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So sad. Why and what will his life be like

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SAL

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December 2021

898 posts

Posted Mon February 21, 2022 10:40amReport post

I feel so sad.

Final few weeks before the court date.

So sad for what is likely for him.

Thinking about what will be written in papers.

How he'll be regarded for the rest of his life.

When I think about what other people will think, I can understand it. I start seeing my partner through their eyes and just think - Why?! Why did you have that conversations? Why were you so stupid and naive? Where did this come from?

I know some of the answers myself, but they still come up. Other people will just take what they read as face value. There is no forgiveness in crimes like these. Even now when I read newspapers stories I am guilty of thinking P and all the other emotive descriptions used to describe people. If I read my own partners story I'd think those things - I have moments of thinking it myself.

Smile through tears

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Posted Mon February 21, 2022 11:39amReport post

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Edited Mon February 21, 2022 6:34pm

Upset mum

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Posted Mon February 21, 2022 3:47pmReport post

Hi SAL , Smile

I have those same feelings every day I feel sad for what my son has lost and what we have been through and most of all the impact of his actions to his victims I still just dont know how he got so deep and lost in this nightmare

We have no control in what will happen when it appears in the media but to be honest I dont care what people will say or think it is just my close family I will be concerned about

Sending hugs to you both xx

Edited Mon February 21, 2022 3:49pm

SAL

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Posted Mon February 21, 2022 4:16pmReport post

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SAL

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December 2021

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Posted Sun February 27, 2022 1:05pmReport post

There are so many things in proud of my partner for. The adversities he's over come. How humble he is. How kind and supportive he is. How hard he's worked. How motivated and brave he can be.

I feel like I'm not allowed to feel or see those things anymore.

I know we are all more than one lable. Not all good or all bad. But I'm guilty of sometimes feeling guilty for seeing the good in him. It's like this thing completely dwafts him.

I feel like running away, getting some animals and a cottage in the middle of nowhere and making a nest for us, ready for when he leave prison to cacoon us from a the judgement.

Then I think - I'm worth more than this, I haven't done anything from.