Everytime I come home expect to get CPS news. Only been 1 month
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Hiya all.
Doing my head in at the moment. Really tough.
Everytime I come home from work etc I am expecting news from CPS but nothing.
It's been 1 month now.
Seriously doing my head in.
Xx
Doing my head in at the moment. Really tough.
Everytime I come home from work etc I am expecting news from CPS but nothing.
It's been 1 month now.
Seriously doing my head in.
Xx
Chelsea I have also felt like that for months hoping for months that letter in the post stating NFA then when the charge Letter comes and all the other stuff I pray every day I get home there will be a letter saying it's been dropped even though I know that won't be the case always wishful thinking.
I can't tell you to not think like that as I know what's it's like it's all part of this limbo we experience
sending hugs
I can't tell you to not think like that as I know what's it's like it's all part of this limbo we experience
sending hugs
Hiya
I would imagine that the standard timeframe has now been scuppered by the pandemic and everything is taking so much longer . I do hope you hear soon.
maij x
I would imagine that the standard timeframe has now been scuppered by the pandemic and everything is taking so much longer . I do hope you hear soon.
maij x
I wish I could tell you it will all be over soon but I'm 14 months since the knock and not a word except to say these things take time. Good luck and I hope you get good news soon.
Thank you ladies.
Just doing my head in.
I know some people have been waiting months for cps to get back.
Me it's been 1 month and doing my head in. Hubby said could be months. Grrrrr.
Love xx
Just doing my head in.
I know some people have been waiting months for cps to get back.
Me it's been 1 month and doing my head in. Hubby said could be months. Grrrrr.
Love xx
Hi,
We were like this. But, even with a teenager we waited more than 5 months and for teens it's meant to be expeditious. There were all sorts of mistakes and problems, including gdpr breaches.
I'd say, I've lived it, I can remember how hard it is and the anxiety - but it's probably going to be a whole. From experience the cps has 28 days to turn around a case, in that though if something comes to light that hasn't been addressed properly by the police such as witness reports (including from the police) the 28 days time limit restarts. Then if they find something else they need more information on, that 28 days starts again.
We were like this. But, even with a teenager we waited more than 5 months and for teens it's meant to be expeditious. There were all sorts of mistakes and problems, including gdpr breaches.
I'd say, I've lived it, I can remember how hard it is and the anxiety - but it's probably going to be a whole. From experience the cps has 28 days to turn around a case, in that though if something comes to light that hasn't been addressed properly by the police such as witness reports (including from the police) the 28 days time limit restarts. Then if they find something else they need more information on, that 28 days starts again.
Hey Chelsea,
I know it's super annoying waiting but to be fair if your partner has already admitted and has been told what the evidence is then there shouldn't be much of a surprise as to what the charges will be so at least you won't have any nasty surprises or are in the dark whether there will even be any charges. The only plus side is once the charges come and a date for court comes then it starts the countdown to everything being over and a new normal beginning. Before we received the charges we had been going about our lives as normal and when the charges landed it was like an explosion and over Xmas and for almost 2 weeks before we met with the solicitor and saw the evidence I felt sick, struggled to sleep and couldn't stop thinking about it, it ruined Xmas tbh. Now we are waiting for the next stage and it'll be probably next year before it goes to trial (if it does) we don't even speak about it or worry about it because we've already spent almost a year in hell and I refuse to spend another second torturing myself. I know everyone's situation is different but the point I'm trying to make is that we really should enjoy our time (especially prior to things being made real by charges/sentencing) because when we don't we're just adding even more time to whatever sentence is given and all the other trauma fallout from it if that makes sense. I know it's really hard but on the plus side your partner has been doing lots of work addressing everything and you're very much prepared for what's to come. I know there is so much negativity with this and the best thing is to hope for the best but prepare for the worst but we do need to remember that not every single person will get the absolute worst outcome and maybe things won't be as bad as our minds and anxiety tell us?
Big hugs xx
I know it's super annoying waiting but to be fair if your partner has already admitted and has been told what the evidence is then there shouldn't be much of a surprise as to what the charges will be so at least you won't have any nasty surprises or are in the dark whether there will even be any charges. The only plus side is once the charges come and a date for court comes then it starts the countdown to everything being over and a new normal beginning. Before we received the charges we had been going about our lives as normal and when the charges landed it was like an explosion and over Xmas and for almost 2 weeks before we met with the solicitor and saw the evidence I felt sick, struggled to sleep and couldn't stop thinking about it, it ruined Xmas tbh. Now we are waiting for the next stage and it'll be probably next year before it goes to trial (if it does) we don't even speak about it or worry about it because we've already spent almost a year in hell and I refuse to spend another second torturing myself. I know everyone's situation is different but the point I'm trying to make is that we really should enjoy our time (especially prior to things being made real by charges/sentencing) because when we don't we're just adding even more time to whatever sentence is given and all the other trauma fallout from it if that makes sense. I know it's really hard but on the plus side your partner has been doing lots of work addressing everything and you're very much prepared for what's to come. I know there is so much negativity with this and the best thing is to hope for the best but prepare for the worst but we do need to remember that not every single person will get the absolute worst outcome and maybe things won't be as bad as our minds and anxiety tell us?
