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Maw

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March 2022

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Posted Tue March 8, 2022 11:06amReport post

My son was arrested and released under investigation in September 2021. 5 pieces of equipment siezed. .he was interviewed then police advised checked phone and another appliance within 3 weeks. Son has to report to police station in a couple of weeks. . Its his 1st offence . . He send images he says by mistake to decoy. . I'm beside myself wondering what will happen to him . . He not been called for 2nd interview just to attend police station . .he has solicitor . Things found on snap chat and kik

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majestictopaz

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December 2019

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Posted Tue March 8, 2022 8:01pmReport post

Not all those charged get a second interview. Has he been told what the police visit is for? When my partner went it was to discuss evidence they had found.

The length of time from knock to sentencing can vary from less than year to about two a d half years sometimes sooner or longer. It is hard to say what to expect until all the evidence is disclosed.

After the police station visit they might say they are sending to CPS, that would indicate charges are to follow.

Has he done any rehabilitation? I would recommend just in case the investigation goes on for alot longer

Maw

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March 2022

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Posted Tue March 8, 2022 10:10pmReport post

Thank you. . He has had counselling and is waiting more. Do the police let you know when it been sent to the CPS

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majestictopaz

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Posted Tue March 8, 2022 10:56pmReport post

They should give some sort of heads up to the offender. Maybe something to say that charges will be following. It took a couple of months after the second and final interview for charges to be given. My partner got his by the police delivering to the house, in plain clothes

Maw

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Posted Wed March 9, 2022 8:25amReport post

Thank you

Maw

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Posted Thu March 10, 2022 8:57amReport post

Mind in over drive would character references help in any way

majestictopaz

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Posted Thu March 10, 2022 7:48pmReport post

My partner had a few and I'm not sure if they helped but its better than nothing.

Maw

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Posted Thu March 10, 2022 8:18pmReport post

Thank you

Maw

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Posted Fri March 11, 2022 7:52pmReport post

Heard today it gone to CPS ...police rang to say we can have computers back but not phone . Wondering how long now to conclusion. . My heart is breaking

Maw

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March 2022

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Posted Fri March 18, 2022 8:59amReport post

More advice if possible. . Case gone to CPS now got a date to go back to police station does this mean a decision has been made or just to prolong it .

majestictopaz

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December 2019

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Posted Fri March 18, 2022 1:28pmReport post

I would ask why the invite back because not everyone is invited after going to CPS. Maybe they want the offender to collect the charges at the station? My partner had his delivered. Then again we are not local to the police force who needed to hand the charges over

Maw

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March 2022

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Posted Fri March 18, 2022 2:22pmReport post

Thank you it is exactly 4 weeks to go to police station from hearing it been sent to CPS

Maw

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Posted Fri March 18, 2022 9:30pmReport post

Thank you . . He rui.....

Jayjay

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Posted Fri March 18, 2022 10:10pmReport post

Has it definitely gone to CPS? Maybe they have more questions or maybe it's a NFA? Ask the OIC whether it is another interview or not x

Maw

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Posted Sat March 19, 2022 8:28amReport post

Thank you .

Maw

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Posted Wed April 13, 2022 2:44pmReport post

Again just heard that sons bail date has been extended another month. . Another month of worry for all. . How ling can thus go on . .

Sparrow

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Posted Thu April 14, 2022 6:06pmReport post

Maw

sorry to hear it's been extended. I've read so many cases which appear to take so long and it is just so incredibly difficult for everyone. Stay strong I know it's hard.
OH bail review due May and I am wondering if there will be yet another wait. The waiting is so hard....

Mindful

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January 2021

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Posted Sun April 24, 2022 1:05pmReport post

Hi Maw,

I know how you feel. I'm a witness too as I found the material, ours went to CPS Jan last year and we are no further forward but I'm suspecting it's due to some other circumstances that have been happening in the background.

Its hard to say how long you will wait in this its 2 years this June since I found it on his device.

The whole process has been awful!

My only advice is hang on in there

Maw

Member since
March 2022

32 posts

Posted Mon May 2, 2022 5:00pmReport post

Still waiting for cps to make a decision. How long can they take. My mind is in over drive ... also how do you know when they have made their decision...thank you

Daffodil

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Maw

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Posted Tue May 3, 2022 9:02amReport post

Thank you it is a great help to know that I can ask questions. It is difficult at home because people trying to protect me and stop me worrying so I can't speak or ask questions. I really do appreciate having contact eith people going through the same thing. I love my son and I know he has made a Hugh mistake . . Thank you again

Maw

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March 2022

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Posted Wed May 4, 2022 1:50pmReport post

Will my sons conviction show up on my dbs if I want to apply for a job that requires it . Thank you

Daffodil

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Maw

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Posted Thu May 5, 2022 9:19amReport post

Thank you .

Maw

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Posted Fri May 13, 2022 5:37pmReport post

Looks like it Wednesday that son is back at police station as it been to cps. . When charged what happens does it just go to magistrates court or crown court if he's pleaded guilty. . Thank you a desperate mum

Gemsie867

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Posted Fri May 13, 2022 10:13pmReport post

Maw - sending you some much needed hugs and strength . Hope all goes well on Wednesday xx

Daffodil

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Maw

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Posted Sat May 14, 2022 8:58amReport post

Thank you. . I'm just beside myself. . I know he has done wrong but I know he has made a terrible mistake. I dont know how he will cope if he gets a custodial sentence .

