On tender hooks waiting for CPS report
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Hiya all.
I cannot not settle at the moment.
All the paperwork got sent off to CPS at the start of the month now I am either panicking about it or looking out for the postman or nagging my hubby to see if anybody has rung him.
I have taken up baking cakes to try and take my mind off but cannot.
Xx
I cannot not settle at the moment.
All the paperwork got sent off to CPS at the start of the month now I am either panicking about it or looking out for the postman or nagging my hubby to see if anybody has rung him.
I have taken up baking cakes to try and take my mind off but cannot.
Xx
It's completely normal to feel that way, it's like constant state of limbo, some days normal, might even have a good day, then it all comes back when a development happens. Ive no idea of time scale, but my ex partner got charges in Nov, entered no plea for now as charges were a joke (trued to get him on an image of himself naked that he sent to me and has no tie to the chat for communication charge, which he admits to. He's not back now to Feb when they have evidence. Sorry no really advice but just wanted to let you know your not alone. Like greif it comes in waves, just gotta ride those waves, have you spoke to gp about therapy? It's really helped me plus I'm on meds which helped a great deal too. X
Chelsea have you tried any mindfulness techniques at all? I often forget to practice it but it really helps calm my mind !
Chelsea have you tried any mindfulness techniques at all? I often forget to practice it but it really helps calm my mind !
Hi Chelsea
we are just slightly behind you time wise, I believe evidence will be sent to CPs this week.
I can only imagine how hard it will be, it's likely to be another month or 2 before you hear anything. keep busy, walks or exercise will improve mood too or do anything that makes you happy.
How did second interview go? what are potential charges? Did they tell hubby's solicitor what they had found before they interviewed? Did he do no comment or admit it?
big hugs
x
we are just slightly behind you time wise, I believe evidence will be sent to CPs this week.
I can only imagine how hard it will be, it's likely to be another month or 2 before you hear anything. keep busy, walks or exercise will improve mood too or do anything that makes you happy.
How did second interview go? what are potential charges? Did they tell hubby's solicitor what they had found before they interviewed? Did he do no comment or admit it?
big hugs
x
Hiya Newlady.
Been to my GP who was great. She talked to me about some and got me some calming exercises to do .
Fingers crossed ???? for you hun and thank you
Xx
Been to my GP who was great. She talked to me about some and got me some calming exercises to do .
Fingers crossed ???? for you hun and thank you
Xx
Hiya Jayjay.
Yes I think also gonna be a couple of months before court stages etc.
His second interview or volunteer interview which every u call it, went ok. Soliceter was with him and very good.
They found 48 pictures/videos which was unloaded via WhatsApp groups which he didn't join. No distribution or chats etc.
He has done 7 paid concelling sessions and modules on here.
Xx
Yes I think also gonna be a couple of months before court stages etc.
His second interview or volunteer interview which every u call it, went ok. Soliceter was with him and very good.
They found 48 pictures/videos which was unloaded via WhatsApp groups which he didn't join. No distribution or chats etc.
He has done 7 paid concelling sessions and modules on here.
Xx
Hey Chelsea,
It's such a horrible time and to be honest I don't think it gets easier once you have the charges. I have been through some real lows over the last few weeks but managed to pick myself up. I think the best way to get control over the situation is to plan for every eventuality. We cannot stop whatever outcome is going to happen as much as we would all give our right arm to do. I am preparing for the absolute worst case scenario of prison and it being in the media just in case, and of course it'll be horrible and I will struggle but realising that I can't stop what happens and accepting I may have to pick up the pieces and deal with messages/trolling and maybe some people won't want to speak to me anymore. All of the horrible things that may happen will not defeat me or make me turn against my partner and we will be ok no matter what happens. My partner is a wonderful person and I'll never let anybody use something taken out of context against him or me. In 2 years time although we won't ever forget about this journey it definitely won't be at the forefront of our minds and that's what I keep focussing on.
Sending love and hugs, you will be ok xx
It's such a horrible time and to be honest I don't think it gets easier once you have the charges. I have been through some real lows over the last few weeks but managed to pick myself up. I think the best way to get control over the situation is to plan for every eventuality. We cannot stop whatever outcome is going to happen as much as we would all give our right arm to do. I am preparing for the absolute worst case scenario of prison and it being in the media just in case, and of course it'll be horrible and I will struggle but realising that I can't stop what happens and accepting I may have to pick up the pieces and deal with messages/trolling and maybe some people won't want to speak to me anymore. All of the horrible things that may happen will not defeat me or make me turn against my partner and we will be ok no matter what happens. My partner is a wonderful person and I'll never let anybody use something taken out of context against him or me. In 2 years time although we won't ever forget about this journey it definitely won't be at the forefront of our minds and that's what I keep focussing on.
Sending love and hugs, you will be ok xx
Thanks Chelsea, So is it possession of IIOC they are trying to charge him for? Did he do a no comment interview or answer questions?
The waiting is so awful, sometimes the unknown is worse than knowing.
im trying to take one day at a time but it's so hard not to think of the very end result, I'm scared x
The waiting is so awful, sometimes the unknown is worse than knowing.
im trying to take one day at a time but it's so hard not to think of the very end result, I'm scared x
Hiya.
Just a quick update nothing has happened yet. Still on tender hooks.
Xx
Just a quick update nothing has happened yet. Still on tender hooks.
Xx
The waiting is torture, he's a plea hearing in Feb but I'm guessing it will be out back again, try to taje a break from it, do something fun or just for you, out your phone down, even a drive with music blasting or walk.it helps me on stressful days x
Hiya Newlady.
Thank you for the reply.
Well the police said to him after his Volunterer interview that it's gonna be 28 days from the beginning of January. But some have come back quicker.
Joined a walking group and joined the local keep fit classes.
Sorting out house as we are moving beginning of March.
But still awaiting game xx
Thank you for the reply.
Well the police said to him after his Volunterer interview that it's gonna be 28 days from the beginning of January. But some have come back quicker.
Joined a walking group and joined the local keep fit classes.
Sorting out house as we are moving beginning of March.
But still awaiting game xx
Hope you both don't have to wait much longer, I honestly don't think my ex partners case will be concluded until summer but preparing for custodial.
Hiya again Newlady.
Have you had your CPS charges back then ?
Why do you say custodial if you don't mind me asking. What's he don't ?
Xx
Have you had your CPS charges back then ?
Why do you say custodial if you don't mind me asking. What's he don't ?
Xx