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My husband was "stun" on Tuesday. I didn't know anything about it until I came back from the shop and they were on my doorstep. We have 1 year old twin boys who where in bed.
It has traumatised me. I don't feel safe in my own home. I am trying to understand why. He chatted to a 13 year old in a chat room meant for adults think it was a decoy from what's been said. He is currently living somewhere else. He is getting all the support he needs ect but am left at home scared with 2 babies. Ss have not been in contact yet. Which is really annoying me.
Sorry this is a bit of rant.
It has traumatised me. I don't feel safe in my own home. I am trying to understand why. He chatted to a 13 year old in a chat room meant for adults think it was a decoy from what's been said. He is currently living somewhere else. He is getting all the support he needs ect but am left at home scared with 2 babies. Ss have not been in contact yet. Which is really annoying me.
Sorry this is a bit of rant.
I'm sorry you've found yourself here. It really is the worst for the first few weeks whilst the dust settles and the realisation sets in. It will most definitely be a decoy he was chatting to which has resulted in the sting. What exactly the charges may be will depend very much on the context of the chat. There can be sexual communication, grooming, intent to meet, incite, there are quite a lot potentially so depends what the CPS decide to charge for. In regards to safety, you can contact the Police if you feel unsafe and worry about repurcussion. It's quite a long process getting to charging stage so for the time being try to just take each day as it comes and focus on yourself and your babies. Come off social media and be very careful about who you share your situation with. Sending lots of love xx
Baffled what great advice,
if you just need someone to talk to call the helpline even if just to let and cry. There are other support services to help you just have a look through the forum. Ss will be in contact they will want to see you are the protective parent in this.
But most importantly breath, don't make any rash decisions this can be a long journey
Kerl comming on here asking questions were are all here to suppor each other these ladies are amazing and have so much knowledge x
if you just need someone to talk to call the helpline even if just to let and cry. There are other support services to help you just have a look through the forum. Ss will be in contact they will want to see you are the protective parent in this.
But most importantly breath, don't make any rash decisions this can be a long journey
Kerl comming on here asking questions were are all here to suppor each other these ladies are amazing and have so much knowledge x
Davier
I am so sorry you have joined our number but there are some amazing, strong folk on here who will be able to offer support, advice and factual information. You might find past posts useful if only to show you that you can get through this terrible time.
Yes, be careful who you speak to about this, but I hope you have someone who can offer some practical support with your little ones, doing some shopping etc. If you feel frightened being at home, or in staying at home, you can speak with the Police about having a marker placed on your address, possibly having one of those camera doorbells installed or acquiring a personal alarm. If you are short of funds there may be grants available through Victim Support.
Sending hugs and best wishes.
I am so sorry you have joined our number but there are some amazing, strong folk on here who will be able to offer support, advice and factual information. You might find past posts useful if only to show you that you can get through this terrible time.
Yes, be careful who you speak to about this, but I hope you have someone who can offer some practical support with your little ones, doing some shopping etc. If you feel frightened being at home, or in staying at home, you can speak with the Police about having a marker placed on your address, possibly having one of those camera doorbells installed or acquiring a personal alarm. If you are short of funds there may be grants available through Victim Support.
Sending hugs and best wishes.