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Blackhound

Member since
October 2020

479 posts

Posted Tue March 1, 2022 3:46pmReport post

Hey everyone,

My PMS cycle really very badly effects me and so ATM I'm having a very very down few days. Tired of literally everything, especially the investigation which has about another 9 months minimum I think.

Im angry at friends who don't contact us anymore (one knows) the rest don't... But realise the value of the friends who do ..

I'm angry that for 16 months my partner has been able to walk around as no threat and when the investigation closes he's suddenly deemed a threat.

I'm angry that I can't do what I want when I want because I'm an adult and I have to consider others peoples feelings. I'm a people pleaser.

Im scared, happy and sad of the future all at the same time.

I'm not after advice. I'm just venting and wanted others to know you're not alone in feeling rubbish right now.

Hopefully the metaphorical sun will shine soon and brighter days will come...

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2350 posts

Posted Tue March 1, 2022 3:49pmReport post

Hey Blackhound

I have those same feelings it's the emotions this journey brings one minute I am ok the next a complete wreck.

Just wanted to send you a virtual hug xx

SAL

Member since
December 2021

890 posts

Posted Tue March 1, 2022 4:04pmReport post

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BaffledB

Member since
July 2021

874 posts

Posted Tue March 1, 2022 4:20pmReport post

Ladies I really do feel you. I've managed to keep myself together so far this year but that's only because I have some hope to cling to but I'm aware that could go away at any point. I don't really have any advice but as we all know even when it's doom and gloom we do manage to have some good days so allow yourself to grieve when you're feeling sad knowing that a good day is around the corner. We are all so incredibly strong to go through such a horrific ordeal with very little/no support and still manage to bounce back. Sending love and strength to everyone xx

Blackhound

Member since
October 2020

479 posts

Posted Tue March 1, 2022 5:15pmReport post

Thanks Ladies...

SAL, this but hit me hard: Get signed off from work and move home to my parents so I could be looked after.

Honestly I just want someone to look after me and sweep me up to tell me that it's going to be okay. I need stability in my life and a partner with very highly strung suspected ADHD / Autism that comes with a drinking problem which for days is okay and then goes off the rails on the bad days wears me out...

Sometimes I genuinley want to walk away, but again this time of the month breaks me down... It literally always has.

I plaster on smiles for work and friends because it's so easy to, I'm very good at masking. You don't have to deal with 'real life' with them... That's why it feels good to go out of the house....

I've been now out on birth control and after my cycle is over I'll be starting it to see if it lifts my PMS...

Goodluck everyone with today, tomorrow and the rest of the week...

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2487 posts

Posted Tue March 1, 2022 5:15pmReport post

Group hug xxxxx

Lola53

Member since
May 2021

267 posts

Posted Tue March 1, 2022 6:02pmReport post

Definitely a group hug!

Blackhound, message me if you want a coffee xx

SAL

Member since
December 2021

890 posts

Posted Tue March 1, 2022 6:42pmReport post

Oh blackhound, that must be so hard, dealing with the uncertainties of the case but also not knowing whether your partner might also have a bad day. It seems like the women in these situations carry so much on their shoulders.

Sending a big hug and I hope things get better over the next few days and next month things are calmer.

Well done for reach out, it does sometimes seem that everyone else seems to be coping better, in reality we all have better and worse days.

Big hug

NMS

Member since
November 2021

97 posts

Posted Tue March 1, 2022 7:09pmReport post

I hear everything you are saying unfortunately.

Big hugs xx

ScaredLamb

Member since
May 2021

199 posts

Posted Tue March 1, 2022 7:27pmReport post

Hi black hound

I know what you mean about bad days and also time of the month not helping.
My friend has been persribed an antidepressant that she literally takes during her time of the month to help stabilise her mood. She doesn't take it the rest of the time. This was something I'd never heard of until recently. Maybe something to consider?



sending so much love

Blackhound

Member since
October 2020

479 posts

Posted Tue March 1, 2022 7:50pmReport post

Hey Scared,

I'd love to say yes to that but unfortunately I already take anti depressants everyday :(