Fragments
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I watched a programme last night, it was about a serial killer and featured his dad. A comment from a psychiatrist stuck in my mind.
She said when helping family members cope with a criminal act in their family - they encourage them to break that person into fragments. They should suffer no guilt or shame in continuing to love the fragrants of the person they had always known, loved and trusted.
They should also feel no guilt for the fragment of that persons crime, that is for that person and only that person to bear.
Just found this an interesting way of putting it.......
She said when helping family members cope with a criminal act in their family - they encourage them to break that person into fragments. They should suffer no guilt or shame in continuing to love the fragrants of the person they had always known, loved and trusted.
They should also feel no guilt for the fragment of that persons crime, that is for that person and only that person to bear.
Just found this an interesting way of putting it.......
Hi Smile
thanks for sharing that . It actually made me sad and cry. I entirely agree and it reminds me of what my son said to me "I have to carry this with me for always now" I have no guilt and I love him dearly, I feel only sadness that he didn't ask for help when he was at uni when this happened. But how many teenagers do?
we just support and guide them to bear this offence safely, learning from their behaviour to make changes to avoid this happening again.
great post smile x thanks for sharing
maij x
thanks for sharing that . It actually made me sad and cry. I entirely agree and it reminds me of what my son said to me "I have to carry this with me for always now" I have no guilt and I love him dearly, I feel only sadness that he didn't ask for help when he was at uni when this happened. But how many teenagers do?
we just support and guide them to bear this offence safely, learning from their behaviour to make changes to avoid this happening again.
great post smile x thanks for sharing
maij x
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Hi Daffodil
yes , we all make mistakes big and small. As long as we reflect on them, we learn from them change and grow as individuals.
and yes i agree we are more than just our mistakes and they should not define us.
thank you smile xx
maij x
xxx
yes , we all make mistakes big and small. As long as we reflect on them, we learn from them change and grow as individuals.
and yes i agree we are more than just our mistakes and they should not define us.
thank you smile xx
maij x
xxx
Hi Smile,
Thank you for sharing I wish my sons best friends could look at it this way but they ha e cut him off I respect there decision as it is a lot to understand but this does not define my son he like many is a good person but got lost in all of this
I hope you and your son are doing ok xx
I was told his sentancing date is later this week I just hope it dosent get cancelled again my nerves and anxiety is at a high level again xx
Thank you for sharing I wish my sons best friends could look at it this way but they ha e cut him off I respect there decision as it is a lot to understand but this does not define my son he like many is a good person but got lost in all of this
I hope you and your son are doing ok xx
I was told his sentancing date is later this week I just hope it dosent get cancelled again my nerves and anxiety is at a high level again xx
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Thank you so much Smile xx
I was hoping they would have more time out of there room as my son spends so much time in patrol status / lockdown
I am dreading it but we need to know what sentance he will serve x
It's a shame about his friends but as you say we need to move forward and not let the what ifs hopdnus back xx
I will of course let you know the outcome xx
I was hoping they would have more time out of there room as my son spends so much time in patrol status / lockdown
I am dreading it but we need to know what sentance he will serve x
It's a shame about his friends but as you say we need to move forward and not let the what ifs hopdnus back xx
I will of course let you know the outcome xx
Take care x