How Do I Get My Daughter Back?!
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Four and a half months on I'm teetering on the line between being forced to choose between my husband and my children. But it's not that simple, is it? I have four children - ages 6, 3, 2, and 5 months. My eldest child is from a past relationship, her father was made aware of my husbands arrest and on the day it happened (arrested for IIOC). He and his partner have been supportive for the last few months, until now. They will not give my daughter back. I broke their trust by allowing my husband to see her. Some of the blame for this is on me yes. Why did I allow this? My husband's bail conditions were all lifted, he was told by the lead investigator on the case that he was allowed to return home. In my naivety I assumed that social services had been informed of this, we were told to wait for them to contact us, they didn't make contact for almost two weeks so we assumed it was fine for him to be home and carry on as normally as we could. I assumed that the judge who made the ruling had done so on with sufficient evidence to suggest that my husband is not a danger to the children. My husband spoke to the investigator twice on the phone to clarify and ask for it in writing via email. So we had almost two weeks of blissful normality, it was amazing and the kids loved having their daddy home. But then I got a call from social services letting me know that we had broken the safety plan and my husband had to leave the home. Apparently, there will be an investigation into why we broke the safety plan. I'm broken again, and the kids are confused. My ex believes I'm 'just as bad' as my husband and 'need locking up with him'. Yes, I've been naive but I don't know how the system works, I made a lot of assumptions without checking. I trusted the police! Isn't that what you're supposed to do?
So now I'm inadvertently being told to cut my husband out of our lives, or my daughter doesn't get to return home. I'm sick. I can't cut the father of my other kids out of our lives! What do I do? Pretend to separate? Everyone thinks it's a simple decision but it's not! Help!
So now I'm inadvertently being told to cut my husband out of our lives, or my daughter doesn't get to return home. I'm sick. I can't cut the father of my other kids out of our lives! What do I do? Pretend to separate? Everyone thinks it's a simple decision but it's not! Help!
I would have thought even if SS allowed it you still can't assume the ex would allow it, so this doesn't really change the matter the main concern is they were not asked permission - even if SS allowed it they still have a right to say they don't want her to be around him, that would be their opinion whether right or wrong and then from that you would need to work out a compromise
Pretending to split? AHh nooo that's going to make it way worse they would find out eventually. Best to sit down with them, have an honest and open chat and see what compromise you could work out?
Pretending to split? AHh nooo that's going to make it way worse they would find out eventually. Best to sit down with them, have an honest and open chat and see what compromise you could work out?
Evening I have not been on for a while but just decided to come on tonight Lee is a great strength along with a lot of people on here,, I have been to hell and back with my social worker we are on children protection plans,, I been taken to plo we are on a safety plan to. So I told ss that from the being I wanted to pick h up from prison they put so much pressure on me I cracked and I said OK I back down i will not do it,, the day his release came round I found myself outside the prison waiting I then told him to lair about me ever being their. I held my hands and told them yes I did this is why I don't believe I am been listened to so I then through my case over to the family courts to deal with. Anyway I have been threat he'd the remove of my children,, I am mental unfit I told them take me all the way. I had my plo yesterday and ss was not even in the country so her manger had to stand in well started it was going to be a short meeting
My solicitor turned and don't think so many unanswered questions,, cutting a long short their ss solicitor told her to stop talking to me because ss have to many failures in my case and it got to be investigated I said bring it on.
My advice stop breath,,
Be truthfully,,
Collect all your information,,
Get legal advice,,
Take control back,,
Try and not let fear take over,,
My solicitor turned and don't think so many unanswered questions,, cutting a long short their ss solicitor told her to stop talking to me because ss have to many failures in my case and it got to be investigated I said bring it on.
My advice stop breath,,
Be truthfully,,
Collect all your information,,
Get legal advice,,
Take control back,,
Try and not let fear take over,,