Feeling like I don’t now what to do
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Hi guys first timer here
It's been nearly seven months since we had the nock and still my partner keeps saying he hasn't done anything. I don't now whether I believe him. I don't now what im supposed to be doing I am supporting him but just feel so lost.
It's been nearly seven months since we had the nock and still my partner keeps saying he hasn't done anything. I don't now whether I believe him. I don't now what im supposed to be doing I am supporting him but just feel so lost.
Hi,
What has he been accused of and what stage of the process are you at? I think it's harder when there is doubt as denial is quite common but false accusations do occur. If I was in your situation I would be inclined to tell him that if he isn't completely open with you that will be when your support ends but obviously it is your decision. Have you called the helpline or sought any help for yourself? Sending love xx
What has he been accused of and what stage of the process are you at? I think it's harder when there is doubt as denial is quite common but false accusations do occur. If I was in your situation I would be inclined to tell him that if he isn't completely open with you that will be when your support ends but obviously it is your decision. Have you called the helpline or sought any help for yourself? Sending love xx
Hey Fedup,
I'm sorry you're in this predicament, it's got to be the absolute worst limbo a relationship can be in. I personally believed what my partner told me but there was a little space in my heart and brain for the chance he wasn't being honest. I think the only time you can fully believe what is being said is when the evidence is released to the solicitor when the CPS post charges and you can look at it. Obviously you are at a stage where this may not even happen. Although your partner is saying he hasn't done anything wrong, is there a chance he may have done something illegal without being aware of the consequences? Xx
I'm sorry you're in this predicament, it's got to be the absolute worst limbo a relationship can be in. I personally believed what my partner told me but there was a little space in my heart and brain for the chance he wasn't being honest. I think the only time you can fully believe what is being said is when the evidence is released to the solicitor when the CPS post charges and you can look at it. Obviously you are at a stage where this may not even happen. Although your partner is saying he hasn't done anything wrong, is there a chance he may have done something illegal without being aware of the consequences? Xx
Hi both
thank you so much for replying he has been accused of speaking to a 13 year old girl sending pictures (which was a police decoy). We are still at the stage of them looking through the devises or if they have even looked yet I'm not sure we have been through the stage of social services that was the worst thing I have ever been through I love him so much and find it really hard to turn my back on him I think that's why I'm not pushing for more answers. I have spoken on the phone to a lovely lady from this group as ss told me I need to tell my children but I just didn't think it was right. I haven't got any help for myself I don't even now where to start. I think because of the accusations if he has done it he must of known what he was doing. But I keep thinking why would he lie it's going to come out in the end and there has to be a explanation as I don't think it's in his nature but I'm just driving myself crazy and can switch off.
thank you so much for you reply's it's so nice to just talk to someone that nows what I'm going through xx
thank you so much for replying he has been accused of speaking to a 13 year old girl sending pictures (which was a police decoy). We are still at the stage of them looking through the devises or if they have even looked yet I'm not sure we have been through the stage of social services that was the worst thing I have ever been through I love him so much and find it really hard to turn my back on him I think that's why I'm not pushing for more answers. I have spoken on the phone to a lovely lady from this group as ss told me I need to tell my children but I just didn't think it was right. I haven't got any help for myself I don't even now where to start. I think because of the accusations if he has done it he must of known what he was doing. But I keep thinking why would he lie it's going to come out in the end and there has to be a explanation as I don't think it's in his nature but I'm just driving myself crazy and can switch off.
thank you so much for you reply's it's so nice to just talk to someone that nows what I'm going through xx