Big hugs xx
BaffledB I am very envious you are able to go about normally. My partner and I are on a month count down. I really want to be able to enjoy some normal time together, I want that for him, perhaps do something nice together. But I can't bring myself to for a few reasons. 1 I'm hurt at what he's done 2. We spoke so much about the future and that is ruled out now 3. Worry that remembering how good things were, having the nice time together, will make things hurt even more when we can no longer be together.
I really wish I could get over this and enjoy being with him whilst we can be together.
I really wish I could get over this and enjoy being with him whilst we can be together.
Hi SAL,
I forget that a lot of people are in a different situation to me, my partner didn't do anything whilst we were together and hasn't lied - although he has said that if we wasn't living together he probably wouldn't have told me to save me from the worry he's seen me go through which would make everything totally different I guess! I just try to be as optimistic as possible. We only ever see a snippet of media cases, there's a lot of people's stories we don't get to hear because they've not found us so it seems that good news or better outcomes aren't seen much on here which although it's not good to live in denial I think we all just expect the worst. It may be naiive of me to think like this but it helps. If everything comes crashing down later on then I'll just deal with it then. Xx
I forget that a lot of people are in a different situation to me, my partner didn't do anything whilst we were together and hasn't lied - although he has said that if we wasn't living together he probably wouldn't have told me to save me from the worry he's seen me go through which would make everything totally different I guess! I just try to be as optimistic as possible. We only ever see a snippet of media cases, there's a lot of people's stories we don't get to hear because they've not found us so it seems that good news or better outcomes aren't seen much on here which although it's not good to live in denial I think we all just expect the worst. It may be naiive of me to think like this but it helps. If everything comes crashing down later on then I'll just deal with it then. Xx
Hiya lovelies.
Well today has been a better day. Went out for a coffee with a friend and went for a walk with her and her dog. She hasn't a clue what's going on.
I still came home expecting the CPS report but hayho nothing.
Thank you xx
Well today has been a better day. Went out for a coffee with a friend and went for a walk with her and her dog. She hasn't a clue what's going on.
I still came home expecting the CPS report but hayho nothing.
Thank you xx
Chelsea, its weird isn't it? It's a bit like living a double life, or two separate life's, one where everything is like it was before, and the other a horrifying kind of limboland. I feel like every day I walk a tightrope between the two, some days more successfully than others.
Hiya Bitterbean.
First of we have the waiting for devices which took 7 months which was agony.
Now in 1 month awaiting CPS.
COME ON.
Much love xx
First of we have the waiting for devices which took 7 months which was agony.
Now in 1 month awaiting CPS.
COME ON.
Much love xx
It's only been two days for me and I just wish it was all just a nightmare! I can't see my hubby otherwise I will loose my job and if I loose my job I'll loose the house etc. I can't tell anyone so when and if I speak to people I need to pretend that everything is okay and me and the hubby are fine.
I just want to know what's happeneing :(
I just want to know what's happeneing :(
Oh Moo it really is horrific! It does get better and easier to deal with as time goes on. I'm not sure what you do for a living but there is a charity called Unlock which may be able to advise in regards to your employer saying you can't see your husband. At the moment it is just investigation and no charges so I'm not sure they can demand that of you. Do you know exactly what your husband has been accused of? Not telling people is the worst part but you can come here and let it all out, it's been my saviour :)
Sending love xx
Sending love xx
Just a little positive note! You're at the stage that you are ahead of a lot of others (which is a great thing for you both)...
A lot of us unfortunately are still awaiting devices back and a conclusion... 15 months and counting and not a single thing back yet for the devices....
I do hope that you hear back soon though Chelsea so you and your partner can move forward !
A lot of us unfortunately are still awaiting devices back and a conclusion... 15 months and counting and not a single thing back yet for the devices....
I do hope that you hear back soon though Chelsea so you and your partner can move forward !
Hiya blackhound.
Thank you for replying.
Yes I know what you mean hun and I know we are further down the line than others.
He said he joked with the police officer and soliceter that he might have everything sorted by the summer 22 me is hoping before.
Virtual hugs xx
Thank you for replying.
Yes I know what you mean hun and I know we are further down the line than others.
He said he joked with the police officer and soliceter that he might have everything sorted by the summer 22 me is hoping before.
