Afraid of Falling Back to Square One
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My fiancé and I will be moving in just a couple of weeks. While overall this is something we've been wanting for years (a bigger place in a better location), the new location will put us out of the boundaries for the counseling center where our couples therapist and my individuals therapist work. We will need to find a new couples therapist and I will need to find a new individuals therapist in our area. I'm really sad and scared about it. I love these therapists and feel we are on a great track with them and I am finally on the road to managing my own anxiety disorder, issues with self-esteem, etc and now it's all over. Will we slide back to square one with our progress together? Will I ever feel in control of my anxiety? Or feel confident about myself?... Or will we struggle to find an open and understanding couples therapist whom we mesh with well? And will I go through yet another round of therapists who are just okay--or outright bad--until I lose the motivation to keep trying? (This is what happened before I found my current individuals therapist.)
Hi purplepen
I understand how worried you are about undoing any progress you've made and the thought of losing the people who have helped you get there must be so stressful.
I think with good therapists that they are helping you do the work yourself. They scaffold your ability to recognise and process and therefore make the progress you have felt. Be kind to yourself - you can't control the change of therapists but you can give yourself credit for the positive direction you've taken. And maybe you'll find another person to work with soon or it might take a while but if you know it can work at least you know what to look for?
A change of house can be a really great new start and I wish you all the best for it xx
I understand how worried you are about undoing any progress you've made and the thought of losing the people who have helped you get there must be so stressful.
I think with good therapists that they are helping you do the work yourself. They scaffold your ability to recognise and process and therefore make the progress you have felt. Be kind to yourself - you can't control the change of therapists but you can give yourself credit for the positive direction you've taken. And maybe you'll find another person to work with soon or it might take a while but if you know it can work at least you know what to look for?
A change of house can be a really great new start and I wish you all the best for it xx
You may have already asked them, but are they able to continue with you online? Many therapists are only working online at the moment anyway.
I can understand being nervous about the prospect and I don't know your situation, but if you do have to start with someone new, you may find you see how far you've come and the issues you now face are different from those you originally had.
There have been a few times in my life that I've had therapist (all related to the same thing) and because of various things, I've not had the same one, but each time I have taken different things from the therapy, almost like they were the right people to take me to the next level of healing and understand that I was ready for at that time.
I can understand being nervous about the prospect and I don't know your situation, but if you do have to start with someone new, you may find you see how far you've come and the issues you now face are different from those you originally had.
There have been a few times in my life that I've had therapist (all related to the same thing) and because of various things, I've not had the same one, but each time I have taken different things from the therapy, almost like they were the right people to take me to the next level of healing and understand that I was ready for at that time.