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Hi polly pocket,
I was a TA in primary, I'm sure when my husband was arrested the police had phoned my school, now I don't no if that's because we have kids, or wat. I ended up leaving my job as my husband was ill and they basically wanted me to choose between them, as it was only in the investigation stage and he was under going a pace maker I resigned because I couldn't turn my back on him. It might be best to speak to maybe ur union I'd ur in one they may be able to advise, they didn't want the schools reputation brought into question if I still worked there and still married. I wish u luck
I was a TA in primary, I'm sure when my husband was arrested the police had phoned my school, now I don't no if that's because we have kids, or wat. I ended up leaving my job as my husband was ill and they basically wanted me to choose between them, as it was only in the investigation stage and he was under going a pace maker I resigned because I couldn't turn my back on him. It might be best to speak to maybe ur union I'd ur in one they may be able to advise, they didn't want the schools reputation brought into question if I still worked there and still married. I wish u luck
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Mum of 3, you are still with your husband? And your school are okay with this?
My experience was very different I'm afraid. Had to make some big changes in order to keep my job.
My experience was very different I'm afraid. Had to make some big changes in order to keep my job.
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Hi Pollypocket,
I was in a similar dilemma even though I don't work in education, I work in the NHS and have daily contact with both adults and children. My manager found out on the day of the knock as she rang me for another reason and the police were here at the time, I broke down on the phone, didn't tell her straight away but promised to ring later and explain. I can only say I have had nothing but tremendous support from work, I was convinced I would be suspended and not allowed to continue my role, I took a considerable amount of time off work and on my return was welcomed back with "you have done nothing wrong and we will support you in every way we can", everyone in the Trust I work at know me and my husband and his case was plastered all over the press. Despite this I am now back and carrying on as before, people know, my manager/HR know and nobody up to now has said anything untoward. In one sense I am glad I was open with work at the beginning, it made it easier and they were so respectful of my need for confidentiality prior to the vile press publication. To avoid anxiety I would imagine it is better to keep someone in authority and trustworthy of maintaining your need for privacy in the loop at the beginning. Obviously it is a very difficult decision to make and every circumstance is different but most of us in the NHS have a saying the NHS is the most uncaring profession to its own members but I have to doubt that opinion now as I couldn't have asked for better support. I hope you make the right decision for you. Xxx
I was in a similar dilemma even though I don't work in education, I work in the NHS and have daily contact with both adults and children. My manager found out on the day of the knock as she rang me for another reason and the police were here at the time, I broke down on the phone, didn't tell her straight away but promised to ring later and explain. I can only say I have had nothing but tremendous support from work, I was convinced I would be suspended and not allowed to continue my role, I took a considerable amount of time off work and on my return was welcomed back with "you have done nothing wrong and we will support you in every way we can", everyone in the Trust I work at know me and my husband and his case was plastered all over the press. Despite this I am now back and carrying on as before, people know, my manager/HR know and nobody up to now has said anything untoward. In one sense I am glad I was open with work at the beginning, it made it easier and they were so respectful of my need for confidentiality prior to the vile press publication. To avoid anxiety I would imagine it is better to keep someone in authority and trustworthy of maintaining your need for privacy in the loop at the beginning. Obviously it is a very difficult decision to make and every circumstance is different but most of us in the NHS have a saying the NHS is the most uncaring profession to its own members but I have to doubt that opinion now as I couldn't have asked for better support. I hope you make the right decision for you. Xxx
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Lee 1969 - the only reason for boldness was because I had copied your user name whilst I logged in on my phone & hadn't adjusted the text settings. I apologise if you though it for any other reason.
Polly - I'm pleased to hear your work were understanding. It's one less thing for you to worry about. Enjoy your wine & bath.
Polly - I'm pleased to hear your work were understanding. It's one less thing for you to worry about. Enjoy your wine & bath.
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