Virtual hugs xx
Hi just wanted to give you a little heads up on the time frame I waited it was 1 years for the cps to come back to us.
then it was another year before court am going thought the court date now we are up to crown court this month and am hoping it's a suspended sentence it's already been 2 year of pure hell not just for me or my partner but for our children.
hope yous all have a quick turn around and everything goes well.
then it was another year before court am going thought the court date now we are up to crown court this month and am hoping it's a suspended sentence it's already been 2 year of pure hell not just for me or my partner but for our children.
hope yous all have a quick turn around and everything goes well.
Hiya Prinsess.
Thank you for the reply.
Blimey waiting another 1 year. God that would do my head in hun. I am nearly 2 months waiting at the beginning of March and this is doing my head in.
How's you coping hun ?
Xx
Thank you for the reply.
Blimey waiting another 1 year. God that would do my head in hun. I am nearly 2 months waiting at the beginning of March and this is doing my head in.
How's you coping hun ?
Xx
Hiya all.
So stuff was sent to CPS on 4/January 22 and still no news today 23/2/22.
Is this normal or should we have heard by now. Yes understand about backlogs etc.
Thank you xx
So stuff was sent to CPS on 4/January 22 and still no news today 23/2/22.
Is this normal or should we have heard by now. Yes understand about backlogs etc.
Thank you xx
Hi Chelsea1
We've waited 21 months and now have court date for sentencing March 2022. Its been a long wait, you just have to try and push 'it' to one side (I know its easier said than done) but you will drive yourself mad. You never completely forget what's happened but you can try and get on with things, there are good & bad days.
Not sure if anyone else agrees but since knowing I find that I appreciate the good days, I try and stay positive and have become less judgemental and more compassionate with what others maybe going through.
I really hope you get answers soon, take care of yourself.
X
We've waited 21 months and now have court date for sentencing March 2022. Its been a long wait, you just have to try and push 'it' to one side (I know its easier said than done) but you will drive yourself mad. You never completely forget what's happened but you can try and get on with things, there are good & bad days.
Not sure if anyone else agrees but since knowing I find that I appreciate the good days, I try and stay positive and have become less judgemental and more compassionate with what others maybe going through.
I really hope you get answers soon, take care of yourself.
X
Hiya Lee.
Thank you once again. I am sorry for keep going on about timelines etc just seems along time. His counselling person even said you should hear next month.
Me thinks also.
Xx
Thank you once again. I am sorry for keep going on about timelines etc just seems along time. His counselling person even said you should hear next month.
Me thinks also.
Xx
Hi Chelsea,
Every wait is different. Police seized device June 2020, went to CPS Jan 2021, 2nd interview March 2021 and still heard nothing on CPS decision.
A different offence went to CPS September 2021 and CPS was still gathering information on that until Jan 2022. No decision on this either yet.
The waiting is the hardest part I think!
Every wait is different. Police seized device June 2020, went to CPS Jan 2021, 2nd interview March 2021 and still heard nothing on CPS decision.
A different offence went to CPS September 2021 and CPS was still gathering information on that until Jan 2022. No decision on this either yet.
The waiting is the hardest part I think!
Hiya Mindful.
Thank you for the reply.
Wow going through 2 cases that must be tearing you apart.
I cannot go a whole day without thinking or getting anxiety over this.
Xx
Thank you for the reply.
Wow going through 2 cases that must be tearing you apart.
I cannot go a whole day without thinking or getting anxiety over this.
Xx
Hi Chelsea,
The wait is torture. I'm so limited to what I can say for various reasons but one day I hope to go in more details, the legal complexities involved makes it even more difficult. I stopped looking at posts on here to try and help and before I knew it months had passed. The whole thing has been one of the worst experience of my life. I hope nobody has to go through what I have.
The wait is torture. I'm so limited to what I can say for various reasons but one day I hope to go in more details, the legal complexities involved makes it even more difficult. I stopped looking at posts on here to try and help and before I knew it months had passed. The whole thing has been one of the worst experience of my life. I hope nobody has to go through what I have.
Hiya Mindful.
Thank you for your reply.
Fingers crossed you get to the end of this journey soon and you can get on building your lives.
Xx
Thank you for your reply.
Fingers crossed you get to the end of this journey soon and you can get on building your lives.
Xx
Hi Chelsea,
im 3 weeks in waiting to hear what's going to happen. Every time the phone rings I'm hoping it's some news. I'm hating not knowing what to expect, when we'll find out what's happening and what the charges could be.
xx
im 3 weeks in waiting to hear what's going to happen. Every time the phone rings I'm hoping it's some news. I'm hating not knowing what to expect, when we'll find out what's happening and what the charges could be.
xx
For us it was about 9 months before we really heard anything. Then 1 month between Magistrates court and Crown Court. Right from the start we were told the investigation could take many months maybe even a year.