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Hi not been on in a while OH has sentencing mid May his social says the courts have asked weather I'd allow him to be tagged at our address
As we are separated but still living in same house its Al getting to much fir me now I'm in Scotland
I think he will be tagged rather than custodial as prison here are bursting at the seams
Every day is a struggle
I'm in the process of looking fir somewhere to stay its in the hands of the council now
I have never felt so alone I have no one
As we are separated but still living in same house its Al getting to much fir me now I'm in Scotland
I think he will be tagged rather than custodial as prison here are bursting at the seams
Every day is a struggle
I'm in the process of looking fir somewhere to stay its in the hands of the council now
I have never felt so alone I have no one
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Thankyou daffodil
Every day is a struggle
I have no family it will just be me ..
I'm not sure I can go through this again 2nd time around it doesn't get any easier
Every day is a struggle
I have no family it will just be me ..
I'm not sure I can go through this again 2nd time around it doesn't get any easier
Hi,
I hope ur OK susie xx
I hope ur OK susie xx
Dawn
I'm OK sentencing next Mon..
Hope you are well too xx
I'm OK sentencing next Mon..
Hope you are well too xx
Well Monday is looming
Scared for him ..
I know we aren't together but we still share a house
I feel so much guilt I wish he could've just spoken to me
It's a year today he went into hospital fir major brain surgery it was 50 /50 he'd make it just getting over all that and he's home resting and recovering when we gey the knock a week to the day he was operated ..
It's been nearly a year since the knock been in limbo and a blurr ever since second time around
I can't do it again
My mental health won't allow it .
He's sentence on Mon 16th May .
I can't eat or sleep .
I work fir myself It's a demanding physical job .
Bit it's the only thing that's a constant in my life .
Sorry wrote a book x
Scared for him ..
I know we aren't together but we still share a house
I feel so much guilt I wish he could've just spoken to me
It's a year today he went into hospital fir major brain surgery it was 50 /50 he'd make it just getting over all that and he's home resting and recovering when we gey the knock a week to the day he was operated ..
It's been nearly a year since the knock been in limbo and a blurr ever since second time around
I can't do it again
My mental health won't allow it .
He's sentence on Mon 16th May .
I can't eat or sleep .
I work fir myself It's a demanding physical job .
Bit it's the only thing that's a constant in my life .
Sorry wrote a book x
Just wanted to let you know I read your post Suzie and I'm thinking of you. I can't imagine the pain of having had to go through all this twice - and with his surgery etc on top.
If you think back to how many times in the past you thought 'i can't do this' but actually you could and you did. This is another huge step and challenge. You will get through. You can do this xx focus on things you can do, however small, and try to put the things you can't do anything about to one side for now xx
If you think back to how many times in the past you thought 'i can't do this' but actually you could and you did. This is another huge step and challenge. You will get through. You can do this xx focus on things you can do, however small, and try to put the things you can't do anything about to one side for now xx
Susie - I'm holding your hand.
Each minute as it comes. Deep breaths.
Sending support and love to you. X
Each minute as it comes. Deep breaths.
Sending support and love to you. X
Susie65
Sending hugs and strength to you xx
I hope Monday goes as well as it can, will be thinking of you both xx
Sending hugs and strength to you xx
I hope Monday goes as well as it can, will be thinking of you both xx
Hi susie,
Thinking of u love, u r not alone I am here for u, I'm always thinking about how u r doing xx reach out if u need to love xx
Thinking of u love, u r not alone I am here for u, I'm always thinking about how u r doing xx reach out if u need to love xx
Susie
What resilience you must have had through so much. As Cloud says consider times when you felt you cannot do it -yet you've got through. My thoughts are with you over the coming days and on Monday. Much love to you. Xx
What resilience you must have had through so much. As Cloud says consider times when you felt you cannot do it -yet you've got through. My thoughts are with you over the coming days and on Monday. Much love to you. Xx
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THANKYOU ALL X
I WILL NEED ALL THE HELP AND LOVE I CAN GET ITS JUST ME NOW I HAVE NO ONE
THANKYOU ALL AGAIN IT MEANS ALOT X
I WILL NEED ALL THE HELP AND LOVE I CAN GET ITS JUST ME NOW I HAVE NO ONE
THANKYOU ALL AGAIN IT MEANS ALOT X
Susie65
You are definitely not alone we are here to lean on for all the support you need xx hugs sent xx
You are definitely not alone we are here to lean on for all the support you need xx hugs sent xx
Sending so much love - you are not alone, you are not alone so help me God please, you are loved here and you are not alone susie x
Susie
Thinking of you this eve ahead of tomorrow.
