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Hello,
I have read many of your posts on here and finally plucking up the courage and posting myself.
I am really struggling at the moment. My partner got arrested two weeks ago. Since he has been released on bail pending further investigation, he won't talk to me about what he has done and just keeps apologising and saying he is getting help. I'm finding it hard he is talking to people who are close to me but just won't talk to me! Why?? We have been together for 7 years.
I have so many questions so many throughts blaming myself so much. He has been open and admitted he has done wrong and says it's his mental health and going through assessments for this. He has told people he is not attracted to what he saw, it didn't turn him on.
Does this class him as a P word still?
Is he a P word?
Is there any coming back from this?
Do all men that do this type of thing get the official label of a P word?
what is the outcome of this? Do all men get put on the register no matter what?
Do they all get a sentence?
I am struggling so much to get my head around this and why he done it and what does this make him! I have confided in my close people around me but they have so much anger (which is understandable) and flying the P word everytime I talk about it.
I have read many of your posts on here and finally plucking up the courage and posting myself.
I am really struggling at the moment. My partner got arrested two weeks ago. Since he has been released on bail pending further investigation, he won't talk to me about what he has done and just keeps apologising and saying he is getting help. I'm finding it hard he is talking to people who are close to me but just won't talk to me! Why?? We have been together for 7 years.
I have so many questions so many throughts blaming myself so much. He has been open and admitted he has done wrong and says it's his mental health and going through assessments for this. He has told people he is not attracted to what he saw, it didn't turn him on.
Does this class him as a P word still?
Is he a P word?
Is there any coming back from this?
Do all men that do this type of thing get the official label of a P word?
what is the outcome of this? Do all men get put on the register no matter what?
Do they all get a sentence?
I am struggling so much to get my head around this and why he done it and what does this make him! I have confided in my close people around me but they have so much anger (which is understandable) and flying the P word everytime I talk about it.
Hi
I am so sorry that you find yourself here.
The early days in this process are very difficult, especially if your partner is not able to talk to you or answer your questions.
I would recommend you contact the helpline, not only are they a good listening ear they will be able to help you with how you are feeling and trying to make sense of everything.
I am sure others on the forum will reply soon with helpful advice.
Please remember to look after yourself x
I am so sorry that you find yourself here.
The early days in this process are very difficult, especially if your partner is not able to talk to you or answer your questions.
I would recommend you contact the helpline, not only are they a good listening ear they will be able to help you with how you are feeling and trying to make sense of everything.
I am sure others on the forum will reply soon with helpful advice.
Please remember to look after yourself x
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The P title is like a big umbrella - it's such an unfair title! As this Forum proves each of us has an individual story to tell - all different. YET our loved ones are labelled and under the P umbrella.....
Also a word that the media love to use - it's appalling and whips up the hate.
Also a word that the media love to use - it's appalling and whips up the hate.
Thank you all for you comments. I have rang the helpline and they were so lovely and supportive. They have advised me to make contact with my partner and see if he will talk to me and explain what he has been doing as I am in the dark about it. This is the first step they have said for me to start recovery for myself.
My family and friends all want me to cut contact and move on but it is so hard when I love him and for me not knowing the full situation.
Thank you all again!
My family and friends all want me to cut contact and move on but it is so hard when I love him and for me not knowing the full situation.
Thank you all again!
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