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Chelsea 1

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June 2021

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Posted Tue May 17, 2022 3:53pmReport post

Hello ladies.



So hubby had the Probation phone call today. We had it on speaker phone so I could take notes etc or anything that wasn't right in the phone call.



The phone call covered everything and I mean everything. From death how that affected him , our sex life, what drew him to illegal stuff and other stuff. To much to mention.



Much admit lovely lady on the phone and took there time and honest answers via hubby.



So because Magistrates said it was a open verdict she stessed that any outcome was possiable.



He took a deep breath to ask if does Probation go along with the judges and she said 99% of the time.



So probation are putting it to the judges etc that it should be a community order with attachments, unpaid work with meets and work placement meetings.



We shall see. Lots of love xx

Dexter

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November 2021

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Posted Tue May 17, 2022 4:19pmReport post

My son had exactly the same call off probation yesterday very in-depth conversation covering all angles from child hood to present day he will be 19 next week and the probation officer couldn't get it into her head that he doesn't drink alcohol she tried to say he doesn't drink it cos it gives him sexual tendencies which it doesn't he just doesn't like it as most kids from that generation are more interested in fitness we have a meeting with his barrister tomorrow and the crown on Monday

sorry by the way I'm his dad not a lady

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Chelsea 1

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June 2021

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Posted Tue May 17, 2022 4:49pmReport post

Hiya Dexter.



Good luck with the crown hopefully you get the right result and you can move on.



What are his charges if you don't mind me asking ?



xx

Upset mum

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Posted Tue May 17, 2022 5:07pmReport post

Hi Chelsea1

Everything x for hubby

I pray it does make a difference and glad the phone call went ok x

Hope you are keeping ok xx



Dexter

It is always good to hear from dads on here and how supportive you are to your son x

Chelsea 1

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June 2021

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Posted Tue May 17, 2022 5:51pmReport post

Hiya Upsetmum.



Thank you hun. Yes was a positive phone call and like I said he was honest and I still going for a suspended sentence and not community order.



We shall see.



I am doing ok yet another glass of wine tonight lol ????.



So how are doing my lovely ?



xx

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Tue May 17, 2022 6:25pmReport post

Hi Chelsea1

I could do with a lovely glass of rosa maybe the weekend I can open a bottle and probably finish it in one go lol

I'm doing ok work is keeping me busy

Hope your pain in the Ass is doing ok :-)

I have everything x for both for a better outcome xx

Chelsea 1

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June 2021

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Posted Tue May 17, 2022 7:09pmReport post

Hiya Upset mum.



Must admit he feels a bit more postive after his chat but we have to see what the judge says on the day.



xx

Blackhound

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October 2020

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Posted Tue May 17, 2022 7:10pmReport post

Glad it went well Chelsea, how long did the call last?

ScaredLamb

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May 2021

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Posted Tue May 17, 2022 8:53pmReport post

Hi

Sounds really positive. My hubby has magistrates on Thursday. When was your magistrates and when in sentencing? Just to get an idea as to when the call will be. Also was the call scheduled or did they randomly call? Hubby is still working at the moment and so we will need to fit it around then.



keeping everything crossed for you.

Chelsea 1

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June 2021

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Posted Wed May 18, 2022 9:00amReport post

Hiya Blackhound.



The call was around 1 hour 20 minutes.



xx

Chelsea 1

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Posted Wed May 18, 2022 9:03amReport post

Hiya Scaredlamb.



Hubby had magistrates on 3 May 22, then signed on SOR the next day. Visor team 2 days later and then 17 May 22 Probation call. Crown court 1 June 22.

xx

Chelsea 1

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June 2021

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Posted Thu May 26, 2022 10:56amReport post

Another chat today with Probation on about Work and Diversity and his past and future work plans.



Call only lasted 20 mins.



Xx

Jayjay

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Posted Thu May 26, 2022 2:35pmReport post

Any advice on finding a new job Chelsea? X

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Blackhound

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Posted Thu May 26, 2022 3:24pmReport post

Interesting your partner has had two calls... My partner had theirs this morning and it lasted only 45 minuets... He covered a massive amount of ground though from previous suxpa history and instances of what could be considered grooming by an older women to undiagnosed depression and therapy...

