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Hi, so my parter was arrested for iioc back in June and was released on bail. Two weeks later we received a second knock at the door to which the police arrested him for making iioc (my children) due to having pictures of them in the bath on his phone.
After the second arrest he was remanded in prison! Social services done an assessment back in September and they didn't open a case. 7 months after his second arrest social services now want to come out again please and do another assessment on me because Midwife's at the hospital made a referral to them because I'm having contact with him (he was on the phone when I was in labour). He isn't aloud any sort of contact with my children (he hasn't even had a telephone call with them in 7 months).
social services keep asking me do I know when he's going to be getting realeased. He hasn't even been sentenced yet as it has been adjourned 3 times for stupid reasons. So I'm just after some advice can social services open a case even though he's in prison? And can they make me stop speaking to him? Xx
After the second arrest he was remanded in prison! Social services done an assessment back in September and they didn't open a case. 7 months after his second arrest social services now want to come out again please and do another assessment on me because Midwife's at the hospital made a referral to them because I'm having contact with him (he was on the phone when I was in labour). He isn't aloud any sort of contact with my children (he hasn't even had a telephone call with them in 7 months).
social services keep asking me do I know when he's going to be getting realeased. He hasn't even been sentenced yet as it has been adjourned 3 times for stupid reasons. So I'm just after some advice can social services open a case even though he's in prison? And can they make me stop speaking to him? Xx
Hiya hun
It must be so tough on you all I cant offer Amy advice in regards to SS as it is my son that has offended
He was RUI and then we had a second knock he is also on remand waiting for sentencing
I hope you are looking after yourself
Just wanted to send hugs x
It must be so tough on you all I cant offer Amy advice in regards to SS as it is my son that has offended
He was RUI and then we had a second knock he is also on remand waiting for sentencing
I hope you are looking after yourself
Just wanted to send hugs x
Yes they can open a case if they feel you are not protecting your children, I'm sure they are just making an assessment and will show you are. They are prob asking you the questions as other agencies aren't getting back.
stay strong lovely x
stay strong lovely x
Thankyou upset mum I have my down days where all I do is cry, I don't think it helps that the kids ask for him constantly everyday :( just need his sentencing to hurry up so I know what decision to make.
Thankyou for the reply summer :) I really don't get how they can say that I'm not protecting them when he's not even around just doesn't make sense xx
Thankyou for the reply summer :) I really don't get how they can say that I'm not protecting them when he's not even around just doesn't make sense xx
Hi nas
I'll give you a background of my story.
My partner was out on license before he got arrested. He got arrested for iioc but swears he hasn't done anything and all devices will come back clean. But because an arrest is against his license conditions, he was recallednto prison to finish out the rest of his sentence.
I was really unsure what to do at the time, and chose to end the relationship and not have contact. Because of this ss closed the case.
We then got back talking, and because all prison calls are recorded and monitored, it was referred to ss again. Even though he is in prison and is not having contact with my children, they have still put us on a CIN plan and I am currently doing courses. When he is released from prison, ss will re assess again, and she has said it will likely go to CP plan,and he will be offered to do courses. This is even though he isn't having contact with my children, and won't be because the kids dad doesn't want them too. (Understandable with what he got arrested for)
The easiest thing for me to do would be to leave him.. but I believe him when he says he is innocent. The relationship we had was amazing, I loved him to bits and he has never given me any reasons to believe he is lying. If there was any images found though, I would walk away from him. The lies would be too much and I would never trust him again.
Xx
I'll give you a background of my story.
My partner was out on license before he got arrested. He got arrested for iioc but swears he hasn't done anything and all devices will come back clean. But because an arrest is against his license conditions, he was recallednto prison to finish out the rest of his sentence.
I was really unsure what to do at the time, and chose to end the relationship and not have contact. Because of this ss closed the case.
We then got back talking, and because all prison calls are recorded and monitored, it was referred to ss again. Even though he is in prison and is not having contact with my children, they have still put us on a CIN plan and I am currently doing courses. When he is released from prison, ss will re assess again, and she has said it will likely go to CP plan,and he will be offered to do courses. This is even though he isn't having contact with my children, and won't be because the kids dad doesn't want them too. (Understandable with what he got arrested for)
The easiest thing for me to do would be to leave him.. but I believe him when he says he is innocent. The relationship we had was amazing, I loved him to bits and he has never given me any reasons to believe he is lying. If there was any images found though, I would walk away from him. The lies would be too much and I would never trust him again.
Xx