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Ahh sweetie / it really is dreadful and we've all been through this horrible time. I too suffered physically when my son was 'caught', we understand.
im sure the lovely ladies on here will advise you to seek support. I just want to offer you one big massive hug x
im sure the lovely ladies on here will advise you to seek support. I just want to offer you one big massive hug x
Hi Quand
Just wanted to reach out and send lots of hugs xx
The pain is unbearable so we know how you are feeling
Be kind to yourself and try to take a day at a time.
You are not alone in theis journey so reach out to us on here x
Just wanted to reach out and send lots of hugs xx
The pain is unbearable so we know how you are feeling
Be kind to yourself and try to take a day at a time.
You are not alone in theis journey so reach out to us on here x
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Glad you got through to the LFF help line Quand xx
Any offer of support take it certainly from the doctors also xx
Hugs x
Any offer of support take it certainly from the doctors also xx
Hugs x
Sometimes this journey can be extremely lonely - it's really good to communicate with others who understand how you feel.
Hello Quand
I am so sorry that you are feeling so poorly and in pain. I agree with what you are saying that your body is definitely reacting to the trauma you have been through with the 'knock' and everything you have had to deal with over the last few weeks.
How is your son coping with all of this? I recall from your previous posts that he has Autism, so I hope you have managed to find some support for him.
It is very important that you feel supported throughout this process. If you haven't been to your GP yet, now maybe it is a good time to go. Hopefully the GP will be able to help you and maybe signpost you to some services that can support you.
You really need to look after yourself which is easier said than done in these early days. Are you able to try and take sometime each day to do something for your wellbeing like a long walk, bubbly bath, meet a friend or something along these lines?
Thinking of you
I am so sorry that you are feeling so poorly and in pain. I agree with what you are saying that your body is definitely reacting to the trauma you have been through with the 'knock' and everything you have had to deal with over the last few weeks.
How is your son coping with all of this? I recall from your previous posts that he has Autism, so I hope you have managed to find some support for him.
It is very important that you feel supported throughout this process. If you haven't been to your GP yet, now maybe it is a good time to go. Hopefully the GP will be able to help you and maybe signpost you to some services that can support you.
You really need to look after yourself which is easier said than done in these early days. Are you able to try and take sometime each day to do something for your wellbeing like a long walk, bubbly bath, meet a friend or something along these lines?
Thinking of you
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Yes Quand / We all talk about 'the knock' but in this journey there are many 'knocks" that can happen any time day or night. You live life on a knifes edge for sure.
None of this journey comes easy and continues to become over whelming at times.. I still say the beginning was the most painful.
None of this journey comes easy and continues to become over whelming at times.. I still say the beginning was the most painful.
Hi Quand
I am so pleased to hear your GP is supporting your son and that your son is also working through the LFF modules. Has your son thought about doing the Inform Course with LFF so he can work through them with a professional? I am only suggesting this as the young member of our family (who is also on the autistic spectrum) benefitted hugely from working with the LFF to go through the modules. He worked with Tracey from LFF who I would highly recommend. If he completes the course with them they can write a completion letter/certificate that you can give to the police/courts/solicitor to help support his case.
It is important if you can try and make sometime for yourself everyday to do something for your wellbeing.
Thanks for asking how we are doing. As a family we are in a much better place as the young person in our family has nearly completed his Youth Referral Order issued by the court. It does get better, although it may be hard for you to picture at this moment in time.
It sounds like you are doing everything you can at this stage. Keep talking with the LFF for advise and support and also keep posting on this forum. This forum is a valuable lifeline to us all.
Take care
I am so pleased to hear your GP is supporting your son and that your son is also working through the LFF modules. Has your son thought about doing the Inform Course with LFF so he can work through them with a professional? I am only suggesting this as the young member of our family (who is also on the autistic spectrum) benefitted hugely from working with the LFF to go through the modules. He worked with Tracey from LFF who I would highly recommend. If he completes the course with them they can write a completion letter/certificate that you can give to the police/courts/solicitor to help support his case.
It is important if you can try and make sometime for yourself everyday to do something for your wellbeing.
Thanks for asking how we are doing. As a family we are in a much better place as the young person in our family has nearly completed his Youth Referral Order issued by the court. It does get better, although it may be hard for you to picture at this moment in time.
It sounds like you are doing everything you can at this stage. Keep talking with the LFF for advise and support and also keep posting on this forum. This forum is a valuable lifeline to us all.
