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Those with children, how did contact work? Reading through posts it all seems so different. We have an 11 year old daughter and he was arrested and bailed with no contact until SS have been in touch, for having iioc.
SS rung on Friday and asked a couple of questions, he said he’d ring back on Monday after he’d spoken with police and his deputy something or other. I’m wondering what to expect.
SS rung on Friday and asked a couple of questions, he said he’d ring back on Monday after he’d spoken with police and his deputy something or other. I’m wondering what to expect.
In our case it was that when he was bailed, one of the conditions was that he could have no direct or indirect contact with our two children. When they had finished reviewing his phone (which took around 6 weeks), they dropped his bail conditions and he was allowed to see the children under the terms of SS's safety plan, which basically just said that all contact has to be supervised by his sister. xx
Hi Livvy
My husband was granted bail for having iioc back in 2019; we had a 13 yr old son at the time. We had supervised contact by me in the community for the first four months and could have face to face phone calls if I was in the room. My son was present at the knock. We were put on a child in need plan. We underwent a parent protect assessement and then we were allowed supervised contact in the home for several hours a week.
Several factors that helped us was husband had signed up to the Inform course, seeking help from our GPs, husband starting the Lucy Faithful modules and engaging with the CIN process.
My husband was granted bail for having iioc back in 2019; we had a 13 yr old son at the time. We had supervised contact by me in the community for the first four months and could have face to face phone calls if I was in the room. My son was present at the knock. We were put on a child in need plan. We underwent a parent protect assessement and then we were allowed supervised contact in the home for several hours a week.
Several factors that helped us was husband had signed up to the Inform course, seeking help from our GPs, husband starting the Lucy Faithful modules and engaging with the CIN process.
Hi,
I think u need to make sure that u don't say he isn't a risk to ur daughter, take that on board make a safety plan I no its only early but if they can see u r serious it might help.
It maybe supervised visits by u or another family member to start and then as long as u r showing u are suitable to supervise then u may be able too, like I say big thing is showing them u r taking it seriously and u r putting ur daughter before ur OH
I think u need to make sure that u don't say he isn't a risk to ur daughter, take that on board make a safety plan I no its only early but if they can see u r serious it might help.
It maybe supervised visits by u or another family member to start and then as long as u r showing u are suitable to supervise then u may be able too, like I say big thing is showing them u r taking it seriously and u r putting ur daughter before ur OH
Thank you ladies, there just seems to be no rhythm or reason to their decisions, all different outcomes.
LouFB same as us at the minute, no contact at all. They are missing each other so much and it's tough explaining to an 11 year old...
Autumn Gold when I spoke to SW on Friday he asked if I'd spoken with anyone and I mentioned we had both spoken with Stop it now and that I'd printed The modules for him to start working through. He seemed impressed that we knew about Lucy Faithful and that the police had given us info.
Thank you Dawn14 it's tough isn't it? I honestly don't feel he's a risk to her at all, but I know that I have to say otherwise. But I will do whatever it takes and I know he will to
LouFB same as us at the minute, no contact at all. They are missing each other so much and it's tough explaining to an 11 year old...
Autumn Gold when I spoke to SW on Friday he asked if I'd spoken with anyone and I mentioned we had both spoken with Stop it now and that I'd printed The modules for him to start working through. He seemed impressed that we knew about Lucy Faithful and that the police had given us info.
Thank you Dawn14 it's tough isn't it? I honestly don't feel he's a risk to her at all, but I know that I have to say otherwise. But I will do whatever it takes and I know he will to
That's really positive that SW was impressed; most of the social workers I came into contact with didn't know about it. I made the mistake at first by saying my son wasn't at risk to my detriment. It was only when I started reading this forum that I was able to challenge the SW. Is it IIOC your partner has been charged with? Another document that helped me was an old one - it was called London Safeguarding Children Board Guidelines Accessing ... this was a suggestion off the Family Rights Group website.
Thanks again Autumn Gold. I shall have a look at that document.
Currently at the investigation stage for IIOC.
Annoyed with Social services already. The guy I spoke with on Friday said he'd ring back Monday, because he didn't call I rang today to be told he was on annual leave till Thursday.
Currently at the investigation stage for IIOC.
Annoyed with Social services already. The guy I spoke with on Friday said he'd ring back Monday, because he didn't call I rang today to be told he was on annual leave till Thursday.