Social services - when do they get in contact?
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Hi,
When my sons dad was first arrested SS got involved, did assessment said supervised contact and closed case.
After he was sentenced (extreme images animals, no children) - I stopped contact to safeguard against social involvement (as I had an idea they'd contact me again). His probation officer said as he has children under 18 they would need to put a referral in.
He was sentenced over 6 weeks ago, and probation mentioned their referral 3 weeks ago and I haven't heard anything as of yet.
How long do these things usually take? As I feel on edge every day waiting for the call. Especially after reading through some people's experiences!
Also to add - his SHPO is only regarding computers and we don't live together he has his own place.
Thank you.
When my sons dad was first arrested SS got involved, did assessment said supervised contact and closed case.
After he was sentenced (extreme images animals, no children) - I stopped contact to safeguard against social involvement (as I had an idea they'd contact me again). His probation officer said as he has children under 18 they would need to put a referral in.
He was sentenced over 6 weeks ago, and probation mentioned their referral 3 weeks ago and I haven't heard anything as of yet.
How long do these things usually take? As I feel on edge every day waiting for the call. Especially after reading through some people's experiences!
Also to add - his SHPO is only regarding computers and we don't live together he has his own place.
Thank you.
Hiya Lee.
I was thinking about it but then equally I'm hoping they won't bother being involved as my sons dad has told probation he's no contact at present.
I feel if I call them, i could be opening a can of worms into my life.
I don't know what's best to do.
:(
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I was thinking about it but then equally I'm hoping they won't bother being involved as my sons dad has told probation he's no contact at present.
I feel if I call them, i could be opening a can of worms into my life.
I don't know what's best to do.
:(
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Maybe not direct contact. I'm not sure.
I don't want them anywhere near me. I was reading through some other people's situations and a lot of them are at PLO stage for one reason or another. I'd like to avoid SS as much as possible!
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I don't want them anywhere near me. I was reading through some other people's situations and a lot of them are at PLO stage for one reason or another. I'd like to avoid SS as much as possible!
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That's very true.
I just honestly don't want the agg, not that anyone else does either, but I'd do anything to not have the involvement. And waiting for them to call is just so draining mentally. Even the thought of having them involved is making me anxious. :/
I'm worried about losing my children. X
I just honestly don't want the agg, not that anyone else does either, but I'd do anything to not have the involvement. And waiting for them to call is just so draining mentally. Even the thought of having them involved is making me anxious. :/
I'm worried about losing my children. X
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Hiya both,
Yes he has a SHPO, but it is all regarding computers and the Internet. I.e - must not delete Internet history/must let police know within 3 days if he buys a device with Internet capability.
Yes on SOR 5 years.
We don't live together, both have separate homes.
He was also sentenced for ABH (separate offence) so between a violent crime and a sex one I feel like I've got no chance with SS. They don't seem to care about the circumstances of situations (the extreme images had been on an old family pc since 2014 and no more since). And the ABH was after a lot of provoking.
Unfortunately I know they won't care about things like that. It's affecting me a lot, but I can't show that either. I'm just on edge every day.
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Yes he has a SHPO, but it is all regarding computers and the Internet. I.e - must not delete Internet history/must let police know within 3 days if he buys a device with Internet capability.
Yes on SOR 5 years.
We don't live together, both have separate homes.
He was also sentenced for ABH (separate offence) so between a violent crime and a sex one I feel like I've got no chance with SS. They don't seem to care about the circumstances of situations (the extreme images had been on an old family pc since 2014 and no more since). And the ABH was after a lot of provoking.
Unfortunately I know they won't care about things like that. It's affecting me a lot, but I can't show that either. I'm just on edge every day.
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My son is only 2.5 so... But yes he loves his dad.
I don't even know where to start with a safety plan. I've read so many threads on here but can't seem to work it out, it's overwhelming.
Any clear instructions about what to put in a safety plan would be very appreciated. X
I don't even know where to start with a safety plan. I've read so many threads on here but can't seem to work it out, it's overwhelming.
Any clear instructions about what to put in a safety plan would be very appreciated. X
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Thank you.
I've had a look at both, but it seems these are things I've been doing for ages anyway - supervised contact. No personal care. Internet security etc.
Is there anything I'm missing? I'm hyper fixating on this most days now. It's making everyday life hard to cope with just waiting for this call.
I've had a look at both, but it seems these are things I've been doing for ages anyway - supervised contact. No personal care. Internet security etc.
Is there anything I'm missing? I'm hyper fixating on this most days now. It's making everyday life hard to cope with just waiting for this call.
Bump. X