Gone to CPS and I’m struggling.
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Hi all
So my social worker mentioned she has been told the case was "awaiting a decision". So we chased solicitor and it's indeed gone to CPS 24th January.
We are East of England - any clues on how long the wait might be?
Im currently on Maternity leave. My technical start date back is 13th June with holidays I actually go back 4th July. I can't really go back early due to childcare. But I can't afford to live on just my wage if anything happens while on maternity (it will be tough once back on full pay but I'll manage). Do we think I need to discuss with work going back to work sooner?
I have tried to be really strong throughout all this. Through the knock and then having our baby. All the social services stuff ect. But now I'm starting to panic. I'm feeling down every day. I'm stressing that everything is about to go to absolute shit. I'm convinced hubby will go to prison. And I don't know if I can be a single mum - like I don't think I'm capable of doing it on my own.
My anxiety has spiralled to a point where I'm starting medication.
I just don't know how to cope now and how to deal with the unknowns. I wish wish wish. I could just do something practical to help.
It sucks too as hubby had an interview for a promotion today - that he will probably get. They know about the investigation so it's positive I suppose - but I don't know if they will be able to keep him on after he is charged as it's a very big global company. Things outside of this crap are just going so so well. Hubby is doing amazing with therapy, baby girl is amazing, I had a promotion, he's getting a promotion everything is great - apart from this!! God why was he so stupid!!!!
So my social worker mentioned she has been told the case was "awaiting a decision". So we chased solicitor and it's indeed gone to CPS 24th January.
We are East of England - any clues on how long the wait might be?
Im currently on Maternity leave. My technical start date back is 13th June with holidays I actually go back 4th July. I can't really go back early due to childcare. But I can't afford to live on just my wage if anything happens while on maternity (it will be tough once back on full pay but I'll manage). Do we think I need to discuss with work going back to work sooner?
I have tried to be really strong throughout all this. Through the knock and then having our baby. All the social services stuff ect. But now I'm starting to panic. I'm feeling down every day. I'm stressing that everything is about to go to absolute shit. I'm convinced hubby will go to prison. And I don't know if I can be a single mum - like I don't think I'm capable of doing it on my own.
My anxiety has spiralled to a point where I'm starting medication.
I just don't know how to cope now and how to deal with the unknowns. I wish wish wish. I could just do something practical to help.
It sucks too as hubby had an interview for a promotion today - that he will probably get. They know about the investigation so it's positive I suppose - but I don't know if they will be able to keep him on after he is charged as it's a very big global company. Things outside of this crap are just going so so well. Hubby is doing amazing with therapy, baby girl is amazing, I had a promotion, he's getting a promotion everything is great - apart from this!! God why was he so stupid!!!!
Hiya hun.
My hubby rang his soliceter today and they said that the paperwork was sent on 4/1/22.
The soliceters said to him that their normally is a 28 day turnaround but because of covid that's gone out the window.
My gut feeling tells me we will hear this month or early in April 22.
We are in south coast xx
My hubby rang his soliceter today and they said that the paperwork was sent on 4/1/22.
The soliceters said to him that their normally is a 28 day turnaround but because of covid that's gone out the window.
My gut feeling tells me we will hear this month or early in April 22.
We are in south coast xx
Hey Scared... What makes you think it will be custodial? Have you been told or warned by a solicitor?
If it is custodial then I would talk to your social care worker about what benefits you can get as a single mother which will help with your income ...
Its good that you've both got promotions in the pipeline, very promising....
I'm glad you're both doing well, it's a good thing in the long run to be stable before any metaphorical sh*t hits the fan...
If it is custodial then I would talk to your social care worker about what benefits you can get as a single mother which will help with your income ...
Its good that you've both got promotions in the pipeline, very promising....
I'm glad you're both doing well, it's a good thing in the long run to be stable before any metaphorical sh*t hits the fan...
Hi black hound
No, to be fair we have been told by everyone probably suspended. But he has 2x communication and sending images (decoy). We obviously don't know exact charges yet. (I suppose good thing is no second interview so they haven't found anything else and he hasn't lied!). But with everything I've seen, other cases ect I think it's far more likely to be custodial. I'll be so greatfil and amazed if not. But I'm preparing for custodial.