Daffodil

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Maw

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Posted Sat May 14, 2022 12:33pmReport post

Aw thank you all the support is a great comfort. Son was told when he was arrested his solicitor told him worst case would be a long sentence but then they had only got his phone. We have been told all other appliances can now be returned to my husband and sons work

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Maw

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Posted Tue May 17, 2022 10:02pmReport post

Friends once again. . I need help to understand the procedure. . Son has had confirmation to go police station to be charged in the morning . . But his solicitor is not attending . Why. .. does solicitor know the charges is it not as bad as it could be or am I clutching at straws. . ... x x

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Daffodil

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Maw

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Posted Wed May 18, 2022 10:00pmReport post

Friends just an update. . Son been charged today on 1 account engaging in talking to and distribution to a decoy over a 3 week period. In court mid June. I am so relieved nothing else was found and what son told us was the truth and when found out age stopped communicating. Just waiting now for the outcome. . Wondering what sentence he will get . Thanks for all your support

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Upset mum

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Posted Thu May 19, 2022 5:20pmReport post

Maw

Thank you for the update

I will have everything x for you all for a positive outcome xx

Hugs sent x

Maw

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March 2022

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Posted Mon June 6, 2022 12:33pmReport post

Hi friends . It's getting near to son appearing in magistrates court on 1 account of talking to a decoy and sending image over a 2 week period nothing else. Wondering what sentence he can expect . Thank you a Worried mum

Maw

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Posted Mon June 6, 2022 1:02pmReport post

Sorry it was over a 3 week period ..x

Upset mum

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Posted Mon June 6, 2022 3:45pmReport post

Hi Maw

Hope you are all bearing up ok

In all honesty try not to think to much in to what the outcome is likely to be ( easier said than done)

It all comes down to the judge on the day so I have everything x for you all x

Please keep us updated and hope the outcome can be the best it can be xx

Maw

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Posted Mon June 6, 2022 5:04pmReport post

Thank you you.are right easier said than done. I will let you know the outcome next week

Maw

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Posted Thu June 16, 2022 4:36pmReport post

Hi friends. Update on today. . Son went to magistrates courts pleaded guilty. . Having a pre sentence report going back to magistates in a month. .solicitor is pressing for it to stay in Magistrates Court

Upset mum

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Posted Thu June 16, 2022 6:00pmReport post

Maw

Thank you for the update

Hope.you are both bearing up ok x

Everything x for you both xx



Please keep us updated

Daffodil

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Maw

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Posted Wed July 13, 2022 10:55amReport post

Hi well tomorrow is Tuesday my son finds out what sentence he will get . Pre sentence report done. I'm beside myself . Hoping once thus us over we can try and build a new family life under whatever the outcome ..... Will let you know the outcome . Thank you for your support x

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Alison20

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Posted Wed July 13, 2022 2:23pmReport post

I will be thinking of you and your son tomorrow. I hope he gets a good outcome.

Stay strong x

Maw

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Posted Wed July 13, 2022 2:53pmReport post

Thank you x

Daffodil

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Upset mum

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Posted Thu July 14, 2022 2:51pmReport post

Hi Maw

Hope you are all ok xx

Maw

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Posted Thu July 14, 2022 2:53pmReport post

Well the outcome today gor our son is the best we could have hoped for. . 18 weeks prison suspended for 2 years. . SHPO 40 days rehabilitation and forbidden on social media and 7 years on SOR. .

To you all who are going through this nightmare keep positive this forum will help give you strength . . I am truly thankful for all your support in my darkest hours. Love to you all x x

Daffodil

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Maw

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Posted Sat July 30, 2022 10:26amReport post

Hello friends. . We getting along as best we can unfortunately work decided to dismiss my son yesterday he worked there for 11 years . Was wondering will he ever get a job and if so what work could he do . Please have anyone got any advice.....thank you

Daffodil

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Alison20

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Posted Sat July 30, 2022 12:44pmReport post

Hi Maw

I am sorry your son has been dismissed from his job after 11 years service.

I agree with Daffodil it would be good to contact UNLOCK charity. I would also make contact with NACRO, a social justice charity. A link that may be of use to you and your son is as follows:-

https://www.nacro.org.uk/criminal-record-support-service/support-for-individuals/employment-rights-and-representation-for-ex-offenders/

This link may be particularly useful if your son may have been wrongfully/unfairly dimissed.

I hope this info is of some help. x

Maw

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Posted Mon August 1, 2022 7:43pmReport post

Thank you

Maw

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Posted Thu August 25, 2022 9:39amReport post

Hi friends. I back for a little more advice. . Since son had his sentencing he is afraid to go out and he has since been dismissed from a job he loved after 10 years.. I need to visit my elderly mum who lives in Spain and want take son with us because I'm concerned about his mental health. . His probation officer knows and has taken dates etc. .son informing police as he knows he has to .Will anything show up on his passport. . Thank you gain

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majestictopaz

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Posted Thu August 25, 2022 8:20pmReport post

Not travelled yet since my partner was sentenced but my understanding is that if agreed with police and PO it should be fine. Tho not sure what lies ahead for the future, there is the temp visa (cost 7 quid for three years I think) that might require disclosure. I don't think such confirmation has been provided yet what this visa will mean for sex offenders.

Maw

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Posted Thu August 25, 2022 8:53pmReport post

Thank you. .

PetrifiedMum

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Posted Fri August 26, 2022 12:54amReport post

Hi Maw!

Me and my partner went to Spain in July and nothing came up on his passport something which I was really worried about! But our solicitor and police said it wouldn't! Hope this helps xx

Maw

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Posted Fri August 26, 2022 12:28pmReport post

Thank you petrified mum. . Im concerned because he has his sentence and on the SOR for 7 years . . X

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