CPP feeling so scared any advice appreciated
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Hello everyone, had the knock in November. We have 2 children, 1 isn't biologically his but is in every other sense of the word. He was on license for a seperate offence when I got the knock and he got recalled to prison in December. I've decided to leave him as I can't believe he would do this to us, especially when our daughter is only 10 months. I go from being angry, upset, annoyed, I'm feeling all the emotions and I'm so anxious, scared and worried. A strategy meeting was held and on Wednesday both of my children were put onto a child protection plan which I was totally shocked by. I thought child in need but really didn't think we would be put on child protection and it's totally tore my world apart. I'm so scared that they are going to try and take my children away from me. I've said that I propose dad having once a week supervised visitation with his family when he's released in 6 months, but they've said they want me to do a risk assessment and be more aware of the risks he poses to my children in case the relationship resumes. I'm just looking for some help really about what I can expect moving forward. I have a core group meeting Friday so will find out more then. I'm so anxious and worried about everything and I'm trying to keep strong for my kids.
Hi,
Cpp Doesn't mean they are going to take ur children it's to help give u more support, maybe because u have a baby. I was on cpp and like u felt my world fall apart, their excuse was shit really because unless u go through our situation then u really can't comment on how to handle this situation. I need the Lucy Faithful inform course which explains on why how people fall into this situation maybe see if u can do that, I have also done a free course on prevention and safeguarding course, I am struggling to finish it off, but all this helps to show u r taking it seriously, if u r definitely ending ur relationship maybe explain that while u r not happy he has supervision rights, u also no that being his child/children they all have rights to see each other. I hope that makes sense
Cpp Doesn't mean they are going to take ur children it's to help give u more support, maybe because u have a baby. I was on cpp and like u felt my world fall apart, their excuse was shit really because unless u go through our situation then u really can't comment on how to handle this situation. I need the Lucy Faithful inform course which explains on why how people fall into this situation maybe see if u can do that, I have also done a free course on prevention and safeguarding course, I am struggling to finish it off, but all this helps to show u r taking it seriously, if u r definitely ending ur relationship maybe explain that while u r not happy he has supervision rights, u also no that being his child/children they all have rights to see each other. I hope that makes sense
What was he charged with?
Be prepared and write a risk assessment/ safety plan, as Dawn said do some online courses prevent, safeguarding etc. keep a file of everything you have done to keep your children safe x
Be prepared and write a risk assessment/ safety plan, as Dawn said do some online courses prevent, safeguarding etc. keep a file of everything you have done to keep your children safe x
Thanks everyone for your advice. I spoke to my social worker today and recieved the child protection plan. I have asked to be put forward for the stronger mothers group and have contacted LFF to be put onto the inform course. I'm going to ask about more courses on Friday and see what else I can do. Is there anymore courses anyone can recommend? My social worker is a really lovely person so that does make the situation easier. We are planning a family group confrence around the contact when he comes out. I think they want everything in place asap as there is a possibility he could come out any day apparently. He has not actually been charged yet, he was released under investigation but the offence was for accessing indecent images and because he was already on license for a seperate offence he got recalled. I am feeling a bit more positive and hearing from people in similar situations definately helps. Thank you all x
Hi Anxious,
glad to hear you're feeling more positive. It sounds like being on a CPP plan is just to offer you some more support, and get a plan in place for when your ex comes out. CPP aren't supposed to be forever so then hopefully they'll step you down to CIN and then sign you off once they can see you're ok, cooing and the children are doing ok too.
In terms of courses, I did the NSPCC intro to safeguarding course (I think it's about £25) whilst I waited for the Inform course. It definitely helped and gave me an insight into safeguarding as it was something I'd never had to consider before. There are a few free options via Maximise Training I think but maybe start with NSPCC until LFF come back to you? X
glad to hear you're feeling more positive. It sounds like being on a CPP plan is just to offer you some more support, and get a plan in place for when your ex comes out. CPP aren't supposed to be forever so then hopefully they'll step you down to CIN and then sign you off once they can see you're ok, cooing and the children are doing ok too.
In terms of courses, I did the NSPCC intro to safeguarding course (I think it's about £25) whilst I waited for the Inform course. It definitely helped and gave me an insight into safeguarding as it was something I'd never had to consider before. There are a few free options via Maximise Training I think but maybe start with NSPCC until LFF come back to you? X