I don't think I will be able to get any help as I earn quite a good amount of money. But everyone lives to their means don't they- so mortgage ect is based on 2 wages. But benefits ect don't care about that! I'd love help with childcare though maybe they Can help with that some how.
just praying everything is ok.
No, to be fair we have been told by everyone probably suspended. But he has 2x communication and sending images (decoy). We obviously don't know exact charges yet. (I suppose good thing is no second interview so they haven't found anything else and he hasn't lied!). But with everything I've seen, other cases ect I think it's far more likely to be custodial. I'll be so greatfil and amazed if not. But I'm preparing for custodial.
I don't think I will be able to get any help as I earn quite a good amount of money. But everyone lives to their means don't they- so mortgage ect is based on 2 wages. But benefits ect don't care about that! I'd love help with childcare though maybe they Can help with that some how.
just praying everything is ok.
We are in East of England. Early October we were notified via solicitor that charges had been authorised by the CPS. I think the CPS took around eight weeks to authorise the charges. Got the summons in the post beginning of February. Plea hearing imminent.
Wishing you all the best. I have two pre schoolers and know the difficulty in keeping positive and in 'mum mode' when you just feel like breaking down.
Wishing you all the best. I have two pre schoolers and know the difficulty in keeping positive and in 'mum mode' when you just feel like breaking down.
Scared lamb - my hubby got arrested for a conversation with a decoy too and sent an image. We're only three weeks from the knock and the wait to hear anything is eating at me each day. We currently have to live apart due to my work and it's just so awful and heartbreaking!
How long did it take for you to hear anything?
xx
How long did it take for you to hear anything?
xx
Scared Lamb
We are south East but court is North West. Got knock June, had plea hearing end of Feb, sentencing end of March. Communication and meet with decoy. God knows what he'll get, all depends on the day from what I've heard.
We were waiting so long to hear something then when it comes it knocks you off your feet again. Waiting now is like being in a vacuum waiting for the bubble to burst.
Don't worry on facing the unknowns, do that as they come, you will be surprised of your strength when you get there. You've got this far and you're doing amazing. Just try to take deep breaths and keep calm. And Smile. Confused the hell out of people that know.
take care of yourself x
We are south East but court is North West. Got knock June, had plea hearing end of Feb, sentencing end of March. Communication and meet with decoy. God knows what he'll get, all depends on the day from what I've heard.
We were waiting so long to hear something then when it comes it knocks you off your feet again. Waiting now is like being in a vacuum waiting for the bubble to burst.
Don't worry on facing the unknowns, do that as they come, you will be surprised of your strength when you get there. You've got this far and you're doing amazing. Just try to take deep breaths and keep calm. And Smile. Confused the hell out of people that know.
take care of yourself x
Hi Moo
Hubby arrested May 17th and this is the very first we have heard anything. Sorry I know that doesn't make it any easier.
Mrs g. Thank you. Those timelines help a little. But also scare me I guess. Seems a big wait from charges to sentencing!
thanks all.
taking today as a win that he was in fact honest and there was nothing more on devices. Silver linings and all that!
Hubby arrested May 17th and this is the very first we have heard anything. Sorry I know that doesn't make it any easier.
Mrs g. Thank you. Those timelines help a little. But also scare me I guess. Seems a big wait from charges to sentencing!
thanks all.
taking today as a win that he was in fact honest and there was nothing more on devices. Silver linings and all that!
Hi scared lamb
am from the north east just wanted to give you the time frame from we're I am the knock was the 28th of March 2020 first interview was January 2021 and know it's up to crown court 9th of this month.
it's really hard to move on for me it is anyway you just seem to start coping and you get knocked down with letters from someone I know how you feel about bills and stuff my partner used to be on a really good payed job while I took care of our 2 children but he went on the sick from he's job from the knock and didn't go back it is a struggle but I have managed you have got this.
take care of yourself and I hope it isn't too long for your journey. Xx
am from the north east just wanted to give you the time frame from we're I am the knock was the 28th of March 2020 first interview was January 2021 and know it's up to crown court 9th of this month.
it's really hard to move on for me it is anyway you just seem to start coping and you get knocked down with letters from someone I know how you feel about bills and stuff my partner used to be on a really good payed job while I took care of our 2 children but he went on the sick from he's job from the knock and didn't go back it is a struggle but I have managed you have got this.
take care of yourself and I hope it isn't too long for your journey. Xx