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Lola53

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May 2021

269 posts

Posted Tue March 22, 2022 9:15pmReport post

So I read in the news earlier about a man who had been in court this week having self-disclosed to the police about possession of iioc.....I'm going to be totally honest and say that a year ago I would have thought pretty awful and damning things about him (assuming I'd even noticed the article at all, which I may not have done as it would have seemed irrelevant). Today, my gut reaction was to feel really REALLY sad for him. I surprised myself with such an automatic reaction and just needed to share here. It's a weird thing to be proud of!

Huge sadness for his family, of course; great empathy with what they must be feeling.

BaffledB

Member since
July 2021

876 posts

Posted Tue March 22, 2022 9:24pmReport post

Lola,

I totally agree with you. Prior to my encounter and spending time on here I had no idea about what leads people to iioc but now my opinions are totally different. I also find it a shame he ended up in the paper after self disclosing. I'd always been compassionate for vigilante stings, for both the person being stung and of course the family but I had no idea Police stings could also be traumatic. There's a lot we all know that I wish could be shared with general public but unfortunately people won't care or understand unless they go through it themselves or have someone close go through it x

Summer

Member since
July 2019

394 posts

Posted Tue March 22, 2022 9:30pmReport post

You're right we do think differently now, even like Making images well their not really making them the tricks vigilantes will use to try and get to the men and the police, absolutely useless!



Not taking anything on face value now!

Daffodil

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March 2022

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Posted Wed March 23, 2022 7:20amReport post

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Smile through tears

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September 2021

2550 posts

Posted Wed March 23, 2022 12:14pmReport post

I agree. I am definately a different person since this happened in our family. I too feel sadness for people caught up in this painful horrible situation.

Edited Wed March 23, 2022 12:16pm

sadmum

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January 2021

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Posted Wed March 23, 2022 12:21pmReport post

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Lola53

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May 2021

269 posts

Posted Wed March 23, 2022 1:18pmReport post

I agree with everything that's been said here - the poor chap not only was named but had his photo in the paper; given that he self-disclosed it's awful for him. As to vigilante stings, just hideous; the damage to the family must be devastating. The word 'making' is horribly misleading, isn't it - and again, I would have jumped to a very different conclusion about that a year ago.

Sadmum - your son was very brave to self-disclose and I hope the sentence reflects that. You've obviously been incredibly strong to get him, and yourself, through this.

As Lee said, we are a bloody amazing community!

Lots of love to my fellow warriors x

Space11

Member since
March 2022

1 post

Posted Wed March 23, 2022 2:19pmReport post

Hi all,

I'm totally new to all this and still getting to grips with everything since finding out :(

The charges against the person close to me include 'Making indecent images'. Am I right in thinking from your above discussion this doesn't necessarily mean they made the images?

Thanks

Edited Wed March 23, 2022 2:20pm

Upset mum

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June 2020

2401 posts

Posted Wed March 23, 2022 3:35pmReport post

So many true statements in this thread, I have never really read about situations that we are all going through or have been through and I have never watched on social media live streams,

But the amount of sympathy I have towards everyone here I just wish society would step back and understand more but again it is such a taboo subject

This forum has helped me so much and even though it's an awful journey you all make such a huge difference in my life xx

Hopeforthefuture

Member since
September 2021

97 posts

Posted Wed March 23, 2022 4:56pmReport post

Hi All,

I couldn't agree more. I have been hugely humbled by everything we have been through and I have so much empathy towards anyone going through anything similar. 3 years ago I hate to admit my response to anything of this nature would have been shameful and ignorant.
much love to you all xxx

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2550 posts

Posted Wed March 23, 2022 5:00pmReport post

As life moves forward - I will never forget this forum and the support it's given me and continues to do so x

Upset mum

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June 2020

2401 posts

Posted Wed March 23, 2022 5:26pmReport post

Hi Smile,

Hows your son? And how are you xx