to put on a smile and fake excitement, everytime I see someone and they talk to me about our plans.
I'm trying to just take one day at a time, which is hard when there is so much planning happening this time of year. I've given myself space to worry and feel sad when I need it and trying to embrace the times I'm able to put what's happening aside and take sometime to enjoy and appreciate the things and people I have around me that I know love and care for me. I'm trying hard to separate this specific thing that's happening to me right now that may impact my life in such a big way in the future, to what is happening in there here and now, what is in my control and what isn't.
All these coping mechanisms could all change tomorrow, its a roller-coaster...
Sending you a virtual hug
Hi Sal,
Exactly that! All my friends and family love my partner and know how good he is for me and to me. We were planning on marriage and kids. I hope you manage to find some peace over the break and I hope everything resolves for you and your partner.
Thank you and sending a hug right back xxx
Exactly that! All my friends and family love my partner and know how good he is for me and to me. We were planning on marriage and kids. I hope you manage to find some peace over the break and I hope everything resolves for you and your partner.
Thank you and sending a hug right back xxx
Hi baffled,
I'm sorry you're having a tough time. This time of year is so emotional when you have something big going on and what awful timing to receive the charges, I'm so sorry!
I can't really offer any advice other than the usual try take time for yourself and find an outlet to talk about things. Give yourself permission to feel how you feel and step back from non essential commitments.
I just wanted to send sympathy and support x
I'm sorry you're having a tough time. This time of year is so emotional when you have something big going on and what awful timing to receive the charges, I'm so sorry!
I can't really offer any advice other than the usual try take time for yourself and find an outlet to talk about things. Give yourself permission to feel how you feel and step back from non essential commitments.
I just wanted to send sympathy and support x
Thank you Grace xx
I appear to have found my big girl pants and put them on later this morning, there's not much else I can do. May as well enjoy every day as it comes.
Hope you have a lovely Xmas <3 xx
I appear to have found my big girl pants and put them on later this morning, there's not much else I can do. May as well enjoy every day as it comes.
Hope you have a lovely Xmas <3 xx