Planning ahead - advice please
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Hi all, we're in a period of limbo - things are calm and as OK as they can be, but I have that nagging feeling that any day now the whole thing is going to detonate again!
My son got the knock May 21, second interview in December and is still awaiting charges. He's seeing a specialist therapist and is rebuilding his life in terms of his degree studies which he's managed to continue, and is working hard at a part-time job (I'd almost say I was proud of him but that's stretching things a little under the circumstances!!). We have a solicitor who is something of a specialist in this field but I want to make sure that all my ducks are in a row for when the charges come.
So......what should I be doing right now? I read so much on this wonderful forum and my brain is a little overloaded. Should we be putting together a character reference? Is there anything else that I/he can do?
Huge thanks xx
My son got the knock May 21, second interview in December and is still awaiting charges. He's seeing a specialist therapist and is rebuilding his life in terms of his degree studies which he's managed to continue, and is working hard at a part-time job (I'd almost say I was proud of him but that's stretching things a little under the circumstances!!). We have a solicitor who is something of a specialist in this field but I want to make sure that all my ducks are in a row for when the charges come.
So......what should I be doing right now? I read so much on this wonderful forum and my brain is a little overloaded. Should we be putting together a character reference? Is there anything else that I/he can do?
Huge thanks xx
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Evening Lola53
I would second what Daffodil has said about you feeling proud of your son for what he is doing , x
The limbo stage is always the worst part but as much as we dread the day of court it needs to happen just so you know what you have to face xx
There is no harm in having the references done and also has your son done an accoutabity letter?
If he has been in contact with LFF they can also do a letter to advise he has spoke with them and if he has a therapist you could ask for them to.do a report xx
I would second what Daffodil has said about you feeling proud of your son for what he is doing , x
The limbo stage is always the worst part but as much as we dread the day of court it needs to happen just so you know what you have to face xx
There is no harm in having the references done and also has your son done an accoutabity letter?
If he has been in contact with LFF they can also do a letter to advise he has spoke with them and if he has a therapist you could ask for them to.do a report xx
Daffodil and Upset - thank you both for replying and for your positivity, much appreciated.
When you talk about character reference, is this something that I should be writing or do we need involvement from other people? And what's an accountability letter? xx
When you talk about character reference, is this something that I should be writing or do we need involvement from other people? And what's an accountability letter? xx
Hi Lola53
An accountability letter is written or (typed) as my son was in remand he had to write his, he wrote how he sorry for his actions to the victims and how it impacted us his family, what work he has been doing to address his behaviour and wrote about himself why he went down this awful journey x
A character reference is done by you and any family member, friends etc it has to be factual and not emotional (that was so hard) again what sort of a person my son is how he was before this,and how he is since the knock what he has done to get help and the impact to us, nothing about his crimes or what I think he should get and I also mentioned how sorry I was for the impact to the victims xx
An accountability letter is written or (typed) as my son was in remand he had to write his, he wrote how he sorry for his actions to the victims and how it impacted us his family, what work he has been doing to address his behaviour and wrote about himself why he went down this awful journey x
A character reference is done by you and any family member, friends etc it has to be factual and not emotional (that was so hard) again what sort of a person my son is how he was before this,and how he is since the knock what he has done to get help and the impact to us, nothing about his crimes or what I think he should get and I also mentioned how sorry I was for the impact to the victims xx
Upset Mum - you're an angel, thank you for taking the time to reply. Hope you're OK xx
Lola53
Not a problem x
I am doing ok thank you for asking
Hope you are all ok xx
Not a problem x
I am doing ok thank you for asking
Hope you are all ok xx
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Hi Maij, thank you for your lovely message - I often think of you too and hope that things are OK. How is your son and how are you? I've had a little bit of a wobble the last week or so and am going to see a therapist next week - I think I just need to talk a lot and get things off my chest! I have two friends who know the situation and are great but I don't want to burden them too much and sometimes you just need to say the same things on repeat if you know what I mean!
Thank you for the advice - much appreciated. What sort of word count should the reference be?
Great big hugs to you too xx
Thank you for the advice - much appreciated. What sort of word count should the reference be?
Great big hugs to you too xx
Hi Lola53
I would keep it to one A4 piece of paper ( it's hard but if you do to many sheets it then becomes a skim the letter rather than read it) hope that makes sense x
Hope you are all doing ok x
I would keep it to one A4 piece of paper ( it's hard but if you do to many sheets it then becomes a skim the letter rather than read it) hope that makes sense x
Hope you are all doing ok x
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