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Thanks very much for the recommendation. I am still trying to get my head around the situation.

Thanks for recommending. Im trying to understand more about sex addiction and how it lead to the situation we are in. Theres a lot to try and get your head around. Has anyone been to cosa meeting or anything like that?

Hi Jess - I was recommended this book as well and found it immensely helpful. It’s still very early days for my partner and I, but the book was both informative and easy to digest. It really helped me to understand what I am going through and why led me and my partner here. I’d recommend reading Paula Hall’s other book which is aimed at the individual(rather than the partner), as it has some really useful stuff in there, particularly if you are choosing to stay and support your partner through this.

Thanks Jess - good to know, as I have a long list of books to read and wondering where to go next!

Hi all,

ive just started reading Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal by Barbara Steffens - so far I’m finding it really helpful and easy to relate to, and think many of you here (especially those for whom its all still quite fresh) might appreciate it too x

Thank you. My ex said he did it as an escalation of porn addiction and he got to a point where nothing turned him on so he pushed the boundaries. I personally don't believe this but i think this may help.

Wife and mum - my partner has said a similar thing. I do have my doubts at times, but based on everything else I know about him (both before and after this disclosure), plus what I have read in a number of books/websites, I am inclined to believe him.

I've just finished reading the book I mentioned above - at times it was a tough read, but overall I think it was incredibly helpful. Some sections were a little too faith-centric for my personal views, but I was able to skim over them and just take from them the information I needed. I’d recommend the book to all partners, whether or not you choose to stay together or separate.



for those considering staying with your partner, there are some helpful accounts in there from a couple in a similar situation to many of ours - her husband was in possession of indecent images, which he says was an escalation of a porn addiction. She chose to stay with him, and there are some details on how/why. A lot of it is faith-based, but even as someone without a faith I could still relate to a lot of it.

I’ve been trying to find a book to read in this. Thanks for recommendation .

Hi me and my husband are reading the

the Porn Trap. I have found it helpful

In beginning to understand ( as much )

as i can. My husband has been very honest

and open with me , thats why i have stayed.

So any help is a step in the right direction.



Stay strong you wounderful and strong

Ladys. Xxx