I am just so lost
I came home from work and police were all over my home seizing electronic goods. My husband was there with my five year old and my two year old.
They found category A,B and C images of children and he was arrested and charged and released next day on bail.
He has had to go to his mums as social work are now involved and they have demanded he have no contact with my kids and have now launched a child protection investigation and are going to interview my oldest child.
I spoke with my husband and he assured me he was downloading porn but didn’t know those child images were there and thought he had deleted it right away. I do believe him - I think.
I am now on the sick from my work and basically a single parent
I have never felt so alone in my whole life.
He is not allowed unsupervised access which could last more than a year which means I will lose my job and my house as I am the main wage earner
I can hardly sleep or eat and have lost half a stone in five days
I just don’t know what to do cause he had caused my whole world to be ripped apart but I miss him so much
I came home from work and police were all over my home seizing electronic goods. My husband was there with my five year old and my two year old.
They found category A,B and C images of children and he was arrested and charged and released next day on bail.
He has had to go to his mums as social work are now involved and they have demanded he have no contact with my kids and have now launched a child protection investigation and are going to interview my oldest child.
I spoke with my husband and he assured me he was downloading porn but didn’t know those child images were there and thought he had deleted it right away. I do believe him - I think.
I am now on the sick from my work and basically a single parent
I have never felt so alone in my whole life.
He is not allowed unsupervised access which could last more than a year which means I will lose my job and my house as I am the main wage earner
I can hardly sleep or eat and have lost half a stone in five days
I just don’t know what to do cause he had caused my whole world to be ripped apart but I miss him so much
Hi Dotty
I can't begin to imagine how scared and exhausted you must be feeling right now! Have you Siobhan to the officers working on your partner's case? They may be able to point you in the right direction for some help or Lucy Faithful there helpline is really good!
I feel relieved that my Dad was older when downloading these videos and has recently retired so apart from not being allowed to be with the grandchildren unsupervised our lives haven't been commodity turned upside down.... Yet! That will probably come when it goes to court!
Sending you a big hug I wish I could be of more help x
I can't begin to imagine how scared and exhausted you must be feeling right now! Have you Siobhan to the officers working on your partner's case? They may be able to point you in the right direction for some help or Lucy Faithful there helpline is really good!
I feel relieved that my Dad was older when downloading these videos and has recently retired so apart from not being allowed to be with the grandchildren unsupervised our lives haven't been commodity turned upside down.... Yet! That will probably come when it goes to court!
Sending you a big hug I wish I could be of more help x
Hi Dotty. I'm sorry you are in this position, it's not easy so I wont lie. My concern is how they want to interview your eldest. My children were and still are kept out of it completely. It is inappropriate to involve them unless abuse is suspected. Speak to your social worker and ask that your children have a representative either to speak for them or with them. Barnardos offer an advocacy service for children. It can be a scary time for them so they need as much support as they can get.
With the porn, it is possible that downloading these images was accidental. Sometimes there can be images in folders. The police will be able to tell once the investigation is complete. They can check what has been searched for, accessed and deleted. It may have been an innocent mistake, it may not have been and he could be in denial or scared to tell you the truth.
The helpline has excellent support. Don't be scared to call.
With the porn, it is possible that downloading these images was accidental. Sometimes there can be images in folders. The police will be able to tell once the investigation is complete. They can check what has been searched for, accessed and deleted. It may have been an innocent mistake, it may not have been and he could be in denial or scared to tell you the truth.
The helpline has excellent support. Don't be scared to call.