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My husband was door stepped by a vigalanty group 3 weeks ago now.
He is bailed at his parents as we have 1 year old twin boys. He is now allowed to see the boys as long as it's supervised by his mother.
It makes me so sad that this has happened to us as a family. I want to support him through this. He is accessing the help he needs but I think the embrassement for him and feeling ashamed of himself.
I feel I am grieving our relationship, I thought we had a good relationship. He has been speaking to ladies online chat rooms and then he has spoken to 2 vigalanty decoys which stated there ages were 13 and 12.
Sorry this problem doesn't make any sense at all. Just needed somewhere to up my thoughts down.
My husband was door stepped by a vigalanty group 3 weeks ago now.
He is bailed at his parents as we have 1 year old twin boys. He is now allowed to see the boys as long as it's supervised by his mother.
It makes me so sad that this has happened to us as a family. I want to support him through this. He is accessing the help he needs but I think the embrassement for him and feeling ashamed of himself.
I feel I am grieving our relationship, I thought we had a good relationship. He has been speaking to ladies online chat rooms and then he has spoken to 2 vigalanty decoys which stated there ages were 13 and 12.
Sorry this problem doesn't make any sense at all. Just needed somewhere to up my thoughts down.
Hi Davier - I feel the pain and upset you go through in this journey (esp at the beginning) is similar to grieving/bereavement.
When my son was took away for questioning then into custody, I felt physically ill -with continual stomach pains - then of course mentally destroyed.
with each step you reach these feelings can sadly reappear. It's awful xxx
When my son was took away for questioning then into custody, I felt physically ill -with continual stomach pains - then of course mentally destroyed.
with each step you reach these feelings can sadly reappear. It's awful xxx
Hey Davier,
I'm so sorry this has happened to you. I absolutely despise vigilante stings because it impacts families way more than Police ones. It's very raw at the moment for you but it will get easier. He's getting the help he needs and hopefully there won't be anything else and perhaps maybe you can find a way of moving forward whether that be as a couple or separate. You haven't done anything wrong at all so take some time to allow things to sink in and look after yourself. Sending love xx
I'm so sorry this has happened to you. I absolutely despise vigilante stings because it impacts families way more than Police ones. It's very raw at the moment for you but it will get easier. He's getting the help he needs and hopefully there won't be anything else and perhaps maybe you can find a way of moving forward whether that be as a couple or separate. You haven't done anything wrong at all so take some time to allow things to sink in and look after yourself. Sending love xx
I totally understand, it really is like greiving, it still does a year down the line but I've accepted my family before is different now, I have my new normal, just take it a day at a time, contact your gp or the helpline to help process your thoughts, it can be a very lonely journey especially with young babies, mine are older and not his, iCant imagine the upheaval, but your strong enough to reach out for help here and that takes courage, big hugs xx