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Thinking of you this eve ahead of tomorrow.
xx
Thinking of you and sending strength and hugs xx
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Good luck today xx
Thinking of you today sending love and support xxx
Sending positive vibes your way today. Everything is crossed for a positive outcome
Xx
Xx
Sending strength and love to you xxx
Susie65
Been thinking of you both today and hope you are ok xx
Been thinking of you both today and hope you are ok xx
Well not good news if you can any of this good
He received 30 months (this is 2nd time around last time he received 12 months .)
So I'm in shock to say the least I didn't go to.the court but I drove him in
We are Scotland..
It didn't make the papers today .. but someone told me it could at a later date ? It's a long time I can't remember from the last time.?
I'm gutted even though I know it was over with us has been since the knock year ago .
I.dong know it just makes it all reall now..
I'm just in a mess
Gutted angry hurt guilt repeat .
Thanks fir all you kind words
Susie
I have no family none and now I've lost his so it's just me ..
So so.so alone
He received 30 months (this is 2nd time around last time he received 12 months .)
So I'm in shock to say the least I didn't go to.the court but I drove him in
We are Scotland..
It didn't make the papers today .. but someone told me it could at a later date ? It's a long time I can't remember from the last time.?
I'm gutted even though I know it was over with us has been since the knock year ago .
I.dong know it just makes it all reall now..
I'm just in a mess
Gutted angry hurt guilt repeat .
Thanks fir all you kind words
Susie
I have no family none and now I've lost his so it's just me ..
So so.so alone
I don't know what the categories are of what he's done best I don't know I'm sooo angry hurt guilty feeling so sorry fir myself ..
Susie
Susie
Feeling sorry for yourself seems like a totally reasonable response to such a traumatic time. Feel however you need to.
I hope you are able to be kind to yourself and when you are ready that you can work out a way to move forwards xx
I read something somewhere about literally hugging yourself if there is no one to hug you. Treat yourself as you would a friend in the same situation. Tell yourself the things you would want to say.
The darkest times do pass xx
I hope you are able to be kind to yourself and when you are ready that you can work out a way to move forwards xx
I read something somewhere about literally hugging yourself if there is no one to hug you. Treat yourself as you would a friend in the same situation. Tell yourself the things you would want to say.
The darkest times do pass xx
Hi Susie65
I am so sorry to read your post I have been thinking of you
We are here for you so please please reach out dont dwell on your own
The feelings you have are what we all feel and the pain is unbearable but you are not alone
Please be kind to yourself and just wanted to send a huge hug to you xx
I am so sorry to read your post I have been thinking of you
We are here for you so please please reach out dont dwell on your own
The feelings you have are what we all feel and the pain is unbearable but you are not alone
Please be kind to yourself and just wanted to send a huge hug to you xx
Hi Suzie,
I'm so sorry to read that you are going through all of this without any support but please know you are not alone. You will always find care and kindness here.
Try and take things hour by hour if you need to, sending you a massive hug. You will get through this. X
I'm so sorry to read that you are going through all of this without any support but please know you are not alone. You will always find care and kindness here.
Try and take things hour by hour if you need to, sending you a massive hug. You will get through this. X
Lots of love to you susie and a great big hug x x
Hi susie,
I am so sorry love, here if u want to chat love xx I can't believe he got that long x
I am so sorry love, here if u want to chat love xx I can't believe he got that long x
Susie65, so sorry this is happening to you.
I echo everyones comments, you are not alone, we are here and so are the 'stopitnow' team, call them if you are struggling.
Thinking of you x
I echo everyones comments, you are not alone, we are here and so are the 'stopitnow' team, call them if you are struggling.