It was actually quite heart breaking to hear his previous grooming story and how it was a reflection on what he did to land him in this situation...Made my blood boil.

But the guy did speed him through it... He is also going to contact his current therapist and chat with her...

How did the call today go for your partner ?

Upset mum

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Posted Thu May 26, 2022 3:47pmReport post

Hi Chelsea1

Hope you are both doing ok x

That was a quick call, hopefully they gave some ideas on work?x

Chelsea 1

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June 2021

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Posted Thu May 26, 2022 7:37pmReport post

Hiya Jayjay.



They just wanted to know about he inclusion and diversity.



Wanted to know what work he was in etc and what kind of work he could do without a dbs check. Xx

Chelsea 1

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June 2021

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Posted Thu May 26, 2022 7:41pmReport post

Hiya Blackhound.



The first call last week was a fully open chat about the world and he's wife and what he done to get to this part and where he wants to go in the future etc.

This call was about inclusion and diversity, colour , sex you name it and what kind of job he did do and jobs he wants to do. But this call only lasted he 10 mins.



xx

Chelsea 1

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June 2021

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Posted Thu May 26, 2022 7:44pmReport post

Hiya Upsetmum.



How are you my lovely ?



We are not to bad thank you. Hubby on a bit of a downer at the moment thinking about prison but I keep on saying come on.



How's boy wonder coping my lovely ?



Yer the chat was about what work he did and what work he can do in the future and she even asked if he got community service what could he do. Well she did say she was putting it down on his papers for the judge. Got to mean something ?
xx

Upset mum

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Posted Thu May 26, 2022 8:32pmReport post

Evening Chelsea1

Ahh its awful when they are on a downer but he has to try to keep his chin up (easier said than done) hopefully next week you will both know what the outcome will be and I have everything x for you both xx

My son is doing ok and he is more settled where he has been moved to than he ever was on remand so it keeps my anxiety at bay x

We have a long way to go but we will get through this x

We have a visit booked for this Sunday I havent seen him in 4 weeks since sentancing so a long awaited hug for him , it's just over a 2 hr drive bit visiting is for 2 hrs xx

Chelsea 1

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June 2021

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Posted Thu May 26, 2022 8:37pmReport post

Hiya Upsetmum.



Yes we need over and done with so we can move on with our lives.



Had a chat with my late mum last night, few tears and she said everything will be ok. So that will do me.



If you don't mind me asking lovely how long has he got and what for. Sorry to ask ..

xx

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Fri May 27, 2022 3:34pmReport post

Hi Chelsea1

Aww bless you x it must be a comfort talking to her x she will always be around to guide you even in after life xx

My sons sentance is what it is , he did wrong and has to serve his time, however difficult it is but we will be there every step of the way, I wont go in to detail not because i am ashamed but because I know how much you would worry as said before not one single journey on here has the same outcome no matter what out loved ones have done x

You have to focus on you and next week you will hopefully know what you have to deal with xxx

Chelsea 1

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June 2021

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Posted Fri May 27, 2022 6:33pmReport post

Hiya hunni.



Yes she was a big comfort in my life and miss her very much as bascailly on my own with hubby.



Hope your visit goes well with your son lovely.



Take care xx

Upset mum

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Posted Fri May 27, 2022 6:48pmReport post

Chelsea1

You will never be on your own here

We are here for both of you

xx

Chelsea 1

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Posted Fri May 27, 2022 7:18pmReport post

Hiya hun.



That means a lot. Thank you.



xx

sadmum

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Posted Fri May 27, 2022 9:45pmReport post

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Chelsea 1

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Posted Sun May 29, 2022 4:48pmReport post

Hiya Sadmum.



They came around about 2 days after hubby signed the SOR. There just wanted a chat and nothing else.



The next time we see them will be after sentencing and then give his device details.



xx

sadmum

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