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Heart!

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Heart!

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Posted Wed May 11, 2022 7:42amReport post

This forum really helps me get things off my chest. I struggle in saying things out loud to people so having this heat is a life saver! I know I am not all that clued up about these things and sometimes I have a big "word vomit" like my previous post last night.
I feel I can talk to you all and you all understand me. You are all so welcoming and supportive.
so a big thank you to you all and a big sorry again for my random posts.
Heart!

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Newlady

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Posted Wed May 11, 2022 10:24amReport post

Hi there, it's still very early data for you I still remember those first few weeks and months, I did help my partner and supported him, but I did break up with him. After alotttt of therapy on both sides, talking, researching, and time on this forem we are closer than ever and I do love him, I just hate what he did (communicaion), although my story is different from yiyrs all the feelings ate the same, I promise it will get easier with te. Choose what you WNa do xx

Heart!

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April 2022

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Posted Wed May 11, 2022 10:29amReport post

It's hard knowing what's the truth and what's not the truth. It's one thing going through the crime he committed but it's also another thing going through the abuse from his child hood and another thing trying to research if they are all linked together.
it's so confusing and hopefully once I have counselling they can help me understand a little more.
I have never had counselling before so I don't know what to expect. I have rang emergency helplines when I have been very low these last few weeks but that's it.
If anyone minds sharing their experiences and expectations of counselling that would be great for me to prepare myself.
thank you all

Upset mum

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Posted Wed May 11, 2022 3:06pmReport post

Heart

As already said take a deep breath and look after yourself first

It is early days and emotions will be all over the place

Have you tried the Stop it now helpline? It may take a few times to get through but just talking to someone with no judgement can really help

There is no right or wrong decision you have to do what is right for you and no one can tell you

Keep posting on here as there is always support after all we are all on the same journey just different stages xx

Newlady

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April 2021

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Posted Wed May 11, 2022 5:19pmReport post

I had counselling fur the first time, although not just about this I have a lot of other things going on in my life and my past. One thing is if you don't feel. Like it's a good fit you don't have to sieak to them, another is they are not there to judge or advise, just help you process things in your own way. It was very helpful for me and made me see things in a different light and deal with my anxiety more appropriately. Have you called the stop it helpline? Talking things through with them. May help as they have a lot of experience in this field and be very helpful x

BaffledB

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Posted Wed May 11, 2022 5:41pmReport post

Heart,

I'm so sorry you find yourself here. As the others have already said, it takes a while for things to sink in. My personal approach to this is taking everything a day at a time and telling myself I'm not stuck in this situation and can leave at any time, that does help relieve some of the pressure and anxiety. I hope your counselling goes well and you manage to ease some of your pain. It's a long process but whether you stay or leave there's lots of people on here who can testify that life is ok aftwerwards. Lots of love xx