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AnotherMum

Member since
January 2022

75 posts

Posted Tue February 1, 2022 9:45amReport post

I'm having a bad day today. Keep bursting in tears, just thinking of how much my son has lost. I suppose the trigger was a few things that reminded me of what he had - his own house, a decent job and a future! Now I can't see a way forward.

He is not allowed to live in his house so he's having to live with us, my husband and I are slowly doing the house up for rent but it doesn't help that it's a good hour away. I'm just so tired of everything - thank heavens for this forum where at least we can vent our feelings and be understood. At least he wasn't married and doesn't have children.

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2548 posts

Posted Tue February 1, 2022 1:04pmReport post

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sadmum

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January 2021

106 posts

Posted Tue February 1, 2022 1:51pmReport post

Hi my son is currently waiting charges from CPS Images across all categories, he also has his own home, had a good job as well, not working now though as had to leave due to nature of Job, I am worried about what will happen and if he will have to leave his home and rent it out or maybe worse case scenario sell it , why can't your son live in his home anymore ?

Lola53

Member since
May 2021

269 posts

Posted Tue February 1, 2022 2:40pmReport post

AnotherMum - sorry you're having a bad day and sending you a hug. Come and join the thread 'Cutting thinking time' - it's a really nice positive chatty one xx

AnotherMum

Member since
January 2022

75 posts

Posted Tue February 1, 2022 2:50pmReport post

Smile through tears and Lola53.

Thanks for your support. Smile, yes, it was his responsibilty and his decisions but as you say, so hard. I've read many of your posts and have great admiration for you and the way that you can remain so positive and so willing to offer your support to others. Lola53 - The thread 'Cutting thinking time' is lovely and positive, isn't it and offers so many good ideas.

sadmum,

It was a condition of his sentence being suspended, so he had support for his depression and porn addiction. It has made life very complicated!

Upset mum

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June 2020

2400 posts

Posted Tue February 1, 2022 3:27pmReport post

Hi Another mum

Same thoughts I have all the time my son is on remand waiting for sentencing

Just wanted to send hugs xx

Summer

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July 2019

394 posts

Posted Tue February 1, 2022 7:17pmReport post

Thinking of you lovely strong ladies you are all amazing x

Mum50

Member since
December 2021

56 posts

Posted Wed February 2, 2022 10:54amReport post

I'm with you all.

My son left his job and his flat living with us at the moment he as no idea what to do nor do we he can't begin to make a new start and job and friends as he thinks he will lose that all over again when and if he does get charged.

Life is a roller coaster at the moment lots of ups and downs I can not see the light at the end of the tunnel .

So glad I have this forum to come to .

X

Maij

Member since
December 2020

287 posts

Posted Wed February 2, 2022 11:22amReport post

Hi Anothermum,

some days I feel really po Shhh itive about things. Then I too temember how excited I was when I yhought my son had the world at his feet . His job would take him all over the world if he wanted, he gave up the job just before he disclosed his offense , hes at home not working at the moment . Heartbreaking. Sending you a big hug. Yes as Lola says come join us on a positive threat "cutting thinking time" we all need a boost!



maij x

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Mum50

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December 2021

56 posts

Posted Wed February 2, 2022 11:31amReport post

Hi can I ask where I look for the thread that some of you are saying I would lovecto join the thread x

Thank you

X

Lola53

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May 2021

269 posts

Posted Wed February 2, 2022 2:03pmReport post

Mum50, it's in this 'Discussion and Support' section and is called 'Cutting thinking times'. Smile through tears started it and it's lovely, come and chat xx

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Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2548 posts

Posted Wed February 2, 2022 2:24pmReport post

I've always been quite an optimist but this situation has bought our family to its knees. We have much more to face in the future when my son is released.
i work so hard on trying to live for each day and not to stress over things I have no control over......

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AnotherMum

Member since
January 2022

75 posts

Posted Wed February 2, 2022 9:25pmReport post

Smile through tears, big hugs to you xx. I really understand how you feel, sometimes it's so hard. But then the sun shines, or you hear a bird singing and somehow you create the strength to go on and have hope xxx