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Bluebell77

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October 2020

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Posted Thu May 5, 2022 1:40pmReport post

Hi everyone.

All too often we come on here looking for support when we have reached our limit and unfortunately people only reach out when they are really struggling so we tend to read the threads where things aren't too positive.

How about a thread about positive stories? People that have come through the other side be it whether they have stayed with their partners or not.

Sometimes it's all too easy to focus on the negative so let's start a thread of positives and give some hope there is light at the end of the tunnel through this difficult journey ????

Christmas Chaos

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May 2022

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Posted Thu May 5, 2022 1:43pmReport post

Would love to hear some positive stories aswel. Only a few months after the knock and my husband is waiting for sentencing. Don't know what to expect.

Bluebell77

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October 2020

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Posted Thu May 5, 2022 1:47pmReport post

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Edited Tue May 17, 2022 12:29am

Bluebell77

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October 2020

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Posted Thu May 5, 2022 1:48pmReport post

Christmas chaos there are so many different factors at play and alot depends on the judge on the day. Every case is also different with varying mitigating, aggravating factors.

Sending lots of hugs your way x

Christmas Chaos

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May 2022

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Posted Thu May 5, 2022 1:54pmReport post

Bluebell that is so great to read. My husband isint allowed any contact with our small baby according to bail conditions. I understand why but it's so hard. Would love if eventually my husband could join the family again.

Bluebell77

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October 2020

89 posts

Posted Thu May 5, 2022 2:01pmReport post

That must be so hard for you ))))huge hug(((( alot depends on what is in the shpo at sentancing too. You can challenge this with social services, some people have been allowed supervised and even unsupervised after a certain period too. There is alot of work to do with SS for this though. One thing at a time. I imagine everything is so new, hectic and worrying for you at the minute. Just take each day as it comes. X

Bluebell77

Member since
October 2020

89 posts

Posted Thu May 5, 2022 2:04pmReport post

Have a search for this post in the search box by rainbowgirl80

***Advice for new members on surviving those early days ***

Katie28

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December 2021

183 posts

Posted Thu May 5, 2022 2:17pmReport post

The best thing that ever came out of this experience is we found out who are true friends and family are. There are people I never thought for one minute who surprised us and will remain firm and close friends forever, the support of 2 families coming together was overwhelming. It really is a test of family and friends but we know now who are the most important people to us now. So many decisions had to be made, lots of mistakes but we are the other side of sentencing now and moving on. We are still married and living together in our own home that we have worked hard for and learning to trust again (despite wobbles), we have a loving son and daughter-in-law and beautiful 2 year old granddaughter who have supported us both throughout this ordeal, we are gradually venturing out more and with the best therapist and help of our Gp life is looking much more positive. We know it is different but there is light despite the humiliation of the press coverage and gossips. Please stay positive, remain open and honest with each other and life can be maybe not perfect but good again. Xxx

Bluebell77

Member since
October 2020

89 posts

Posted Thu May 5, 2022 2:42pmReport post

Thank you for sharing. I'm so glad everything is OK for you and you have some support around you. Your friends and fanily sound wonderful xxxxxxx

Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Thu May 5, 2022 2:54pmReport post

Hiya Bluebell.

Wow 10 years on SHPO and SOR for 1 Cat C.

That's harsh .

Xx

Blackhound

Member since
October 2020

479 posts

Posted Thu May 5, 2022 6:29pmReport post

Chelsea it was one Cat C, a video and a conversation which is why the sentence might have been a little Harsh

Bluebell77

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October 2020

89 posts

Posted Thu May 5, 2022 7:04pmReport post

It was one category c video and the conversation with an 8 month suspended sentance. It was recommended a community order be served but you never know what the judge is going to be like when you get to court and unfortunately the judge was harsh

Polly Pocket

Member since
May 2022

440 posts

Posted Thu May 5, 2022 9:17pmReport post

This thread is so inspiring.

You guys are so strong. Youve had no choice.. but you are. X

Bluebell77

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October 2020

89 posts

Posted Sat May 7, 2022 8:55pmReport post

Lost 123 that is so inspiring <3 I too have met a lovely group of ladies through this forum. I have gone from the depths of despair to surviving and living through it. Whilst none of us wants to be in this position at all there is light at the end of tunnel. So lovely to hear your positive experience and i hope it gives some reassurance to others on this journey that you can come out of the other end and and be ok <3

Xxxxx

Edited Sat May 7, 2022 8:56pm