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Pregnantandscared

Member since
April 2021

140 posts

Posted Wed March 30, 2022 10:54amReport post

We are in court tomorrow. Feel utterly sick with nerves, and I've had gastroenteritis on top of everything this week.
my partner did his call with probation on Monday and it went well, they are recommending suspended sentence but did warn that the judge doesn't have to listen to it. It can go either way.
His bag is packed and I can't even look at it. Got a very tearful goodbye tonight between him and our 10 month old and it's just breaking my heart.
Sorry I know this isn't helpful to post, just needed to get it out there.

Sarah ??

Member since
January 2021

177 posts

Posted Wed March 30, 2022 11:27amReport post

Hello,

Thinking of you today and tomorrow. Having been through sentencing in November 21 I can understand how you are feeling.

Hoping the outcome is a fair one.

X

SAL

Member since
December 2021

895 posts

Posted Wed March 30, 2022 12:16pmReport post

This must be so incredible hard. I'm 2 weeks away from goodbyes (we are expecting custodial, just a case of how long) and can't bring myself to think about it and we don't have the added emotion of a baby.

It's not much consolation, but I am trying to find comfort that at least we'll know what we are dealing with and can work on getting through the next stage. My heart goes out to you.

Hoping for a fair outcome for you tomorrow.

Daffodil

Member since
March 2022

965 posts

Posted Wed March 30, 2022 1:34pmReport post

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Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2550 posts

Posted Wed March 30, 2022 2:02pmReport post

Your so right SAL - it's a time you're facing the reality of this journey, the fear of the unknown is immense. For me it was a relief, we knew what we had to face and in a way a time to move forward.
hug's sent to all... x

Edited Wed March 30, 2022 2:20pm

Bluebell77

Member since
October 2020

89 posts

Posted Wed March 30, 2022 4:18pmReport post

Good luck for tomorrow.I gave birth 2 days after sentancing. It's not easy when you have little too.Sending you lots of love x

Newlady

Member since
April 2021

644 posts

Posted Wed March 30, 2022 4:23pmReport post

Hoping for the best possible outcome for you at this final hurdle will be thinking of you both tommarow x

Upset mum

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June 2020

2401 posts

Posted Wed March 30, 2022 5:01pmReport post

Pregnantandscared

I will be thinking of you both xx sending hugs to you all xx

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

997 posts

Posted Wed March 30, 2022 8:11pmReport post

Thinking of you all. Whatever the outcome, you are so incredibly strong and will be able to face it xxx

Summer

Member since
July 2019

394 posts

Posted Wed March 30, 2022 10:20pmReport post

Thinking of you lovely and little one, hoping for the best possiable outcome for you and your family xx

Jayjay

Member since
December 2021

695 posts

Posted Wed March 30, 2022 10:35pmReport post

Thinking of you. Keep your head up high, prepare for the worst, hope for the best. Wishing you luck, let us know how you get on x

Pregnantandscared

Member since
April 2021

140 posts

Posted Wed March 30, 2022 10:50pmReport post

We've just heard it's likely to be adjourned. So we were due to have plea and sentencing all in one but instead it will be plea tomorrow and then back for sentencing at a later date.



Means more time together as a family but also just want it to be over!x

Pregnantandscared

Member since
April 2021

140 posts

Posted Wed March 30, 2022 11:37pmReport post

Hi Lee, PSR was done on Monday so had been done prior. They have advised suspended sentence and management in the community, and have him as low risk.
I appreciate it's not always the same as others journeys but this is what our legal team advised, as his plea was never needed to be heard at magistrates - it was all pushed up.
Maybe it varies from area to area but it's quite common here for it to be put into one stage.

Pregnantandscared

Member since
April 2021

140 posts

Posted Thu March 31, 2022 12:03amReport post

All mitigating factors compiled pre court and have been submitted, it was the PSR we were waiting on and then it happened on Monday. We thought it might push things back but were told no it was all fine. Then lo and behold the night before and looking like an adjournment.



We have:

- 5 x character references

- 1 x letter/report from StopSO therapist that he's attended weekly for nearly a year now

- 1 x letter/report from Safer Lives after he completed a course which he started the week of the arrest

- medical records as that forms part of the background of his offending.etc

- 1 x letter of accountability from my partner

- social worker has also contributed to PSR to show we've engaged at every stage.etc

We are NW based, but like I said I guess it's just different for every area and I suppose none of us on here are experts. Everyone's just finding their way through I guess!

LostandConfused

Member since
July 2021

35 posts

Posted Thu March 31, 2022 12:10amReport post

Sentencing was today but got cancelled last minute yesterday. Now set for mid May, so the stress goes on a bit longer.

Not for me, I've moved on, I thought we'd go through the end of the journey like the rest of it but he clearly didn't want me to see the evidence. Been lying to me. Not that we had much of a relationship after the knock, I've felt numb inside and like I've been going through the motions. Living in a dream and a lie. Time to move on. You can only help someone who wants it.

All the waiting and messing around with dates is so tough, I hope your journey comes to an end soon and you get the result you want

Pregnantandscared

Member since
April 2021

140 posts

Posted Thu March 31, 2022 12:25pmReport post

Sentencing adjourned for 29th April. So more time at least...but more waiting too.

SAL

Member since
December 2021

895 posts

Posted Thu March 31, 2022 1:29pmReport post

Glad you have another date, hope you can manage to enjoy the next few weeks and Easter all together.

It sounds like you/partner have done lots to help his case.

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Thu March 31, 2022 4:34pmReport post

Just enjoy your time together hun.

Xx