Thinking of you x
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Susie all I can do is send good thoughts and strength to get through this.
Well it hit the papers today ...so now I know exactly what he's done and when he started again .. longer and more horrific than I could imagine .
He wouldn't tell me the police wouldn't tell me
The press have made up a load of s#£#
They put his name street name and area .. so I'm just waiting fir the repercussions .
I'm so alone im hurt angry guilt alone no matter what People say ididnt know anything till.the knock...
We live in a small village
I am so angry ...
He is totally messed up .
I have so much to deal with
I came home last night his work boots were in the hall I could smell his cologne it makes me sick ...
I'm feeling so so alone
He wouldn't tell me the police wouldn't tell me
The press have made up a load of s#£#
They put his name street name and area .. so I'm just waiting fir the repercussions .
I'm so alone im hurt angry guilt alone no matter what People say ididnt know anything till.the knock...
We live in a small village
I am so angry ...
He is totally messed up .
I have so much to deal with
I came home last night his work boots were in the hall I could smell his cologne it makes me sick ...
I'm feeling so so alone
Hi Susie,
I am so sorry u r going through this again and alone, I hope u will be OK x
I am so sorry u r going through this again and alone, I hope u will be OK x
Susie65
So sorry to hear this. I know exactly what you are going through, ours hit the media yesterday.
I took the advice of the lovely ladies on here. I have chosen to carry on as normal, the best I can. Stay off social media and see how things go. I will deal with any repercussions if it happens. Its been difficult not to let my mind wander but I kept telling myself yesterdays paper is now in the bin and each day any online article (I have no idea if its online I presume it is) will be further down the search engine.
You will get through this. Put his boots away and his clothes if it helps do whatever you need, put yourself first x x
So sorry to hear this. I know exactly what you are going through, ours hit the media yesterday.
I took the advice of the lovely ladies on here. I have chosen to carry on as normal, the best I can. Stay off social media and see how things go. I will deal with any repercussions if it happens. Its been difficult not to let my mind wander but I kept telling myself yesterdays paper is now in the bin and each day any online article (I have no idea if its online I presume it is) will be further down the search engine.
You will get through this. Put his boots away and his clothes if it helps do whatever you need, put yourself first x x
Thanks to you all sad sister I'm so sorry x
I've stripped his bed packed up alot of his stuff
Tonight I can't sleep 3 night now I can't eat ..
I'm sorry
I've stripped his bed packed up alot of his stuff
Tonight I can't sleep 3 night now I can't eat ..
I'm sorry
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Morning Suzie,
I hope you managed to get some sleep. Do whatever you need to today to distract yourself. Go for a long walk, if you can, be at one with nature (I really find this relaxing, calming). Read a book, clean you house or sit and watch one of your favourite films. You deserve it.
Have a good day x we are here if you need us x
Sadsister
I hope you managed to get some sleep. Do whatever you need to today to distract yourself. Go for a long walk, if you can, be at one with nature (I really find this relaxing, calming). Read a book, clean you house or sit and watch one of your favourite films. You deserve it.
Have a good day x we are here if you need us x
Sadsister
Susie, I am so so sorry for what you are going through. I remember so well all my husbands things being around and 'normal' when he left, never to come back. His smell on his pillow. I left it all for a while and then moved it all to one room, until I was able to pack it all up. Heartbreaking. I too lived alone, but I leant on friends very heavily, and they supported me. Try and find someone you trust, they will want to help.
In the meantime, imagine us all here from this forum, remember all our words, and when you try to eat or sleep, imagine us there with you, encouraging you. You are important, you are needed, love yourself and let others love you. Take good care of yourself. Xxx
In the meantime, imagine us all here from this forum, remember all our words, and when you try to eat or sleep, imagine us there with you, encouraging you. You are important, you are needed, love yourself and let others love you. Take good care of yourself. Xxx
Susie, it's safe to say that every single one of us on here is behind you - feeling your pain, understanding what you're going through and sending you virtual hugs. You're really not alone xx
Hi Susie65
Just wanted to check in on you x
We are all here behind you to give you some strength and support xx
Just wanted to check in on you x
We are all here behind you to give you some strength and support xx
Echoing the sentiments here.... you are not alone, we are here Susie X
We are going through this in Scotland aswel. You are not alone. Sending you a big hug and strength xx
Hi Susie65
Hope you are ok? Please let us know xx
Hope you are ok? Please let us know xx
Hi all I'm OK went back to work yesterday I really didn't feel like it but as he has left me without anything I really need to work..
