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Hiya.
Sorry for this and hope it doesn't upset anybody.
What I hate is the process and dunno if the police or cps can speed the processes up.
One minute you get the hell and life turned upside down with the knock.
Next you try and take it in, process everything maybe try and get a bit of your life together. Nobody watching you no restrictions. Nothing.
Next they call you some months letter. Saying can we have a another chat. Life turned upside down.
Then we have to wait again through CPS which could be another few months.
Then we get the courts and get the decision.
What gets me. One minute you know that you know dam well u have done wrong and trying to sort stuff. Maybe have a holiday etc. Go shopping. Walk the dog.
Next thing people are telling you what to do with your life, what u can look at and what holidays you can have.
Sorry for the rant. Xx
Sorry for this and hope it doesn't upset anybody.
What I hate is the process and dunno if the police or cps can speed the processes up.
One minute you get the hell and life turned upside down with the knock.
Next you try and take it in, process everything maybe try and get a bit of your life together. Nobody watching you no restrictions. Nothing.
Next they call you some months letter. Saying can we have a another chat. Life turned upside down.
Then we have to wait again through CPS which could be another few months.
Then we get the courts and get the decision.
What gets me. One minute you know that you know dam well u have done wrong and trying to sort stuff. Maybe have a holiday etc. Go shopping. Walk the dog.
Next thing people are telling you what to do with your life, what u can look at and what holidays you can have.
Sorry for the rant. Xx
No, you are right Chelsea. It's why the journey is such a rollercoaster of emotions. Even when things are relatively quiet there is an underlying anxiety about when the next upset will arrive. It makes planning anything in advance almost impossible.
Chelsea1
I totally agree. Magistrates court Monday (14th Feb) and I feel like everything is going to 'explode' Monday, like everyone will know whats happened, everyone will be talking about us as a family, all talking behind our backs. Its like im waiting for a button to be pressed and it will all be out in the open.
I know it won't be quiet like that (or I hope it won't be) but my anxiety can't let me rest. I have periods of ups and downs, sometimes my mind allows me to feel calm and that it will all be ok but then the anxiety kicks in and tells me that its never going to be ok. How can I make this stop. Should I let the feelings of calm in or am I kidding myself that it will be ok.
This is a emotional rollacoster no one asked for
I hope your all ok today
I totally agree. Magistrates court Monday (14th Feb) and I feel like everything is going to 'explode' Monday, like everyone will know whats happened, everyone will be talking about us as a family, all talking behind our backs. Its like im waiting for a button to be pressed and it will all be out in the open.
I know it won't be quiet like that (or I hope it won't be) but my anxiety can't let me rest. I have periods of ups and downs, sometimes my mind allows me to feel calm and that it will all be ok but then the anxiety kicks in and tells me that its never going to be ok. How can I make this stop. Should I let the feelings of calm in or am I kidding myself that it will be ok.
This is a emotional rollacoster no one asked for
I hope your all ok today
Totally agree - got the knock in May, RUI until second interview in December, back in limbo now waiting to know what the charges are. Truly hideous.
Hiya Lola
Same times as my hubby. How long he been waiting for CPS.
What's his charges ?
Xx
Same times as my hubby. How long he been waiting for CPS.
What's his charges ?
Xx
an underlying anxiety about when the next upset will arrive.
Truer words have never been spoken !
Truer words have never been spoken !
Hi Chelsea we have waited 2 years for the cps do make a decision it horrible how there is no feelings for the family your hole life is on hold.
sending hugs
sending hugs
That saying 'be kind, you never know what others are going through' must have been written for us! I'm definitely less judgemental of bigger things, but I find that I'm less tolerant of those who whinge about little things.....I get very (inwardly) irritated by those who are a bit tired, or a bit stressed, or a bit busy! But I've learned to just nod sympathetically and wish that I could return to a time where stress was just getting stuck in traffic!
I feel very similar Lola, lots more compassion and understanding for people going through tough things. Similar to you I find it difficult to engage in conversation or feel any sympathy for people in minor stressful situation - Sometimes want to scream and say I don't care, you've no idea how lucky you are to be living the life you are with the freedom and choices you have.
What now looks like a good life and outcome is dramatically different to what it was pre knock.
I have to tell myself, its not their fault they find themselves in a better position that I'm in and remind myself that things could actually be much worse.
What now looks like a good life and outcome is dramatically different to what it was pre knock.
I have to tell myself, its not their fault they find themselves in a better position that I'm in and remind myself that things could actually be much worse.
Someone's life might be pretty good but as we've found out how that can change in the blink of an eye (or in our case the press of button). No one knows what awaits for them round the corner do they??????
i know what you mean your head screams - you ought to be in my shoes - when folk complain about trivia xxxx
i know what you mean your head screams - you ought to be in my shoes - when folk complain about trivia xxxx
Agreed Smile.
In the summer I thought my life was perfect, I wanted to shout from the roof tops about how happy and perfect life was. I couldn't have been any happier.
I must have had a premonition because I didn't, I stayed humble, recognising how lucky I really really was and how far the fall would be if things changed. Oh and how that changed a few months later...
In the summer I thought my life was perfect, I wanted to shout from the roof tops about how happy and perfect life was. I couldn't have been any happier.
I must have had a premonition because I didn't, I stayed humble, recognising how lucky I really really was and how far the fall would be if things changed. Oh and how that changed a few months later...