Take care
Hi Quand
Just a thought if your daughter is getting confused with you following her around and probably picking up something is going on , it may be good to talk to someone about this like maybe the charity Young Minds.
You are her mum, so you know best, but they may be able to offer you some tips/suggestions on going forward. Hope this makes sense.
Just a thought if your daughter is getting confused with you following her around and probably picking up something is going on , it may be good to talk to someone about this like maybe the charity Young Minds.
You are her mum, so you know best, but they may be able to offer you some tips/suggestions on going forward. Hope this makes sense.
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Hi Quand
You will need to contact the LFF helpline about the courses they run. The 'Inform Plus' would be the course for your son and I believe it does have a cost, you will need to speak with them. The link with more information is https://www.lucyfaithfull.org.uk/help-to-stop-offending-online.htm
I am not sure of the cost as the young member of our family done the Young Peoples course as he was under 18 years of age, and so we only had to make a donation.
I believe they are still running the courses on zoom.
You could also ask about information on the Inform course as this one is run for the families of people who have offended online. For this course I believe they ask for a voluntary donation towards the costs.
You will need to contact the LFF helpline about the courses they run. The 'Inform Plus' would be the course for your son and I believe it does have a cost, you will need to speak with them. The link with more information is https://www.lucyfaithfull.org.uk/help-to-stop-offending-online.htm
I am not sure of the cost as the young member of our family done the Young Peoples course as he was under 18 years of age, and so we only had to make a donation.
I believe they are still running the courses on zoom.
You could also ask about information on the Inform course as this one is run for the families of people who have offended online. For this course I believe they ask for a voluntary donation towards the costs.
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Hi there
Just wanted to send hugs.
We have all been in this position at the begining no where to turn or even talk to this group helped me a lot.
It's now been 3 months for us nearly its gone pretty quick at the start I cried I shouted I screamed never thought life would get back on track.
But this week my son got himself 3 interviews never went to the third as he was offered the other 2 started yesterday.
Life is not like it used to be family split not talking but I do see the new norm for the time being and the next hurdle.
Stay strong always here if you need to talk.
X
Just wanted to send hugs.
We have all been in this position at the begining no where to turn or even talk to this group helped me a lot.
It's now been 3 months for us nearly its gone pretty quick at the start I cried I shouted I screamed never thought life would get back on track.
But this week my son got himself 3 interviews never went to the third as he was offered the other 2 started yesterday.
Life is not like it used to be family split not talking but I do see the new norm for the time being and the next hurdle.
Stay strong always here if you need to talk.
X
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Hiya Mum50
Thats great news about your son getting jobs. They is hope for us all.
Did he have to change carrear pave. Sorry for the spelling mistake.
Xx
Thats great news about your son getting jobs. They is hope for us all.
Did he have to change carrear pave. Sorry for the spelling mistake.
Xx
Mum50,
Sorry if it opens up old wounds, can I ask what your Son was charged with and the outcome ? I see he is now doing well and I hope this is all behind you now and the future can be brighter. MY person has lots of issues to sort through, including early trauma which we are told led to him being where he is now with his issues :( xx
Sorry if it opens up old wounds, can I ask what your Son was charged with and the outcome ? I see he is now doing well and I hope this is all behind you now and the future can be brighter. MY person has lots of issues to sort through, including early trauma which we are told led to him being where he is now with his issues :( xx
Hey Quand,
I'm a great believer in stress and emotional trauma presenting itself through physical symptoms, I'm so sorry you're struggling at the moment. It is such a worry of what the outcome will be but try to focus on that it won't be as bad as what our brain tries to make us believe. Some may say this is living in denial but we have to hope it won't be the absolute worst case scenario or we'll suffer everyday until it comes the verdict arrives and beyond. Allow yourself time to have these down days, it's very normal and hopefully tomorrow or the day after you will feel much better. Sending love xx
I'm a great believer in stress and emotional trauma presenting itself through physical symptoms, I'm so sorry you're struggling at the moment. It is such a worry of what the outcome will be but try to focus on that it won't be as bad as what our brain tries to make us believe. Some may say this is living in denial but we have to hope it won't be the absolute worst case scenario or we'll suffer everyday until it comes the verdict arrives and beyond. Allow yourself time to have these down days, it's very normal and hopefully tomorrow or the day after you will feel much better. Sending love xx