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Honestly I can't believe I'm posting this and that I'm here on this site.
On the 8th December my husband was leaving to go to his school teaching job when I heard voices in our home at 7am and from that moment my heart sank.
On paper my husband had it all a loving family and a great job and now I've found out he's got a porn addiction.
About 5 years ago we had the knock but the police didn't find anything and I ended up blaming myself - I had left the door unlocked and the wifi password was written on a board.I honestly thought that someone had hacked our router.
Since then we got married and become kinship carers to our nephew who is 8.
Now social work are even more involved. I have taken my nephew to my family home about 200 miles away and my nephews dad is refusing to let me stay here(he is currently in jail and lost our nephew as he is a known and active drug addict) It's just a mess as I need to go through a child protection investigation, my kinship assessment and to top it off I have children's panels every 3 weeks.
My thing (I've told him that I can't be in a relationship with each other) are in contact everyday as we are co parenting. He said the police said he has 1 iioc which is a category C (according to him it's a topless photo of a teenager)
Has anyone else in this situation been kinship carers as well? Also to the people who stay in relationships and co parent how do you build the trust back up?
Does this get easier?
On the 8th December my husband was leaving to go to his school teaching job when I heard voices in our home at 7am and from that moment my heart sank.
On paper my husband had it all a loving family and a great job and now I've found out he's got a porn addiction.
About 5 years ago we had the knock but the police didn't find anything and I ended up blaming myself - I had left the door unlocked and the wifi password was written on a board.I honestly thought that someone had hacked our router.
Since then we got married and become kinship carers to our nephew who is 8.
Now social work are even more involved. I have taken my nephew to my family home about 200 miles away and my nephews dad is refusing to let me stay here(he is currently in jail and lost our nephew as he is a known and active drug addict) It's just a mess as I need to go through a child protection investigation, my kinship assessment and to top it off I have children's panels every 3 weeks.
My thing (I've told him that I can't be in a relationship with each other) are in contact everyday as we are co parenting. He said the police said he has 1 iioc which is a category C (according to him it's a topless photo of a teenager)
Has anyone else in this situation been kinship carers as well? Also to the people who stay in relationships and co parent how do you build the trust back up?
Does this get easier?
Sorry Middle, firstly that you are having such a tough time, and secondly that I really can't offer anything to your situation. In fact just about the only good thing I have been able to identify about my situation is that we don't have children! I feel desperately sad for the Mum's who are coping with so much and truly admire the strength and determination they demonstrate.
I hope someone can be of more help.
I hope someone can be of more help.