All my clients know they've known from the start of this nightmare all 19 of them and their families have been very supportive which makes me cry too ????
They all know what's happened now and again they have all been supportive as have my neighbours apart from one !
So far there's been no repercussions fingers crossed it stays that way .
It's coming home to an empty house I struggle with .. I have my floof he's a grey cat called Graydy ..he's noticed somthing is up he's been really clingy which isn't him atal
I gutted the house on Wed luckily the weather was nice (Scotland, )
Did loads of washing cleaned
Thankyou all for you kind words and advice all of it good ..
I know I keep saying it but there is only ME now
I'm feeling very very sorry fir myself
Just crying crying crying
It's been a long year
Thankyou ALL AGAIN X
LOVE YOU ALL
All my clients know they've known from the start of this nightmare all 19 of them and their families have been very supportive which makes me cry too ????
They all know what's happened now and again they have all been supportive as have my neighbours apart from one !
So far there's been no repercussions fingers crossed it stays that way .
It's coming home to an empty house I struggle with .. I have my floof he's a grey cat called Graydy ..he's noticed somthing is up he's been really clingy which isn't him atal
I gutted the house on Wed luckily the weather was nice (Scotland, )
Did loads of washing cleaned
Thankyou all for you kind words and advice all of it good ..
I know I keep saying it but there is only ME now
I'm feeling very very sorry fir myself
Just crying crying crying
It's been a long year
Thankyou ALL AGAIN X
LOVE YOU ALL
Evening Susie65
So glad to hear from you was getting worried x
You deserve the love and support from your clients so dont be hard on yourself you have done nothing wrong
It will be so difficult for a while until you settle in to a new routine x
Take a day at a time but be kind to yourself
Even though you only know us on here we are all here to offer whatever support you need xx
So glad to hear from you was getting worried x
You deserve the love and support from your clients so dont be hard on yourself you have done nothing wrong
It will be so difficult for a while until you settle in to a new routine x
Take a day at a time but be kind to yourself
Even though you only know us on here we are all here to offer whatever support you need xx
Upset mum
Thankyou xx
Thankyou xx
All the very best susie65 we are just at the start only 3 weeks from the knock such a long way to go now .. Good luck I hope the very best for you
Rick
My heart goes out to you love from Scotland xx
My heart goes out to you love from Scotland xx
Susie1765
Evening Susie
Just checking in on you to make sure you are doing ok xx
Evening Susie
Just checking in on you to make sure you are doing ok xx
Hi I'm not OK
He's left me in such a mess ????
He's left me in such a mess ????
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Just wanted to reach out and send you a big hug Susie.
You're not alone. Can't imagine what you're going through right now but we're all here for you.
You're not alone. Can't imagine what you're going through right now but we're all here for you.
Morning Susie65
So sorry to hear things are no better xx
Have you reached out to anyone near to you for some support?
I wish I could do something to help you but as you know this forum is open to everyone so it is not the place to put contact names etc
Just wanted to send you a virtual hug and please keep reaching out on here xx
So sorry to hear things are no better xx
Have you reached out to anyone near to you for some support?
I wish I could do something to help you but as you know this forum is open to everyone so it is not the place to put contact names etc
Just wanted to send you a virtual hug and please keep reaching out on here xx
Sending you love Susie x x x
Hi Susie65. Hope you are doing good and adjusting to this new normal.
We are also in Scotland and I read your post saying your husband had just been sentenced. Can I ask how long you were waiting for sentencing since the arrest?
We got the knock at Christmas so we're 6 months waiting now and have heard nothing yet.
We are also in Scotland and I read your post saying your husband had just been sentenced. Can I ask how long you were waiting for sentencing since the arrest?
We got the knock at Christmas so we're 6 months waiting now and have heard nothing yet.