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Something I do on here to help calm myself

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BaffledB

Member since
July 2021

874 posts

Posted Mon January 3, 2022 7:34pmReport post

Hey everyone,

Back to work and normality for me tomorrow which means that the timer for plea hearing is running out and ever since the charges were posted just before Xmas I have had good days and days where I feel like I can't breathe and sometimes both mix into one. I don't know if it's just me but thought I would share in case it helps anyone else....

Whenever I feel super overwhelmed about what the future holds and panic I look right back to the beginning of these forums and read bits from users (majority of which I haven't seen post in my 9 months on here). I read what they're going through and realise quite quickly that they are now going about their lives regardless of what happened. Like they moved on from this if that makes sense? And eventually I will too. I appreciate and respect those who have stuck around to offer support on here. The amount of people who go through this is both shocking and comforting and I realise this whenever I go right back to 2018/2019 and see lots of names I don't see anymore.

Hope everyone is doing ok <3 xx

SAL

Member since
December 2021

890 posts

Posted Mon January 3, 2022 8:34pmReport post

Hi BaffledB, I feel your anxiety. I think we are both in a similar position and on a similar time line.

Like you I seem to be up and down with how I'm coping. One minute I feel very practical and calm, the next I'm exhausted with emotion and anxiety and wondering how the other ladies on here having coped for so long.

I'm feeling relieved the holiday period is going to be over and keen to move onto the next stages, both in rehabilitation and legal processes.

Tomorrow in my mind is a key date as it feels like the start of the journey after a very long pause caused by the break.

On a personal level I think being back at work and in a routine will be good for me. I've made a list of really basic daily things I want to make sure I do for myself and my wellbeing and I'm going to try really hard to make these happen.

Like you I'm grateful for everyone that has contributed to the forum, especially those that have come through the other side, the last couple of weeks have been a less lonely place because of it.

BaffledB

Member since
July 2021

874 posts

Posted Mon January 3, 2022 9:19pmReport post

Yes SAL, I think we are about the same in timings! Agree that some normality and structure will do us good and I've also sorted some to-do lists to keep me busy as well. Hope all goes well for you, please keep us updated and I'll be thinking of you xx

Smile through tears

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September 2021

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BaffledB

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July 2021

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Posted Tue January 4, 2022 9:44amReport post

Hey Smile,

I totally agree, I think this experience whether you get NFA or custodial will forever live with everyone it's touched and I realise that everytime I hear a car door slam outside and irrationally think it's the police.

I'm sorry you're having a tough time. Surely after everything you've been through it has to get better? We do always picture the worst but hopefully once he's out he'll be able to start rebuilding his life and he's got you there to support him. How is his mental health at the moment? Is he doing ok? Xx

Smile through tears

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