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Livvy

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February 2022

33 posts

Posted Wed March 30, 2022 9:07amReport post

Can social services see your child without telling you? I did give them consent to speak to her at school, but only because the SW told me she would email and let me know. Found out this morning that they spoke to her last week, my daughter hadn't mentioned it because SW told her I'll email mum and let her know. Plus she didn't want to worry us. She's only 11.

Summer

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July 2019

394 posts

Posted Wed March 30, 2022 10:28pmReport post

Hmm I'm not sure that's how it should be obviously they don't want you preping her for thier visit but should at least be calling saying I'm going to pop in this afternoon and speak with her, just letting you know being Curteous and that. I may also now mention to school can they contact if social worker comes in as really it's your right who's seeing your child x

Edited Wed March 30, 2022 10:28pm

Daffodil

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Posted Fri April 1, 2022 7:42amReport post

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Livvy

Member since
February 2022

33 posts

Posted Sun April 3, 2022 1:44pmReport post

Thank you for your replies. I asked when she came round to assess husband and she just said, sorry I forgot. ????

Livvy

Member since
February 2022

33 posts

Posted Sun April 3, 2022 4:46pmReport post

Thank you Lee, have had nothing in writing, all verbal. I'm not sure from what she said if we will need to see her for awhile, at least till he gets charged anyway. She mentioned referring us to SWIFT. I need to Google these though as not sure what they do.
I will start from now through getting everything in writing. Don't have her email, but have her mobile so I guess a text to confirm would be just as good.

Livvy

Member since
February 2022

33 posts

Posted Sun April 3, 2022 6:33pmReport post

No plan or agreement. She just left saying that she'd make a referral to SWIFT and that was all she said.
I'll send her a text asking for email, as I have some questions, then ask what from their point of view is going to happen next.

Livvy

Member since
February 2022

33 posts

Posted Sun April 3, 2022 7:47pmReport post

That's fine Lee. Arrested on the 7th Feb for iioc. Was on bail not allowed home, supervised community contact only. Police reviewed this on 7th mar and he was RUi. Police said he was allowed home , but only if I agreed this. I've decided I want him to stay, been together 30 years and this is totally out of character, like so many got drawn into it through porn.

Livvy

Member since
February 2022

33 posts

Posted Sun April 3, 2022 8:05pmReport post

We have a daughter whose 11. Who doesn't stand for any crap, I can see her rolling her eyes at SW when she was asking if dads ever made her feel uncomfortable.

She already knows what we want and that we want to stay together, I made that clear from the start. Haven't done a safety plan yet. Have done a few safeguarding courses that I had to do for work. I work in A&E, don't know if they'll count. Didn't know they did courses for kids, I'll look into that and get her to do them.

They know we are serious, I told school before they did, we told them how he's started the modules and is keen to start the course and also reading a book.


Thanks Lee xx

Edited Sun April 3, 2022 8:08pm

Livvy

Member since
February 2022

33 posts

Posted Sun April 3, 2022 8:12pmReport post

Lovely, thank you so much xx