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Heart!

Member since
April 2022

47 posts

Posted Fri May 13, 2022 12:14pmReport post

Good afternoon,

so as previously posted my partner is no longer on bail. The police are still investigating but no restrictions. I understand investigations may take a while now but what should I expect next? If they find more stuff will they re arrest? Would it just be a call to go back for an interview? Im taking all your advise on taking day by day and the last few days I have done this and actually managed to have a sort of normal conversation with my partner. I just want to try and understand/prepare myself for what is to come next.
If anyone has any thoughts or advice please let me know. Thank you all x

majestictopaz

Member since
December 2019

499 posts

Posted Fri May 13, 2022 1:03pmReport post

My understanding is they can only do another arrest if they have evidence of offending after the previous arrest. Typically the next step is another interview where the police state what they have found and that they will send to CPS, if it gets that far.

It can be a long process and you are unlikely to get many updates. It was like radio silence when my partner was under investigation. Took about one and half years from the arrest for the investigation to get real momentum and he was sentenced just over two years from the arrest.

Heart!

Member since
April 2022

47 posts

Posted Fri May 13, 2022 1:12pmReport post

Wow!!! This is just crazy to think it could take that long! I don't think it fair how long they drag it out as they the knock them most people seek help and counselling and therapy start to build their lives to then be knocked down all over again god knows how many years down the line.
They have told him it could take 12 months to look into his devices as he had so many but he insists they part of his work as he is an IT wise and builds and fixes computers etc.

This is gunna be one hell of a journey!

Heart!

Member since
April 2022

47 posts

Posted Fri May 13, 2022 3:04pmReport post

Ooo I see okay so my partner was arrested for child sex offence online and in his interview they mentioned imagines and then communication with to an adult about intentions to a child. So would that cover them both?

Ineedcoffee

Member since
April 2022

15 posts

Posted Fri May 13, 2022 10:23pmReport post

My husband was arrested last summer and bail conditions lifted after 2 months.

It took them over 9 months to look at his devices and they then arrested him again. Nothing else had happened after the initial arrest but the charges were different based on what was on the devices.

Daffodil

Member since
March 2022

965 posts

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Polly Pocket

Member since
May 2022

440 posts

Posted Sat May 14, 2022 10:26amReport post

Me too Daffs. Me too. X

Heart!

Member since
April 2022

47 posts

Posted Sat May 14, 2022 4:23pmReport post

I am so scared of this too for my parents! He is trying his best to get help and therapy and yet we have to wait and wait and wait. Feels like he sorting his life then it's gunna be boom for nothing as it will start all over again.
so sad and annoying the waiting game we all have to play.

WorseThanAnyNightmare

Member since
April 2022

82 posts

Posted Sun May 15, 2022 1:20pmReport post

I'm in the same boat as you Heart. Well, partner is on bail but expected to be rui in June.

Each day is another wait and although part of me wants it to stay that way because at least then no-one knows, neighbours, press, colleagues etc, the not knowing what exactly he's going to be charged with and what the punishment will be and the fallout from that is just unbearable.

Bitterbean

Member since
December 2021

635 posts

Posted Sun May 15, 2022 2:46pmReport post

Worsethananynightmare, I get you completely on this but we have to hold onto the fact that no matter how unbearable it may seem, we *will* bear it, we *will* survive it and we will come out ok on the other side. I also hang on to the hope that my fears for the future will probably prove to be far worse than the reality.