First visor visit.
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Hello ladies.
So things are moving along now.
So today door goes nearly jumped out of my skin thinking here we go again.
But it was the visor team just to have a chat and make sure who hubby and I was etc.
Took some notes. No children in house as we don't have any.
Just wanted to know what our plans where. Very discreet and seeing them next week for paperwork and nothing else.
Xx
So things are moving along now.
So today door goes nearly jumped out of my skin thinking here we go again.
But it was the visor team just to have a chat and make sure who hubby and I was etc.
Took some notes. No children in house as we don't have any.
Just wanted to know what our plans where. Very discreet and seeing them next week for paperwork and nothing else.
Xx
Hi Chelsea1
Glad it went as well as it could for you both and hope you are doing ok xx
Glad it went as well as it could for you both and hope you are doing ok xx
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Hiya Upset mum
it wasn't to bad a couple of lady police officers came in made sure he was ok and just his intentions and because we are in a new area.
They are coming back next week with paperwork etc.
Hope you are ok hun xx
it wasn't to bad a couple of lady police officers came in made sure he was ok and just his intentions and because we are in a new area.
They are coming back next week with paperwork etc.
Hope you are ok hun xx
Hiya Polly Pocket.
Trust me my heart skipped a beat when the door went and thought not again. But no very nice police officers.
yes I am doing my best with him. Like I said before he is a pain in the arse but my pain in the arse.
xx
Trust me my heart skipped a beat when the door went and thought not again. But no very nice police officers.
yes I am doing my best with him. Like I said before he is a pain in the arse but my pain in the arse.
xx
Hi Chelsea1
Glad it wasnt to bad for you both x
Hope your pain in the arse is doing ok :-)
I'm ok thank you just getting through each day slowly xx
Glad it wasnt to bad for you both x
Hope your pain in the arse is doing ok :-)
I'm ok thank you just getting through each day slowly xx
Hiya upset mum.
Yes my pain in the ass are doing ok thank you hun. He is ok. Just these appointments are coming along very quickly now.
Hope you are doing ok hun ?
Xx
Yes my pain in the ass are doing ok thank you hun. He is ok. Just these appointments are coming along very quickly now.
Hope you are doing ok hun ?
Xx
Morning Chelsea1
Today the sun is out so the washing machine is on the go, fresh dried washing cant beat that fresh smell, simple things eh lol x
I am doing ok thank you for asking
Hope you have a good day both of you xx
Today the sun is out so the washing machine is on the go, fresh dried washing cant beat that fresh smell, simple things eh lol x
I am doing ok thank you for asking
Hope you have a good day both of you xx
Hi,
I'm just wondering how long after sentencing did visor visit?
My sons dad was sentenced early March and he's signed onto SOR, sees probation every week... But hasn't heard from visor yet?
Thank you
Xx
I'm just wondering how long after sentencing did visor visit?
My sons dad was sentenced early March and he's signed onto SOR, sees probation every week... But hasn't heard from visor yet?
Thank you
Xx
Hiya Hun.
We went to the Magistrates court on the Tuesday, where he pleaded guilty.
We went to the police station on the Wednesday and signed the SOR. They quoted be in touch in a couple of weeks.
The Friday knock at the door Visor team. Just wanted to take some notes make sure if i and hubby where ok etc. Said be In touch again soon.
xx
We went to the Magistrates court on the Tuesday, where he pleaded guilty.
We went to the police station on the Wednesday and signed the SOR. They quoted be in touch in a couple of weeks.
The Friday knock at the door Visor team. Just wanted to take some notes make sure if i and hubby where ok etc. Said be In touch again soon.
xx
Hiya Lee.
I hope you are well hun.
Yes the visor team came around really quickly.
Surprised us really thought it was another knock.
They where supposed to pop around this week but with them being short of staff and covid in the office no show so doing it next week.
They said to hubby just a quick chat to make sure we are ok. Very low profile
xx
I hope you are well hun.
Yes the visor team came around really quickly.
Surprised us really thought it was another knock.
They where supposed to pop around this week but with them being short of staff and covid in the office no show so doing it next week.
They said to hubby just a quick chat to make sure we are ok. Very low profile
xx
Yes they said at first every 3 months but then would be every 6 months.
I asked about being plan clothed police and said definitely.
I also asked about because we where new to the area what to expect from people and they said nothing because nobody knows about it here as the case is in the south.
xx
I asked about being plan clothed police and said definitely.
I also asked about because we where new to the area what to expect from people and they said nothing because nobody knows about it here as the case is in the south.
xx
Hey.
He was sentenced March 14th. For extreme porn (animals no iioc). 5 years SOR, and 3 years probation.
He signed on SOR within the 3 days.
And he's in contact weekly with probation, but hasn't heard from visor(?).
Thanks.
Xx
He was sentenced March 14th. For extreme porn (animals no iioc). 5 years SOR, and 3 years probation.
He signed on SOR within the 3 days.
And he's in contact weekly with probation, but hasn't heard from visor(?).
Thanks.
Xx
Hiya Brokendreams.
Sorry I didn't get back to you sooner.
My hubby went to sign the SOR and within 2 days popped around. I think it was just a hello we are who we are etc trip.
My hubby is facing 8 x charges. 3x possession 3x making and 2x extreme images totalling 8. For 23 images over all categories
xx
Sorry I didn't get back to you sooner.
My hubby went to sign the SOR and within 2 days popped around. I think it was just a hello we are who we are etc trip.
