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So sad

Member since
March 2020

11 posts

Posted Fri April 29, 2022 6:36amReport post

My son is in crown today for sentencing. Been advised to take a bag for the worst outcome.

Can anyone tell me is he taken away from the court immediately or can I get a chance to see him again before he's taken to prison?

He is not coping with this at all and I'm so worried about his mental health. He talks suicide far too much. Saying at least if he's Not hear I'll not have to live with what he's done. I can't tell him enough how worse it will be if he's neve coming back.

Daffodil

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March 2022

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Posted Fri April 29, 2022 6:43amReport post

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Newlady

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April 2021

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Posted Fri April 29, 2022 6:46amReport post

I'm. Not sure I haven't git to tgat stage yet but just wanted to say my partner still talks like this sometimes, they don't understand how we can still love them but we know they are good people who made a mistake and everyone makes mistakes, every single person so tell him he's been punished enough and to stop punishing himself and move forward, don't let this define him, especially if young. My heart goes out to you today xx

Sarah ??

Member since
January 2021

177 posts

Posted Fri April 29, 2022 6:49amReport post

Hello,

If he does receive a custodial he will be taken to the holding cells immediately and you won't see him.

Thinking of you all today and hoping for a fair outcome.

My ex is currently in prison. He is doing ok. Feels safe. Its obviously prison and not meant to be easy but better than he imagined!

Xxx

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2402 posts

Posted Fri April 29, 2022 6:51amReport post

So Sad,

Sending love, strength and hugs to you all today, I will be thinking of you xxx

WeeWitch

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June 2021

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Posted Fri April 29, 2022 7:01amReport post

Sending you all the love and strength in the world for today xxx

Smile through tears

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September 2021

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Posted Fri April 29, 2022 7:23amReport post

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So sad

Member since
March 2020

11 posts

Posted Fri April 29, 2022 7:36amReport post

Thankyou for your replies Lady's.

I had a feeling I wouldn't see him but was hanging on to a tiny bit of hope!

Terrified for the outcome of today and what's still to come.....

Emeraldrose

Member since
August 2021

20 posts

Posted Fri April 29, 2022 9:54amReport post

Thinking of you & sending love, hugs & strength. Xx

BaffledB

Member since
July 2021

876 posts

Posted Fri April 29, 2022 10:12amReport post

So sad,

I truly hope he's dealt with fairly and it's as easy on you both as it possibly can be. Sending lots of love and strength xx

Sparrow

Member since
April 2022

40 posts

Posted Fri April 29, 2022 2:39pmReport post

So Sad

thinking if you during today and send in your all the strength xx

ScaredLamb

Member since
May 2021

203 posts

Posted Fri April 29, 2022 9:20pmReport post

So sad.



I hope you got a good outcome today

xxx

Jayjay

Member since
December 2021

695 posts

Posted Fri April 29, 2022 10:18pmReport post

So sad, how are you and how did you get on? X

So sad

Member since
March 2020

11 posts

Posted Fri April 29, 2022 11:21pmReport post

Well my son can sleep in his own bed tonight.

My son had 5 charges against him of 'making' cat A, B and C. Moving pictures and extreme.

The prosecution tried to get him for distribution but the judge dismissed it as there was no evidence that he shared. Even though they argued that he 'might'.

At first he was looking at 18 month immediate custody. But as he pled guilty at his first arrest 2½ years ago and has taken steps to get help over this time he ended up with 3 years probation and community service. He is on notification and SHPO for 5 years.

He must complete some programs with probation.

Following advice on here I contacted the solicitor about character reference and thankfully the judge took my comments into consideration.

I really hope everyone else gets a happy outcome and we can all start to rebuild our lives again.

Alison20

Member since
March 2021

363 posts

Posted Fri April 29, 2022 11:25pmReport post

Hi So Sad

I am so pleased of the outcome for you and your son.

I wish you all the best for the future. x

Livuk1963

Member since
April 2022

30 posts

Posted Sat April 30, 2022 12:24amReport post

I am so happy for you and your son best wishes for the future xxxx

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2550 posts

Posted Sat April 30, 2022 6:07amReport post

So Sad

Glad you had a better outcome than you thought - I wish your family all the best as you put your lives back together...... x

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Daffodil

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March 2022

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Posted Sat April 30, 2022 8:08amReport post

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Upset mum

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June 2020

2402 posts

Posted Sun May 1, 2022 12:15pmReport post

So Sad

Ahh bless you sending hugs

He is home in his own surroundings so that in itself is a huge relief xx

I wish you all the very best as you all rebuild a new life

May the sunshine and happiness return to you all x wishing you love, strength take care xx

Sadmum53

Member since
September 2021

16 posts

Posted Sun May 1, 2022 8:51pmReport post

Baby steps for you both , glad he's home.

For you it's just the start , I'm the same . We are now 8 months post sentencing , he's lost his part time job but can finish his college course on line . I still worry every day if its getting too much for him, he doesn't go out and has self harmed before.
The sentencing was for us as well as him