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Hi Smile,

Just reading your post I cant offer much advise but had an idea not sure it will make any difference, but maybe worth a try

What if you wrote a letter to your hubby raising your concerns of how he is dealing with all of what has happened and that you are concerned and god knows you have had to deal with your own for long enough

We all know men keep the emotions to themselves and never ask for help this is one of the reasons my son got so deep in to this because he couldn't bring himself to seek help

Xx

My husband is naturally very calm and unflappable so he's, on the whole, dealt with it well. About 2 days after the knock he broke down in tears, which was just awful, but since then he's just been supportive and calm and kind with our son; I know that he does internalise a lot of stuff though. He also tends to generally be a bit emotionally remote - in the early days when our son was suicidal, it was me that took him out running every morning to help his anxiety, it was me who spoke regularly with all his friends, me who dealt with most of the practicalities and therefore me who has been the target when our son has been angry and upset. So they've remained on good terms because they haven't ruffled the surface, whereas I've questioned and talked and got involved.