My hubby is facing 8 x charges. 3x possession 3x making and 2x extreme images totalling 8. For 23 images over all categories
xx
Hiya Brokendreams.
Sorry I didn't get back to you sooner.
My hubby went to sign the SOR and within 2 days popped around. I think it was just a hello we are who we are etc trip.
My hubby is facing 8 x charges. 3x possession 3x making and 2x extreme images totalling 8. For 23 images over all categories
xx
Sorry I didn't get back to you sooner.
My hubby went to sign the SOR and within 2 days popped around. I think it was just a hello we are who we are etc trip.
My hubby is facing 8 x charges. 3x possession 3x making and 2x extreme images totalling 8. For 23 images over all categories
xx
Had our first visor visit today (technically yesterday I suppose)
I was home early due to the dentist otherwise would not have been in.
2 ladies knocked, I checked camera and thought it was ss getting back involved so left it but then thought best get it over and done with.
They asked for hubbie and my heart just exploded, showed me their ID and if my son hadn't been at the side of me I think I'd have just broken down, think they could see that and said it's nothing to worry about, so regained my self and thanks to this forum I then remembered about visor, asked them if that was them and it was.
Anyway h wasnt in but I asked them in anyway so I could calm down.
The 2 ladies were lovely, we spoke for a bit about what they do and actually h then arrived home so they stayed and did his first visit.
As people have said, it was fact finding, height, weight, tattoos, photos, alcohol, smoking, hobbies, next of kin. Hardest part was then asking him in his own words what had happened and hearing him talk about past trauma and then porn addiction that spiraled but also he then spoke about what he's done since to "recover"
They did seem to really care and that took me by surprise as I didn't think anyone would have any care for us or h due to his actions. They said will probably only be back once sentencing has been completed in mid Dec but left contacts if we have any questions in the mean time.
Am I just been overly niave that they will always be supportive or should I be on my guard (like with original officers, got burnt there at the beginning but quickly learnt and saw the signs thanks again to this forum )
I was home early due to the dentist otherwise would not have been in.
2 ladies knocked, I checked camera and thought it was ss getting back involved so left it but then thought best get it over and done with.
They asked for hubbie and my heart just exploded, showed me their ID and if my son hadn't been at the side of me I think I'd have just broken down, think they could see that and said it's nothing to worry about, so regained my self and thanks to this forum I then remembered about visor, asked them if that was them and it was.
Anyway h wasnt in but I asked them in anyway so I could calm down.
The 2 ladies were lovely, we spoke for a bit about what they do and actually h then arrived home so they stayed and did his first visit.
As people have said, it was fact finding, height, weight, tattoos, photos, alcohol, smoking, hobbies, next of kin. Hardest part was then asking him in his own words what had happened and hearing him talk about past trauma and then porn addiction that spiraled but also he then spoke about what he's done since to "recover"
They did seem to really care and that took me by surprise as I didn't think anyone would have any care for us or h due to his actions. They said will probably only be back once sentencing has been completed in mid Dec but left contacts if we have any questions in the mean time.
Am I just been overly niave that they will always be supportive or should I be on my guard (like with original officers, got burnt there at the beginning but quickly learnt and saw the signs thanks again to this forum )
I have spoken to 5 different members of the local visor team over the past 3 years. All 5 have been really supportive. My husband was a complete mess for the first year after it all happened, in one of the first couple of visits, one of them said to him, 'you've done what you've done, you've paid the price and we're here to help you move forward not to punish you more'.
However, I think it depends on the individual offender. There will always be those small minorities who take the mick, who try and get away with offending again. Initially they don't know whether your person is going to be one of those types or not. They have a job to do, and they are wary of public backlash if someone re-offends and they didn't see it coming.
i will say, I have read some shocking things on other forums about visor visits, so there's always going to be some less pleasant ones out there. However I haven't seen that with the ones I've encountered.
I used to be really anxious about their visits, initially they were monthly and I could predict to the week when they were going to turn up it was that regular. Now they are a lot less regular and it's almost a pleasant surprise when they turn up.
NMS - I think it was good that you invited them in and chatted for a bit. Hopefully it gave you some understanding, but also it shows them that your person not only has someone in their support network but also that is taking an interest in what their role is. They see so many with no support network, and the re-offending rates for those who have a good support network are significantly lower.
However, I think it depends on the individual offender. There will always be those small minorities who take the mick, who try and get away with offending again. Initially they don't know whether your person is going to be one of those types or not. They have a job to do, and they are wary of public backlash if someone re-offends and they didn't see it coming.
i will say, I have read some shocking things on other forums about visor visits, so there's always going to be some less pleasant ones out there. However I haven't seen that with the ones I've encountered.
I used to be really anxious about their visits, initially they were monthly and I could predict to the week when they were going to turn up it was that regular. Now they are a lot less regular and it's almost a pleasant surprise when they turn up.
NMS - I think it was good that you invited them in and chatted for a bit. Hopefully it gave you some understanding, but also it shows them that your person not only has someone in their support network but also that is taking an interest in what their role is. They see so many with no support network, and the re-offending rates for those who have a good support network are significantly lower.
Thank you.
Yes she said its great he had a support network and a job as these things help to move on and ensure dark places are not revisited.
They both seemed really really nice and I wasn't expecting it.
I like the words they said to your person, they do need to hear out from others I think that they can move on and have a life afterwards.
Yes she said its great he had a support network and a job as these things help to move on and ensure dark places are not revisited.
They both seemed really really nice and I wasn't expecting it.
I like the words they said to your person, they do need to hear out from others I think that they can move on and have a life afterwards.